to want a friends of hedgewitch thread? positive support only

[friendsdontbite]

hedgewitch,

i've namechanged to avoid the salem witch trial

you've been a long and loyal friend to many on mn and have posted for support

i and others who feel strongly that we want to give you support only, NO ADVICE, may post here and hopefully you'll be cheered by the fact that a lot of normal and regular people care about you!

i'm thinking of you and wishing you well love

and i don't require a response!

hedge you'll get through this and be stronger for it.

this is still a public forum for people of all walks of life and pov's to discuss any topics they wish to and i will not see you hounded from it

I agree with QS, I decided not to post on the other threads as it was too personal and enough was already being said, but I have read them. By starting this thread, it was obvious that only one side of the issues would be told and others would want to balance that up.

Support comes in many forms.

Good luck HW.

I agree with everything Reality says too.

I knew this would happen

Good luck Hedgewitch.

just wanted to create a clean fresh thread so that hedgewitch would see that people wish her well
NO ADVICE necessary

you know what friendsdontbite? changing your name to start this thread is the most cowardly thing I've seen so far on Mumsnet.

If your intentions are honorable, why namechange?

OK I'm not sure what happened here but I am sending you positive thoughts, it sounds like you are having a rough time and I hope you get through this and out of the other side with a better life for you and your DC's hedgewitch. HUGS xxx.

I haven't read the other thread - what support have SS offered you Hedge? Anything good?

THW, I'm fairly new on here but have seen you giving support to people, so I hope everything works out well for you and yours, this must be so hard for you!

This is awful
We all agree that hedge is having a difficult time - why are people making it worse for her by being horrid I just dont get it

I love Peachys post below.
Hedge I would take Peachy up on her offer of support tbh, I think she is a genuine helpful person

If I were you tbh I would stop posting on mn altogether for a few months - so you wont have to read stuff that just causes you more grief.

Find a few people to chat to privately on MSN or whatever and try to resolve the problem without all this extra hassle - Sorry I know that was 3 sentances of advice

{Yurtgirl slaps own wrist}

RealityIsMyDelusion has said almost everything I wanted to say.

Hedge, please don't feel got it. A lot of people on MN care about you and are worried for the safety of your babies. There is no malice involved.

I hope you and your children find the peace and safety you need.

HW my email

peaches and cream 04 at bt internet dot com

hope you're OK

hope ss did their job properly in this case then.

assume mumsnet reported it.

hope the kids are safe and well.

i don't really know what to write here, but felt compelled to post something. speaking from the point of view of a child, living in a house with a violent father, whose violence has then been reported to ss by a neighbour. many years ago, i was that child.

ss becoming involved can sometimes be a good thing, but it can also make things worse

hw, i really feel for you and your family going through this.

Hedgewitch I did'nt read the other thread so I don't really know what's going on or who said what.

I know you are not looking for advice but just let me say a few things!

Please realise that people are not having a go at you, it is the job of the community to protect children if something concerns us then it is the interest of the child and you in these circumstances, sometimes we all need a bit of support and maybe with SS helping out things might get better for your family!

Your DC's need you to be strong for them, they are clearly being bullied at home and how long will it go on for before they end up seriously messed up in the head or physically battered and bruised? Noone wants to see that happen!

I hope you all get through this well and stronger than you all are now!

Good luck and hold your LO's close and really think what's best for them they are after all the most important thing you will ever have.

Hedgewitch My friend reported my kids to ss, but with the best of intentions, I am still very good friends with her and can totally see why she did it. SS visited and found nothing wrong other than my ex's visit fuckwittery. I know there is that feeling of a kind of violation, but really, it is more about people caring about you and your kids.
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Hedgewitch - sorry you feel betrayed. Didn't read original thread. Is there a link?

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