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to now be farking livid because i think dsd has got ringworm?

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idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 09:53

Posted a thread about dsd's school on Friday, can't find it now so won't link. Basically, school sent a letter home on Tuesday saying that 3 children in her year had ringworm and to keep an eye out but not to keep your child at home if they get it.
More and more cases were confirmed everyday, by the time she came home on Friday she was clutching a letter stating that 23 children now had it.

Her yr have swimming at the moment on a Friday, i called the school and told them that dsd was not allowed to go swimming this week as they were allowing all the affected children to carry on swimming and there was clearly a fast spreading outbreak going on.

School were quite rude about it but agreed that dsd would not go swimming, there were a few others whose parents had said the same so they had made arrangements for them to stay at the school and do an outside pe session with another yr.

Some of the parents of the infected children were saying on Wednesday that they wouldn't bother treating until the halfterm....
As far as i am aware the policy is that children who are infected are allowed into school as long as they ARE being treated.
my original thread was basically asking if IABU to expect the school to send these children home.

DSD came home on Friday and told us that she was sent swimming, apparently her teacher told her they couldn't "muck about with lots of arrangements".
Yesterday morning she got up and had a patch of raised red bumps on the inside of her thigh.
This morning it has spread to the inside of both thighs and has moved right down to her knees.

I am fucking livid. And i don't even know if i am being reasonable to be livid.

DSD is now itching like mad, the heat this weekend is making it worse obviously.
DP and I both started new jobs within the last couple of weeks and will now have to beg and plead with new bosses to take time off as DSD cannot attend holiday clubs or childminder with ringworm. (neither of us begrudge having time off with either of our children by the way, but it is going to be really awkward come Tuesday to try and negotiate time off after such a very short time of employment)
DD has severe psoriasis which causes her a lot of pain and embarrassment. (think 90% covered in cracked bleeding skin that looks like burn scars), i am terrified that she will now get ringworm as well which will be a sodding disaster as a; it will be nigh on impossible to tell if she has it and b; the treatment cream will probably hurt her.

If any of you have any experience of ringworm i would be very grateful for advice by the way.

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BradfordMum · 24/05/2009 10:01

How did she go swimming without her cossie?
I too would be livid, and very annoyed with the school.
I think a strong fly worded letter to the head and governors is in order.

idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 10:05

Her swimming gear is kept at school in place of normal pe kit. You just send in a clean towel every week and the used one comes back IYSWIM.

What's a fly worded letter? Is it guaranteed more of a reaction?
(am kidding)

Yes i think i am going to write to the head at least. It is really bothering me because apparently it takes a while to get rid of and it is clearly quite a nasty outbreak now.

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MIAonline · 24/05/2009 10:14

I would not be happy that they had agreed to not send her swimming and they sent her as the main issue tbh. They have no right to allow her to go swimming without your permission and you had a very good reason to not allow her as far as I can see, though know very little about ringworm.

Also if childminder and holiday clubs won't allow children with ringworm , then this must be because there is some sort of exclusion period for children with ringworm, so in that case the children should have been sent home until treated, especially as the case was obviously so infectious.

TBH, the school sound as though they have handled it pretty badly.

PuppyMonkey · 24/05/2009 10:23

I would be going to school on Mon to have a bit of a rant tbh.

Having said that, it's only ringworm, not the plague. Chill. Bit of cream from the docs will deal with it.

idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 10:26

yeah i know it's not the plague, it's more the consequences of it. It's a fungal infection that spreads really easily so we've had to cancel her playdate today for example, affects work and outings next week for half term etc etc.

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flamingobingo · 24/05/2009 10:33

YANBU to be cross the school went against your wishes - that is out of order.

But YABU to be so flipping het up about a bit of ringworm!

smudgethepuppydog · 24/05/2009 10:42

I'd be questioning the school's hygiene procedures. I've worked in schools and childcare settings for a long time now and dealt with odd cases of Ringworm many, many times but never have I heard of it spreading like this. I can understand how your DSD contracted it with an underlying skin condition but all the rest of those kids? No. We had a case in class recently and no-one else contracted it not even the staff who deal with inimate changes every day.

BradfordMum · 24/05/2009 10:50

darn iphone!

Strong fly = strongly!

Yes it is only ringworm. But it will affect the whole holidays for the op and her dd.

I take some of you don't have children!

macdoodle · 24/05/2009 10:53

Oh please its only ringworm I think you are all out of proportion!!
DOH guidelines advice NO school exclusion so I would assume that means CM's and holiday clubs surely!
Not sure exactly what you would have had the school done, exclude the affected children?? (nice like they were nasty ) or perhaps close the school!
you are being silly and selfish IMO!!

flamingobingo · 24/05/2009 10:53

Yup - got four, thank you very much.

