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AIBU?

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to think this women is a complete moo??

43 replies

6inchnipples · 20/05/2009 22:29

There is a mother at my ds preschool. She is always going on about how 'perfect' her kids are. They are very quiet, shy perhaps, but to the point that i find them almost rude as they never answer when you speak to them. My kids are spirited, creative, cheeky, independant, wilful and sometimes downright naughty but she goes on like 'oh x would never do that (something my child is doing) X has always been perfect' It really winds me up.

Another thing she does that pisses me off. I got a breastfeeding bag thingy when preg from m/w, i ask her did u get one?? She says 'no i dont breastfeed, i prefer the idea of bottle feeding so my husband and i can share it'. I doubt the m/w was only handing out bags to those that were intending to breast feed

Latest annoyance. I mention giving kids their milk before bed. She asks 'oh do you still give them milk before bed' (They are all under 5)i say i do and so she tells me her child is not allowed anything to drink after dinner, i ask what if she is thirsty would you let her have a little water? I don't think so she says, it might make her get up in the night and i'm not having that.

I just find this fucking cruel. Is a drink of water not a human right? And getting up in the night? is that not just part of being a parent?

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ProstetnicVogonJeltz · 20/05/2009 22:30

she's a mental control freak. the kids will rebel and get piercings and light fires when they're teenagers. then you can laugh.

MaureenMLove · 20/05/2009 22:33

See, I'd have to deliberating make up stories about my kids to make her even more . But I'm sick like that! She is indeed a complete moo! And I think that is a very polite description of the crazy old bat!

MaureenMLove · 20/05/2009 22:33

WTH! Deliberating? I mean deliberately, of course!

paisleyleaf · 20/05/2009 22:35

I've never been comfortable when I hear that small children are having their evening drinks limited.

liahgen · 20/05/2009 22:36

has she only the one and is it her first?

I ask cos I was a bit like that with my 1st, (was a nanny for 12 yrs previously in my defense)

perfect first child I had

ds was sent to teach me a lesson for being so smug 2yrs 7 mths later.

Don't worry, iot'll come to her,

oodlesofpoodles · 20/05/2009 22:36

They probably don't speak because they don't have enough saliva. Very mean to not let them drink anything. Why can't they just go and pee by themselves at night?

tw1nkley · 20/05/2009 22:36

This is something I don't get either. If you deprived a dog of water through the night wouldn't the RSPCA have something to say about that? My kids have always had a water bottle next to the bed... agree with prost - control freak. Wait for it all to fall apart when they hit their teens. Feel sorry for the kids tho...

liahgen · 20/05/2009 22:37

didn't read properly, she has more than one.

Agree with the limiting of drinks, not kind imo.

Greensneeze · 20/05/2009 22:37

She sounds like a selfish lazy bitch to me. It's much easier to have kids who are so cowed they are too perfect to speak

my mother/stepfuckwit did the withholding drinks thing. No water with a meal, however dry, because "you're not filling up on water so you don't eat your food". No drinks in the evening "you'll be peeing all night". No drinks stops on long journeys "oh give over fgs". I still remember feeling quite desperate trying to swallow hunks of stale dry sandwich without any water. I wouldn't treat a dog like that. If my kids are thirsty, they drink ffs.

and the getting up in the night thing - she is just bone idle and selfish! my mother did this too - you'd tiptoe to the toilet in terror, step on a creaky floorboard and "GET BACK TO F**ING BED!!!!!" No wonder I wet the bed till I was 8

if she comes out with this shit again, just say "Yes, I can see you need your beauty sleep"

Heated · 20/05/2009 22:38

liahgen, that's me too!

smuggery ds1

oh buggery dd2

mollymawk · 20/05/2009 22:40

Going against the flow here I think YABU. And completely oversensitive.
She has very shy children. She likes to talk about good things they do. She chose not to breastfeed. Maybe she isn't very good at expressing herself. That's it.

ingles2 · 20/05/2009 22:40

YANBU she is a complete moo, I bet she's full of shit as well and her kids are perfectly normal and give her the complete runaround when she's at home. Not that she will ever admit to that

Heated · 20/05/2009 22:43

come on, she doesn't really use the word 'perfect' in relation to her child, does she?

It's just differences, not one-upmanship surely.

Tidey · 20/05/2009 22:43

I don't really understand your second point. Are you angry that she doesn't want to breastfeed or that she thought the packs were only given to people who were intending to do so? Either way, I don't get why it would make you cross.

The other things make her sound rather horrible though.

tw1nkley · 20/05/2009 22:44

My sister used to do the no drinks at night thing and I pointed out the "wouldn't do it to a dog thing" They now have cups on the nightstand.

Didnt someone recently prove that limiting intake in the evening means your kidneys filter slower and make you more likely need to pee in the night, am sure overheard hv saying so to woman at clinic recently... Think I will ask her after half term...

ingles2 · 20/05/2009 22:44

nah.. you're being far too nice molly

SlartyBartFast · 20/05/2009 22:46

exactly, you need to stretch your bladder,
drink plenty .

liahgen · 20/05/2009 22:48

heated

smuggery dc1

oh buggery dc2

oh just give it to him/her dc's 3, 4 and 5.

It is frustrating though isn't it, my best friend has a dd, (just 4) who will not speak to anyone, I've known her since before she was born and it's only these past 6 mths or so that she's come out of her shell with me. Lovely child, just painfully painfully shy.

6inchnipples · 20/05/2009 22:49

Replies are all fucking hilarious, i'm glad everyone seems to agree that she is not very nice. I did ask if her child would not just manage to the loo by herself to which she replied 'no i'm not having that either, i don't want her up in the night' ,

Love the beauty sleep line .. must remember it!!

I actually wonder if this women has some real issues. She is always asking if i get much exercise (er nope i prefer tea and biscuits whilst shufflin round the floor with my naughty kids who drink excessively before bed like their mother!!) and she is very skinny, she never comes to the baby groups as doesn't like that kind of thing and prefers gettin some exercise. Control and eating disorders are related no?

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screamingabdab · 20/05/2009 22:49

She has no common sense - even if one thinks one's kids are perfect one does not voice it

Karma will come along and give her a nightmare of a second child.

MrsFlittersnoop · 20/05/2009 22:53

Why do you let this stuff get to you? She is obviously very insecure to brag like this and she does things differently to you, that's all.

I'd take the "don't let the DC's drink after dinner" with a huge pinch of salt if I were you. Honestly, you'll find out that ALL parents (even mumsnetters! ) bullshit each other about their DCs routines/school reports/eating habits etc. etc.

sobanoodle · 20/05/2009 22:55

don't let it get to you. if I don't share someone's parenting values I mentally shrug and think "oh well" and move on. Life's too short.

6inchnipples · 20/05/2009 22:56

She does use the exact word 'perfect'.. all the things i've said are her 'word for word'.

The breast feeding thing is just an example of what she is like. Its just my opinion but i think that women who don't at least 'try' breast feeding are a bit selfish when we know that is what is 'best' Its not fucking easy and i'm not a breast feeding maniac but i think its worth trying. It doesn't make me angry that she doesn't do it i just think its an example of her selfishness. But it was the lack of water that i was at not the breast feeding, that is personal choice (my opinion aside) but the no water rule is just horrible.

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SlartyBartFast · 20/05/2009 22:57

she sounds very old fashioned don't you think

cheesesarnie · 20/05/2009 22:59

being skinny doesnt mean she has an eating disorder!

i get fed up with perfect people with perfect children.surely it must be a tad boring?just tell her to piss off.

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