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AIBU?

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Original poster

to feel sick at having to clean up my friend's toddler's poo from my carpet?

33 replies

SigourneyBeaver · 30/04/2009 19:49

She changed him on the floor, without anything under him and it was rather, ahem, a messy one.

I didn't notice it until I had trodden it around the living room.

OP posts:
Rafi · 30/04/2009 19:54

YANBU
did she ask or just do it before you had a chance to stop her?

DavidSussex · 30/04/2009 19:55

YABU

it won't kill you

BigBellasBeerBelly · 30/04/2009 19:56

That is grim but

Why didn't you say anything when you realised what she was going to do?

ElenorRigby · 30/04/2009 20:01

Shit happens...YABU

Bigpants1 · 30/04/2009 20:02

YABU-for treading it around the living room.(purile snigger).
Ps hope DavidSussex isnt the owner of the toddler with the escapee poo!

wotulookinat · 30/04/2009 20:02

YANBU. But you could have offered a towel or something to do it on when you knew it was a number 2.

Thebolter · 30/04/2009 20:09

YANBU, wtf should the OP have to offer towels and say something? Perhaps she was too embarrassed to butt in! It was her friend's child and therefore the poo, or the discarding of it, was the responsibility of her friend.

hatwoman · 30/04/2009 20:09

it's perfectly possible to change a nappy without any going on the carpet (or whatever's underneath) - presumably this is what normally happens and she didn;t realise any had gone on the carpet. if she had realised surely she would have said something/been mortified/offered to clear it up.

I must admit I would have asked where to change though, as I know the sitting room floor isn;t considered ok by many people.

NaughtyKorner · 30/04/2009 20:10

YANBU - when mine were in nappies, as well as all the usual nappy changing stuff i had a portable foldaway changing mat in the bag , tis common sense when you know you may have to change the child 'on the move'

SoupDragon · 30/04/2009 20:11

Given that you didn't notice there was poo in the carpet even when you trod in it, it's highly likely she didn't notice it either.

Unpleasant as it was clearing it up, your chance to complain was when she changed the nappy with no mat.

wotulookinat · 30/04/2009 20:16

@ Thebolter

BigBellasBeerBelly · 30/04/2009 20:17

I want to know whether the OP was there when she did it or not.

TBH though I think it is usual when in someone elses house and a nappy change is needed to ask "where shall I change him/her". A lot of people rather the bathroom, not just for mess but for having to sit in a ponging room afterwards.

So really YANBU.

Original poster
SigourneyBeaver · 30/04/2009 20:18

I was making the coffee at the time so I didn't know what was happening.
I'm sure she didn't notice it, but if she had put something down then it would have been less likely.

OP posts:
BigBellasBeerBelly · 30/04/2009 20:20

Sigourney I'm with you.

She should have asked where to do it.

YANBU.

And yes most people have a portable mat in the bag as well.

Sorry your carpet got shit on it, have some wine

wotulookinat · 30/04/2009 20:20

Did she not say anything before she did it? I would have thought it was polite to ask if it is ok to do it in the lounge in someone else's house.

Original poster
SigourneyBeaver · 30/04/2009 20:21
OP posts:
wotulookinat · 30/04/2009 20:22

(FWIW, my carpet has had dog wee and poo on it in the past but I would be unhappy at toddler poo)

BigBellasBeerBelly · 30/04/2009 20:23
nickytwotimes · 30/04/2009 20:25

Yuck!
I can deal with my own kid's poo but not someone else's especially on my carpets.

traceybath · 30/04/2009 20:34

yanbu.

I really don't like it when people change toddler nappies in my sitting room especially if they don't use a mat.

And then if they just shove dirty nappy in my kitchen bin i do at that point say 'oh please just put it straight in the bin outside'.

Vile.

Feelingoptimistic · 30/04/2009 21:26

YANBU !!!

When DD was in nappies I always carried a changing mat with me, and if it was poo nappy I would NEVER changed in someone's sitting room !!! Always in the bathroom !!! It's just common sense.

duchesse · 30/04/2009 21:30

She should bloody well change him in the bathroom, ffs! God, the whole house must have reeked if my toddlers' nappies were anything to go by... YAdefinitelyBU. I really struggle with people who do not think that baby/toddler excrement is as nasty as the adult kind, or dog turds.

MadamDeathstare · 01/05/2009 04:35

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thirtypence · 01/05/2009 06:17

I have had people try to change babies in the middle of a music class.

BannedInternationalFlight · 01/05/2009 06:51

How much poo are we talking about here?

Not the whole lot surely?

I had a 'friend' come round with an untrained puppy, when I had a v small baby - she let it shit on the carpet and didn't clear it up.

friend no more.