to be dubious about DP getting facebook?

[TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied]

I've had facebook for about 3 years, been with DP just over 2 years. I don't flirt on it, I don't have any ex's on it. I do have blokes on it, but nothing suspicious.

Anyway, DP has always HATED me having facebook but I maintained that as I wans't doing anything inapt, I would keep it.

A few days ago, he got facebook and now there's women on there who I don't like. About my age (23), he's 27. I know that they have reputations etc or some of them I have had beef with in the past before meeting DP. Of course, that's nothing to do with DP and he won't know anyway.

I trust DP 100%, we are in a very loving relationship, that's not an issue at all. But I'm just wondering if this will eventually cause trouble between us? People can be very malicious. I just know how many people have problems with facebook (particularly on MN) and so it's in the back of my mind.

So am I being unreasonable to feel uneasy and perhaps just delete my facebook and not bother with it anymore?

They've been a few and also on the pink fluffy website that everyone takes the piss out of

(just have to get another word in )

My BIL just split up with DSis just last week after 2 years of marriage. He was cheating on her.

He doesn't use email or facebook, and rarely uses a phone.

If they are going to do it, they will do it with or without the aid of facebook.

Men were cheating a long time before facebook came along... you're better off focusing on developing an honest, respectful, trusting relationship than banning them from a social networking site.

Jungslist - you know that you have trust issues (you wouldn't trust anyone 100%) so if that works for you then fine. But there's definitely not a huge amount of any FB chat on here...

If I tried to ban my DH from FB or anything else he'd think our relationship was in serious trouble...but then one of the (many) things I love about him is his ability to have close female friends. Different strokes for different folks then!

I don't disagree with you Hellhath, but for me it wouldn't work, I could never trust anyone 100% that's all.

I have admiration for those of you who have that trust, honestly. It sounds nice, and a lot easier!

junglist - that's fair enough and I admire your honesty. It must be quite tough for your DP to know you feel like that, but to be fair, I don't know what you have been through to cause you to have trust issues.
If you have found a way that both of you are happy with, then I am not going to judge.

Anyway, being the mature luvvie I am, Britains Got Talent is on now so I am off

Jungslist - trust is hard work too - the only person I'm truly honest with is my DH and it can be hard (especially when I have to face things I lie to myself about!) but the pay off is a happy and secure relationship, where we bring out the best in each other.

But every couple is different and whatever works others is fine by me . Just glad I don't have the stress of suspicion/jealousy on top of all the other things life can throw at me!

Right...off to make dinner!

junglist...I am a pretty active member mumsnet addict and honest...I have not seen much about fb here....other than mn members getting eachother on their fb lists...but really not the kinda cheating because of fb threads, that I assume, you mean ...no idea what goes on on the pink gfluffy one....tbh...

daftpunk - I think this is the funniest thing I've read on MN today:

"i don't like "social networking" sites...i think people spend too much time on them, it's unhealty."

And how much time are we all spending here, on MN?! It's just the same - if not worse - as social networking!

Pretty mixed bag of opinions. So I'm still not sure whether to be bothered or not. I guess it's just a case of wait and see lol. I'm sure it will all be fine, because, as I said, we trust each other, and although facebook does cause issues for other people, it hasn't caused issues for us yet.

And yes he is allowed to the pub on his own lol and we've never had a problem there either.

BIWI;