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to spy on my dh?

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mrsnosy · 25/05/2009 23:09

I have namechanged because I'm a little bit embarresed about this.

I received a letter from my kids secondary school telling us we were entitled to a free trial of "cybersentinel" to protect and monitor our dcs computer usage.

It occured to me, could I instead use it to monitor my hubbys usage?

Or what that be a horrible invasion of privacy.

Anyone got any experience of "cybersentinel"? anyway.

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mayorquimby · 26/05/2009 15:07

think long and hard before you check his phone. it's a very serious breach of trust and if i found out my OH did it to me i don't think i could stay with them.

luvoneson · 26/05/2009 21:15

I would snoop, because i'm extremely nosey. I look at text messages on dh phone as well

foofi · 26/05/2009 21:21

lots of MNers are trialling cybersentinel here

RumourOfAHurricane · 26/05/2009 21:25

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TheProfiteroleThief · 26/05/2009 21:27

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mayorquimby · 27/05/2009 10:03

oh of course it's serious shinon, and definitely by far far far the greater of the two evils.
but throughout the thread the op has been thinking of spying on her husband. at first it was put forward as though she was just nosey and was doing it just because she could and she wanted to.
then it seems she has worries about his fidelities but has no real reasons to other than a hunch.
now for me i'd want to think long and hard bout this hunch before i went down a road that might be very difficult to come back from. nothing else.

ilovemydogandmrobama · 27/05/2009 10:08

How does one check a mobile phone? Just calls and missed calls?

jasper · 27/05/2009 10:15

it's a horrible invasion of privacy

maltesers · 27/05/2009 10:25

Here , Here, Shineoncrazy !!! I would ........
MRSNOSY ..He (your dp) can technically look at what he likes as an adult, but hell dam, if you suspect he is up to no good then go for it.

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mrsnosy · 31/05/2009 23:26

is it normal for a dh not to have any messages stored on his mobile phone. Ever. Almost as if he deletes all messages religiously?

Is it normal for a dh to pull up outside the house every day and to be on the phone and fiddling with his phone for 5 minutes before he comes in?

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mumeeee · 01/06/2009 13:49

It's ok to monitor your kids because you want to keep them safe. It is not ok to monitor your Dh he is an adult and it would be an invasion of his privacy. How would you like it if he wee to monitor you?

FabulousBakerGirl · 01/06/2009 13:53

If he has always done it, then yes, it could be normal for your dh.

TBH you sound very mixed up and I think you need to talk to him.

Out it to him about getting this softwear (for the kids) and see what he says.

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