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AIBU?

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Original poster

to want to vomit when I see a thread titled "Help-traveling with a 2year old! "Help 8 month old cant speak German!"

67 replies

mulranno · 01/05/2009 13:39

This sort of stuff winds me up...its sort of look at me... I have a baby... I can t cope.. or I am attention seeking!

OP posts:
LilRedWG · 01/05/2009 14:14

If it's the first time you're doing something it can be daunting, whether with a child or not.

My MIL was gobsmacked when I took DD to meet them in the south of France, purely because there is no way that she would fly on her own, especially with a connection, and with a 15 month old baby. Didn't phase me, but MIL was amazed. Doesn't make her less of a person for thinking it's a scary thing and she'd probably ask for advice on here (if I let her in on the MN secret ) for similar things.

And you know what, if being scared/nervous/unsure and showing it is a crime then it's a strange old world.

LilRedWG · 01/05/2009 14:15

But mulranno, sometimes everyone needs to say, "Oh buggeration, I'm terrified of something you may all think is daft, but I really need some help and advice here."

mascaraohara · 01/05/2009 14:15

I think there's a reason for that.. this site is so big now that I rarely click on a thread unless it looks particularly 'intersting' (juicy/bitchy/funny/enough posts for it to mean there's a big ruck) or I recognise the poster

I'd click on a thread that said 'HELP!! can't cope with school run' before I clicked on 'school run with 7 under 7, thoughts please' iyswim

TheMysticMasseuse · 01/05/2009 14:17

oh i get it now. you don't like HELP in the title. YAB even more U.

some people come on here because they want to be, well, helped. some others come on here because they want to judge. there is something for everyone. just don't read the threads you're not interested in!

TheMysticMasseuse · 01/05/2009 14:17

i'd go for the 7 under 7 any time!

pagwatch · 01/05/2009 14:18

FGS

the 'help' is often ironis and slightly self mocking and when it isn't it is often to signal on the active convos borad that the OP is after advice.

You are being ridiculous by trying to flag a problem with self absorbed, trivial,attention seeking posts by using a trivial, self absorbed and attention seeking OP.

And by trying to justify this little hypocrisy you are starting to look really foolish.

mascaraohara · 01/05/2009 14:18

lol, just read that back and not even sure I got to the point of my waffling.. hey ho

BradfordMum · 01/05/2009 14:18

My 10 month old is mastering German, mandarin And polish and I am SO glad I didn't start a thread a month ago asking for advice!!!
How silly would I have looked?!

LilRedWG · 01/05/2009 14:21

Very Brandfordmum - let this be a lesson to you.

yousaidit · 01/05/2009 14:28

oi! i start thread titles with 'help!' usually because ts encouraging posters to give their advice. whats the problem with that, you miserable arse?

mascaraohara · 01/05/2009 14:29

I do it all the time lol

FAQinglovely · 01/05/2009 14:31

well I find it rather attention seeking that someone wants to start a thread with

AIBU to want to vomit - as it does sound rather OTT to me................

sarah293 · 01/05/2009 14:36

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Gorionine · 01/05/2009 14:38

Yabu, nothing to add as I do not want to be too melodramatic in my answer.

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BlueBumedFly · 01/05/2009 14:39

YABU and OTT

I am guessing you are the perfect parent then who never ever needs any help? If so why not leave if we are making you so poorly.

everlong · 01/05/2009 14:40

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PadDad · 01/05/2009 14:41

Help! I'm a man and I have to change a nappy!

What should I do first? (Be kind)

BlueBumedFly · 01/05/2009 14:43

PadDad - really? For real?

BooRadders · 01/05/2009 14:47

yeah,i wish the timewasters would stop posting stuff like that too. I have a real problem,HELP!!! Am flying to Germany with my 8 month old to have intense language sessions as he has yet to speak a single German word.Any advice?

Gorionine · 01/05/2009 14:47

PadDad, find the baby first! Follow the smell or screaming sound if it helps. The rest comes naturally, you won't need any help at all!

Caution: the soiled nappy has to be bagged and binned, NOT the baby!!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 01/05/2009 14:48

Posts slagging off other posters and making them embarrassed about their threads make me want to vomit, YABU!

charitygirl · 01/05/2009 14:49

Oh I know what you mean - but you see it in real life too, people blithering on about how terrified they are of weaning, or getting in a flap about making a cake. I find that sort of panicky reaction (unless it's being done for comic effect, in which case, as you were) to ordinary tasks which you might happen to have not done before/or be particularly good at, a bit wearying.

But it's not that annoying surely?

MrsMattie · 01/05/2009 14:51

Isn't asking for advice from other parents on things like travelling with toddlers (feels sick at thought ) what MN's all about? Go away, you misog!

YABU

PadDad · 01/05/2009 15:02

Thanks Gorionine.

So, binned? You can't put them in the dishwasher? It certainly looks like it could do with a wash.

LaQuitar · 01/05/2009 15:08

Although i wouldnt say 'it makes me vomit' i do agree with OP that some posters are too precious and attention seekers.There are those who think that they are doing something extra-ordinary. i.e.'I am going to london with a baby and will take the bus or tube. Am i mad to even consider it? my mum said i m very brave....blah blah'. Or 'am i mad to even think of going to supermarket with a baby?' Or 'are we mad to go holidays with a toddler?' No you are not.Be glad you can afford it Basically it does bother me that we have come to a point where it is considered as 'mad' or 'brave' to even step out of the house with a baby On the other hand there are millions women who bring up children alone or families on very low icnome, parents who have to commute every day with babies and toddlers to drop them to nursery before go to work then collect them on rush hour, run to the supermarket etc