To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

[Snippets]

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

God get over yourself.

I would love to be able to have the luxury and convenience of giving my DS pre-prepared food. He has multiple food allergies, so pre-prepared is pretty much impossible. Think yourself lucky that you even have that option.

if it the OPs first post then i think the time has come for the im-post-er to step forward...come on, who is it?

rofl Squonk.

My friend likes everything prepared from scratch. Fair enough, but she makes it herself and CM just has to put the meal together.

Kalo, your earlier comment re working mothers is TOTALLY and completely unacceptable. Love the way I'm leapt upon for cooking my son fresh food and for not feeding him convenience food but you get away with a SHOCKING comment like that - mumsnet at its best.

Solidgold, it's an AIBU by stealth, the child care is a nanny not a CM

Er no Snippets, I pulled her up on that comment straight a way

Please read the thread - I clarified earlier that this person is in fact a nanny who is paid £3,000 per month net. I do most the cooking and had asked her to prepare one meal.

MillyR has returned my faith in mumsnet and it's ability to make me howl.

Cheers mi dear, its been politics and gripe all day around here [and not a bumsex thread to lurk on in sight]

Snippets, this is a serious question. How many hours do you work? HOw many meals you you prepare yourself for DS (on working days) and how do you manage without even ready made pasta? I know that sounds sarcastic, but I genuinely don't mean it to. If you read the food threads on here, you will know there are loads of mums who would love to know how you manage to prepare fresh food yourself when you are working ( you owe them that, you've just made them all feel even worse than they already do with this thread) so perhaps you could let them know how you do it?

Stopfighting said:

"But SLeepyes, surely if you are paying someone good money to look after your child it should be done in the way you desire or am I living in Cloud Cuckoo Land?"

Yes, indeed that is true. But it also needs to be made very clear to whoever is in looking after the child what the definitions are. The nanny has obviously spent her own money on buying this pasta, which is not cheap, so presumably thought she was doing a good thing.

So how would you define a meal that is freshly cooked? It's not easy. Does it mean that all the ingredients have to be fresh? Therefore does this exclude all tinned ingredients - meaning tinned tomatoes can't be used. Pesto from a jar can't be used. Something bought from the chilled cabinet in the supermarket is 'fresh'. Why is this not acceptable?

Or is it about artificial ingredients, such as E numbers etc? In which case, this also needs to be made clear.

Should all bread being used for sandwiches be freshly made?

It's a minefield here and not surprising that the nanny has stumbled into trouble.

Where is the roasting though? I'm getting one for feeding my son fresh food - doesn't follow.

oh sorry. In which case, sack her.

er, double no, snippets. I backed BALD up straight away as well.

And others probably didn't bother because we'd said it all.

am really leaving thread now, I have to go to bed so I'll have the energy to feed the chickens and collect the freshly laid eggs tomorrow (that wasn't a lie, we really do have chickens and I really will be collecting the eggs tomorrow) (although I probably don't need that much energy to do it) (but I'm still off to bed)

Snippets did you at any point sit down with your nanny and define exactly what you consider as freshly cooked? Have you specified what in the fridge she can and cannot use?

If you haven't then YABU, if you have then in the opinion of many on here you're being a bit precious but not IMO unreasonable.

No, you're getting one for being a silly smug twat who doesn;t appear to know very much about food and cooking anyway.

night sqounky

have catted you mate

MillyR ow my sides HURT from laughing. Snippets dear you are a lovely mummy but it really won't do your child any harm and trust me you WILL look back at this and laugh....

Sorry snippets you're diggning a hole for yourself here. You have a servant who has not followed one of your instructions and you want fellow mumsnetters to tell you it's OK to be annoyed? Dh is my only servant. If he doesn't do what I want I just have a bit of a huff and do it myself.

Oops, just noticed you may indeed be a troll - your only other posting is suggesting it's not reasonable to point out that cs is major surgery - I've been had!

£3000 a month net?? Really? Evidently the wages for being nanny to Baby Troll are vastly in excess of those mere mortals pay.

I'm hugely relieved - for a while I feared you were real and in possession of a child!

OP, in all seriousness, the terms 'freshly cooked' and 'pre-prepared are fairly meaningless, so the nanny hasn't knowingly gone against your wishes.

Bread is pre-prepared, as is flour, butter, cheese, jam and so on. People do not usually stuff their own ravioli in my experience. I know more people who bake their own bread than stuff their own ravioli.

And it is genuinely unsustainable to eat only fresh food. People have been preserving and pre-preparing food since people came into existence. We would have died out long ago without it.

It would be more sensible to request that you nanny serves food that is suitable for a young child's health and nutritional needs. This is far clearer than 'pre-prepared.'

AARGH!!

Whether it was stuffed pasta, or stuffed caviar, the specific food given is not the issue.

The issue which would make me uncomfortable is the fact that she has agrred to one thing, then gone and done something else.

Does no-one else see this??

The nanny did not spend her own money. She makes one meal a day, I make the other meal and breakfast takes care of itself - he either has left overs from ours or I make something especially for him. I work full time, about 55 hours a week but I find the time. And no, he has never had a jar and is still breast fed, I expressed until 12 months.

D'you know, I'll bet this one of Rhubs' windups and we've been had good n proper

How much?!!

And seriously - one meal? And why would you have an agreement about what she cooks if you do the cooking. Anyway...if you don't like it, tell her. But expect her to roll her eyes behind your back...

Snippets-reduce her salary & employ a chef (smile).