Don't see why it has to affect the whole holidays, unless you're really precious. Just cover it up with a big plaster - it only spreads by contact, and even if it does, it's not going to kill anyone, or even make them ill!

Would the OP stay at home all week if her DD had a bit of a cold?

macdoodle · 24/05/2009 10:54

I am a GP WITH 2 children FWIW - and I still think the OP is overreacting - why cabt she just do her normal stuff - seriously its RINGWORM not the plague

wotulookinat · 24/05/2009 11:02

YABU. It is only ringworm. It's just a fungal thing, like Athlete's Foot, not an actual worm. Kids catch things from other kids - it's part of being a child.

whiskersonkittens · 24/05/2009 11:17

Mine had ringworm for weeks and I did not know as it started as a tiny red patch and grew very slowly. Find it strange it came up so quickly, and to my recollection it is more raw skin in a ring shape (once it grew bigger) than red bumps - are you sure she has ringworm - I would get her to the GP to check it out

I do agree tho that she should not have gone swimming without your consent when the school had agreed not to

idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 11:56

Took her to the walk in centre and they confirmed ringworm.
Im not being silly or selfish. The guidelines state not to exclude if the child is being treated.
The children i thought should have stayed away were NOT being treated.
Gp at walk in centre thought that it was odd that the affected children were still allowed to swim.

If you read my op i do say the reasons why i'm so bothered. Ihave two dc.
Dsd age 8 and dd also8. Dd has severe psoriasis, ring worm pn top of that will be nasty for her. And v difficult to treat.
Childminder and holiday clubs will not accept a child with ringworm, we have no family nearby therefore will have to take time off work,

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ellingwoman · 24/05/2009 12:01

What are swimming pool guidelines about ringworm? Do you catch it from others in the water?

What I mean is - should the school have been going to the pool anyway? If it's catching I wouldn't want to be in a pool after a ringworm'd class had been in it

idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 12:05

Sorry hit post instead of return.

I know its not the plague, its the consequences of the schools crapness and some parents refusal to treat it that is making me cross.
I know its not life threatening blah blah and i realise that dsd could have got it anyway, but it fucks me off that the parents of some of those affected simply cant be bothered to treat it and it further fucks me off that the school ignored our wishes re swimming. I did offer to go and get dsd early if missing swimming would be an issue staffing and logistics wise.

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smudgethepuppydog · 24/05/2009 12:07

The ringworm infection would not survive in a properly treated pool.

idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 12:09

Its a fungal infection ellingwoman. According to nhs direct you shouldn't swim with it. Gp at walk in centre said the same.

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hatesponge · 24/05/2009 12:13

YANBU

I can only think that al those who have posted 'tsh, its only a bit of ringworm' either a) dont have a DC with a pre-existing serious skin condition like your DD, or b) have never tried to arrange childcare for a child with ringworm. Childminders, clubs etc just won't allow children with any infectious condition.

The school sound particularly clueless. Did no-one there think that with half term approaching, allowing it to spread around would put some people (like the OP) in a very difficult situation WRT to childcare etc?

smudgethepuppydog · 24/05/2009 12:18

But there is no need for children to stay away from childcare provision once treatment has begun (as it has in your case). Once treatment has started it is no longer infectious. If you've got to keep her away until it's healed you could be in for a very long wait.

idranktheteaatwork · 24/05/2009 12:25

Both childminder and holiday club have said they wont have the kids because although dsd is being treated, we dont know if dd is infected so they are both saying it could be spread unwittingly if you see what i mean. If both were already being treated and it was kept covered they would allow both to attend. Bit annoying but i can see their point and dont want it to spread further if i can help it.

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stuffitlllama · 24/05/2009 12:42

yanbu

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PuppyMonkey · 24/05/2009 13:04

I have had ringworm. I used a cream and it went overnight.

wotulookinat · 24/05/2009 13:29

I've had it too and it although it took a long time to go away, I never thought of it being a problem, and no-one in my house got it from me.

fourkids · 24/05/2009 13:39

OP your outlook on this is obviouly stronger because of your other DC's skin condition.

And FWIW I think the school were bang out of order making her swim when you had arranged with them that she wouldn't.

But on the whole...not sure how to express...once the mother of one of DD's friends approached me a little embarrassedly in the playground. She said her DD seemed to have ringworm and would it still be okay for my DD to go to her DD's party the following weekend? I said: 'I've got a whole houseful of DCs - if I got my knickers in a twist about ringworm, headlice, colds, chicken pox, thraedworm etc etc I'd be a nervous wreck and we'd never go anywhere. they are all either self limiting or treatable!'

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