Background: bf and I have been together for just over 9 months. For most of that time we've been in a long-distance relationship - we see each other at weekends and during the holidays (I'm a teacher).
He is very affectionate and willing to talk about plans for the future et cetera, and we never run out of conversation, BUT he is reluctant to tell me anything about his day-to-day life, particularly his job.
For example, today he texted me and said that his boss was being an idiot. I replied saying, 'oh dear, why?' His response was 'I'd rather forget about it, I like to keep work and play separate'.
This happens a lot: he mentions something that happened at work, I ask for details, he refuses to talk further. Now, I'm not asking for a blow-by-blow account of everything that he gets up to, but I think it's unreasonable of him to bring things up only to clam up completely when I show an interest.
He does the same thing when we're talking about our lives before we met - he mentions an incident, amusing or otherwise, I say 'oh, how interesting, then what happened?' and he says he'd rather not go into it.
We have discussed this before; I told him that I feel very excluded by his unwillingness to talk - if I'm missing out on such a major part of his life, I might as well be a woman he picked up in a bar rather than his girlfriend.
Am I right in feeling hurt and left out, or should I accept that I have no right to know about these things?