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Original poster

to be horrifeid at this lady on BBC2 who only sees her kid for 2 mins a day.

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mumblecrumble · 19/05/2009 21:14

I don';t mean I;m judging her. I just feel so sorry that she doesn;t see the baba more.

Anyone else watching this or in same situation.

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LyraSilvertongue · 19/05/2009 21:16

What programme?
Why only two minutes?

nickytwotimes · 19/05/2009 21:17

Not watching it as it looks shite.
Would you be as appalled if it was the Father?

hazeyjane · 19/05/2009 21:22

I'm not watching, but I think I would think it very sad if a father or mother only saw their child for 2 mins a day!

chegirl · 19/05/2009 21:24

Blimey nickytwo I would be, wouldnt you?

TWO minutes a day. How is that possible? (not watching either)

MIAonline · 19/05/2009 21:25

It was 20 minutes, watching it myself.

LyraSilvertongue · 19/05/2009 21:26

DP would be very sad if he only saw DSs for two minutes a day. He works long hours but he never misses out on time with his boys if he can help it.

fucksticks · 19/05/2009 21:26

Every day? or just weekdays?
My DH sees the kids for 15 mins max in the mornings on weekdays and often doesnt see them at all. Seems fairly normal to us (lots of other families are similar - we live in commuter area!)

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mumblecrumble · 19/05/2009 21:30

Twenty minute, sorry. Yes would be as horrified if father

Tyoo, sorry.

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mumblecrumble · 19/05/2009 21:31

Still think 20 mins, whih ever sex iss depressing.

Am I unreseanable for wondering why this family don't pop their baby to baby a bit later?

[Am really not meaning to provoke or offend]

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Litchick · 19/05/2009 21:33

DH often leaves before the kids get up and arrives home 30 mins before bed. It is our normality and the same for most of our friends. The kids don't worry.
Though he is expected to be available 24/7 at weekends for them. Ditto holidays. Currently he's abroad and they're very grumpy indeed, becuas ethey won't have him over the bank holiday.

PinkTulips · 19/05/2009 21:34

how sad.... neither dp nor i could cope with that

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mumblecrumble · 19/05/2009 21:36

True. Suppose kids get used to it and form good relationships.

There was a study done in a tribe where parents hardly saw their own children ass the hunted, skilled work etc while other adults [whose skilled work was child care] had like a creche. Apprently the kids were more bonded with their genetice parents they saw less than they were with their day carers.

Presume adults miss kids more than it affects kids?

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Litchick · 19/05/2009 21:37

PT - I think DP has just got used to it. I feel very sorry for him sometimes. He gets no free time. It's either work or family. There's no time left for DP tme.

Litchick · 19/05/2009 21:38

Mumble - thats very true. DS is far closer to his Dad than me, despite the hours I spend with the little bugger.

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mumblecrumble · 19/05/2009 21:41

Aye. We try really hard for each of us to have time to ourselves without family or work. My dad was mega stressed I think as he was either work or family.

Mind you, this is cos DH works shifts and we foten play pass the baby! We try so hard to have time alone with DD, time just together and time alone..... Think this is why we are mega skint.

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mumblecrumble · 19/05/2009 21:41

Aye. We try really hard for each of us to have time to ourselves without family or work. My dad was mega stressed I think as he was either work or family.

Mind you, this is cos DH works shifts and we foten play pass the baby! We try so hard to have time alone with DD, time just together and time alone..... Think this is why we are mega skint.

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MollieO · 19/05/2009 21:45

Some days 20 mins is plenty

MIAonline · 19/05/2009 21:48

This thread links in with another, currently running
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/nurseries/758433-Would-anyone-be-interested-in-calmly-discussing-this-Times-art icles
Though, in this case, the Husband is a SAHD.

Litchick · 19/05/2009 21:50

Mumble - there's always a compromise in every family, no?
We are...not skint, but DP is time poor.
We are, I suppose, extraordinarily lucky that I am able to work from home and flexibly. It would be a very harsh existence on the DCs if we were both out all day.

jellybeans · 19/05/2009 21:52

I think as long as one parent is with the child most of the day they will be OK, mum or dad or loving granny etc. If both are out all day and spending an hour or less with the child it is very sad unless they would be destitute otherwise.

nickytwotimes · 19/05/2009 21:53

Don't get me wrong, it is very sad that any parent should see their child for such a short time.
It's just the tone of the programme.

scotagm · 19/05/2009 21:55

Mrs Pickles - 4 days a week that is me.

My Ds still knows I am his mum! He is fine and so am I. Some days I really miss him but I know all is well.

My neighbours two young kids have a SAHM and a very committed Dad who works long hours. They know that they have five weekdays and then two "daddy days". Kids learn and they just get on with it.

sazzerbear · 19/05/2009 21:56

Do you mean "Trouble with Working Women?" There is another thread on this..at least the dad is home all day with the baby...

MollieO · 19/05/2009 21:56

jellybeans I probably only see ds for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. Ds seems to be doing fine.

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