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People have fallen out with me because of school issues

57 replies

CreasesOnForehead · 08/05/2009 19:07

In our area we have 3 primary schools. Only one of them is any good (and then it's still not briliant) and I was lucky to get my DS in there.

Also in the area are 2 extremely bad secondary schools. GCSE pass marks range from 10% to 17%. Put it this way, we live in a very large city and these schools have an intake of around 200 students a year. This year only 35 people actually CHOSE to send their children to this school. The rest had to be forced there ... and even then most people decided to home-school instead.

Out of the area is a really good secondary school, hugely over subscribed with no chance of getting in unless you live in the catchment.

So anyway as our children are coming up to their final year of primary school, us parents have been discussing the secondary school worries, everyone (including myself) worrying about these two bad schools that our DC's would most likely be forced into.

However, last year I met someone and we ended up moving in together. This moved us into the catchment of the good school. This was NOT the reason I moved. It was just lucky that he lived there. I was considering moving into the catchment anyway before I met him.

Anyway since everyone found out they have all turned against us. The parents no longer speak to me saying I'm selfish and stuck up. Their DC's have started telling DS that I "shagged my way" into the catchment area ... I head one woman say "it's alright when you can open your legs and get your kids into any school you want" etc etc

I'm not going to put him down for a shit school when I have other options just to please everyone! I'm sure any of them would have done the same.

AIBU to treat this as bullying where DS is concerned and inform the primary school to deal with it?

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Original poster
CreasesOnForehead · 08/05/2009 19:09

Oh and someone tried to report me for using a false address to get DS into the school.

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WinkyWinkola · 08/05/2009 19:10

Really? Is this for real?

Original poster
CreasesOnForehead · 08/05/2009 19:12

yes I'm being serious. The women at our school have always stood in a clique but now they totally blank me and say stuff loud enough for me to hear regarding the school issue etc.

One kid even said to DS "My mum says you'll probably get bullied there anyway" etc

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hercules1 · 08/05/2009 19:13

All sounds lovely.

ChubbyMinge · 08/05/2009 19:15

well, don't they sound charming

ignore, ignore, ignore - they are all bitches

WinkyWinkola · 08/05/2009 19:16

Well, how did they find out you've moved in with someone, per se?

Why didn't you just say you've moved and leave it at that?

Sounds like it's a good move anyway, to get you away from those harpies.

Oh, and get your kid enrolled in some karate lessons.

corriefan · 08/05/2009 19:17

This sounds like this thread but from the other side!

Either way if they're saying stuff like that and it's not true then they're not worth knowing and as you have moved you won't have to see them much longer.

WhatFreshHellIsThis · 08/05/2009 19:18

Rise Above, that's my advice. Once DS goes to shiny new school, you'll never have to see the old witches again.

Tell DS they're all bonkers and to ignore them.

atworknotworking · 08/05/2009 19:18

Is your LO starting secoondary school in Sept? If so does it really matter what the other parents say as it's not that long till summer hols and you probably won't see them again anyway unless of course you have another child at the school. Fell for your DS though for having to cope with the nasty comments.

atworknotworking · 08/05/2009 19:19

Is your LO starting secoondary school in Sept? If so does it really matter what the other parents say as it's not that long till summer hols and you probably won't see them again anyway unless of course you have another child at the school. Fell for your DS though for having to cope with the nasty comments.

atworknotworking · 08/05/2009 19:19

Is your LO starting secoondary school in Sept? If so does it really matter what the other parents say as it's not that long till summer hols and you probably won't see them again anyway unless of course you have another child at the school. Fell for your DS though for having to cope with the nasty comments.

atworknotworking · 08/05/2009 19:21

Sorry didn't mean to do posts 3x

twinsetandpearls · 08/05/2009 19:26

I thought of that thread too corrie.

ilovesprouts · 08/05/2009 19:33

what a set of bitchers ignore them

lunamoon2 · 08/05/2009 19:35

Blimey, they sound quite nasty.
You have done nothing wrong, they are probably just jealous that they can't get their kids into the better school.

twinsetandpearls · 08/05/2009 19:36

They are jealous, you will be moving on soon.

PM73 · 08/05/2009 20:28

I would tell them to feck off mind their own business & just look forward to a fresh start.

Lemontart · 08/05/2009 20:32

wow - sounds like you did a great thing by moving out of this circle. Hang in there -only 1 term and a bit to go. Shocking they can pass on such disgusting things to their children though. One thing to say that amongst themselves (still obv. nasty) but to pass it on to the children!

If these children are saying this type of thing frequently in school, I would be making a strong complaint to the headteacher. It is unacceptable and a form of bullying. How dare those parents take out their own bitterness/bitchiness and use their own kids to get back at you through your child. Awful.

Kimi · 08/05/2009 20:32

my word what nasty people you know... if the parents are anything to go by it won't matter what school their kids go to thewy will still end up on the dole or working in mcdonalds.

PM73 · 08/05/2009 20:38

Kimi - thats a bit harsh on the employees of McDonalds.

Ohforfoxsake · 08/05/2009 20:43

Priceless! PMSL at 'shagging your way into the catchment area'. Are these fuckwits for real???

Ignore them. They are jealous and they are stupid (and possibly so unattractive they couldn't pick up a bloke who lives in the right catchment )

To be serious, make the school aware. Then ignore the idiots.

Blondeshavemorefun · 08/05/2009 20:44

sounds to me that they are all very of you

its near the end of half term - so only another 10weeks to go

hold your head up high and think of the great education your ds will get

MrsMattie · 08/05/2009 20:45

What hideous people. Thank God you are moving!

cheltenhamgal · 08/05/2009 20:59

omg i am shocked and it all boils down to jealousy, what a good thing your dc wont be there much longer !

Welshwoman · 08/05/2009 21:20

Ignore and enjoy the ''shagging'' and better school

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