to want a friends of hedgewitch thread? positive support only

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hedgewitch,

i've namechanged to avoid the salem witch trial

you've been a long and loyal friend to many on mn and have posted for support

i and others who feel strongly that we want to give you support only, NO ADVICE, may post here and hopefully you'll be cheered by the fact that a lot of normal and regular people care about you!

i'm thinking of you and wishing you well love

I had been lurking on the other thread and was quite ed at what a frenzy of judgement ensued.
I am not at all sure how I feel that HW's family was "reported" to SS by a MN; I v hope it was at least somebody who knows her, her husband and children in RL, and not a virtual reality friend.

Anyway, aware that I do not have even half of the facts v best wishes for HW and her loved ones. I hope that whatever happens there will be positive developments for them all.

Wishing HW strength and love and look forward to seeing her around on MN. xx

Love and best wishes to you HW, you seem such a good person and hope things are better for you all soon.

I'm sorry for your troubles, HW.

I didn't even see the other thread. But I trust Reality's judgement even in the short time I've been here - and if that is what's been going on, then whoever it was did exactly the right thing.

I wish you well.

Just adding my support to you too HW.

HW, If it's any comfort I was 'beaten' by my father for the whole of my childhood and some of my adulthood and never ever blamed my Mother, even as an adult I have never blamed her.

Hedgewitch: Sorry didnt see the other thread.

Take care. xx

Poor HW, this is sad take care.

HW I tried to email you on the one you posted but it has been returned. Don't worry I'm not upset.

I wanted to proffer sympathy and support. You have had a hell of a beating here and I am sorry, as I know you've been great with so many MNers. In my opinion that thread was a perfect example of what is wrong with society today; people are in much too much of a hurry to judge and to act on those judgements without patience, empathy, tolerance or understanding.

I have no doubt that had you been left to do what you know is right, in your own time, you would have.

I am extremely sorry it has come to this. I hope to see you back here when you have forgiven us.

Never read the thread, but I hope things work out for your family. Take care.

it sounds perfectly right that SS were asked to come in and assess. 'in your own time' is very very often not in time when people are failing to protect their children from abuse.

I hope that HW can come to see that having SS in to assess is likely to be a very good thing. Of course as a society the media makes sure we hear the salacious and sensational details when things go wrong with SS involvement, however, every day in this country, hard work is being done by social workers, children and their parents/carers to cope with this sort of situation, and to enable children to be safe at home.

I really hope that's what happens here. For us as parents it is probably one of the most sickening, frightening things that can happen - to have our parenting assessed and found wanting in some way. But it really is possible for this to be the start of good things.

And no one should ever feel they did wrong IMO to do what they can to protect a child who was in the situation described here.