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Original poster

To be annoyed with childminder for giving DS ready made pasta?

1003 replies

Snippets · 15/05/2009 23:08

The freshly stuffed type you buy from M&S? We had an agreement that all meals would be freshly cooked. I take ages making each meal for him from scratch and have never given him pre-prepared or convenience food and bit annoyed she has.

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MillyR · 15/05/2009 23:24

I feel compelled to tell a PFB anecdote. My friend is a child minder and she had to agree to dry a PFB's bottom with a hairdryer every time she changed his nappy in order to avoid chafeing.

I never did this with my DCs. That is because I am lazy.

FreshlyFrozen · 15/05/2009 23:24

I just give mine spaghetti hoops! Heinz have been going along time and I've never heard of anyone dying......

BecauseImWorthIt · 15/05/2009 23:25

We used to share our first nanny. The second family we shared with were just like you. They specified that their PFB son was only to have unprocessed foods.

Nanny was looking after two 5 month old babies from 8 until 6.30, 5 days a week.

The mum also insisted on ringing every day to find out what they had done and what had been served for lunch.

I was working at home one day - they were based at our house, because their house was off limits. Seriously - her own son was not allowed in some rooms in their house - and heard my nanny say to her "yes, he had a lovely lunch, he had fish, potatoes and peas".

Mum was very happy.

I knew, though, that they had eaten fish fingers, Smash and frozen peas!

OK, our nanny was probably wrong to do/say this, but please - be realistic in your expectations. If you're not there all day doing the work, and if the CM is looking after other children (which is more than likely) then please cut her some slack.

Stopfighting · 15/05/2009 23:26

It seems to me that the point here is the fact that the CM has done something which she had specifically agreed not to.

Of course, in itself this particular incident not the end of the world, but would be concerned if the person looking after my baby ignored one of my requests.

Habbibu · 15/05/2009 23:26

Shitemum, stuffed pasta can be very high quality, though - homemade isn't automatically best, esp with technically tricky stuff like tortellini.

Don't know so much about M&S stuffed pasta, but as an occasional meal I imagine it is just fine.

TheLadyEvenstar · 15/05/2009 23:26

jeez ds1 and ds2 had super noodles tonight...and i never even cooked them ds1 did........oh well terrible mother award comes to me then

Original poster
Snippets · 15/05/2009 23:26

Exactly - in a very short time he can and will eat what he want. Until then I want to try and give him the best start possible with freshly prepared food. The pre-stuffed pasta you get is full of crap/overseasoned, even I feel sick when I've eaten it and, sorry, but I don't want DS eating it. I referred to DS's carer as a childminder as worried she is on here and wanted to throw her off the scent, but she is in fact his nanny who I pay a lot of money to look after him so yes, I feel totally justified in being peed off about her giving him crap.

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LadyG · 15/05/2009 23:26

How I yearn for the ready made stuffed pasta option-DS is coeliac. I am so over making fresh wholesome food from scratch for the ungratefulbuggerlittle darling..

EyeballsisonaDietAgain · 15/05/2009 23:26

I usually try to be nice and polite on MN. But I've been here a few years now and I think this might be the thread to bring out the real me I have an urge to tell the op that she's self-satisfied and smug and to fuck right off and boil her head pasta...but I won't 'cos I'm too polite.

treedelivery · 15/05/2009 23:26

MillyR - please tell me that 'aint so.

Ha haaaaar. Bloody hell!

lilolilmanchester · 15/05/2009 23:27

I work, my DCs were breast-fed til 12/13 months, they only had jars when there was no other option (like travelling and no other option) , we cook almost entirely from scratch and use minimal convenience foods. But couldn't have achieved that without ready made pasta - dried/fresh/ADSA/M&S or otherwise.
You are absolutely within your right to demand what you want for your DS - but come back to the point of either letting your childminder use ready-made pasta or TAKE YOUR OWN. She's doing nothing wrong, you asked a question, most of us are in agreement, you respond by putting us all down.

Alambil · 15/05/2009 23:27

DS had McDonalds tonight

DS also has the kids meals that I MICROWAVE from M&S - I choose those because the ingredients are real words - no chemically sounding weird stuff!!

So shoot me.

YABU and weird.

tigerdriver · 15/05/2009 23:27

errr, Shitemum

I suspect most of us are able to discern between force feeding our DC liquidized takeaways and giving them the occasional M&S pasta sauce. of course the latter isn't home cooked and might have a few additives. but you probly wouldnt make the pasta from scratch unless you had a lot of time on your hands....

BoysAreLikeDogs · 15/05/2009 23:27

FGS

AIBU complete with Stealth Reveal

I'm offski

Caitni · 15/05/2009 23:27

This thread is hilarious! Surely a spoof?

If it's not a pisstake then YABU. If you feel that strongly then send freshly home made pasta for your son to eat or get a nanny.

Habbibu · 15/05/2009 23:28

Snippets, please answer the q - do you make your own tortellini? Would you eat it from a good Italian deli? Or do you object to all stuffed pastas?

lilolilmanchester · 15/05/2009 23:28

My last post took a lot of re-writing. What I actually wanted to say is word-for-word what EyeballsisonaDietAgain wrote!

MillyR · 15/05/2009 23:28

It is true! The mother even demonstrated to the child minder the correct way to aim the hairdryer at the creases in the bottom.

KingCanuteIAm · 15/05/2009 23:29

Shitemum, that is exactly why I said she needed to qualify what she meant, if my CM had agreed to freshly cooked and fed this I would not think it was outside of that remit (well not too much) but I would if she fed micro lasagne. IYSWIM?

Thunderduck · 15/05/2009 23:29

Snippets. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. What are you doing online complaining about your childminder?

Shouldn't you be out in the fields harvesting the wheat and grinding it for your son's dinner tomorrow?

All good mothers know that anything less than freshly harvested and ground wheat simply isn't acceptable for one's precious first born.

Standards really are slipping these days.

BecauseImWorthIt · 15/05/2009 23:29

But have you made it clear to her what you mean by 'freshly cooked'? This phrase means so many different things these days.

It could be that your CM thought that buying fresh pasta was a good thing - heavens knows it's expensive enough - and has no idea that she has fallen foul of your desires.

You need to be very, very clear and prescriptive about what is and isn't allowed.

Original poster
Snippets · 15/05/2009 23:30

BecauseI'mWorth, why shouldn't the other mum be concerned about what her child is eating? Or are we all supposed to accept them eating rubbish from 1 year onwards for fear of mollycoddling our PFB? Ridiculous!

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kalo12 · 15/05/2009 23:30

snippets - so glad you are so concerned for his emotional physical well being when you palm him off entrust him to the staff nanny

Habbibu · 15/05/2009 23:30

Milly, did she have a video of ice-caps melting in the background?

onadietcokebreak · 15/05/2009 23:31

Roll on the birthday parties when he will eating all the pre packed crap going......

YABVU

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