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to thought this was a bit odd?

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 30/04/2009 17:53

This is no biggy or anyhting, and not even really important, it really isn't...but this morning something very minor happened and it struck me as, well, weird...

As per normal went to canteen this mornign for a morning Latte, but the canteen coffee machine was chocca block and I could not be bothered...
within the canteen there is a little coffee-kiosk, whihc is slightly more expensive, hence me never usually using it...

anyway, youngish lad works in there and as he hands me the change of money he cupped the hand I held out to receive the change into one of his hands than put my change into my palm, sort of pressing it into my palm....
it made me feel uncomfortable, for no particular reason other than that seems a sort of "intimate" (for lack of better phrase) gesture...it was just a bit odd...

now I am not someone who has problems with being touched, etc...but it was just weird...can't even explain really why...

am I unreasonable to think it was odd...or, am indeed I am the odd one?

I mean, I kn ow I am odd for even give this a second thought...I blame the course I am doing (Occupational Therapy) and it's current curriculum, which makes us look closer at interpersonal communication and also at bounderies, etc...so, I htink I am possibly having these kind of things on my mind...or I am just weird....

anyway, was it an odd thing to do? or am I odd?

(and before I get blamed for not giving all information, by accent and looks, I would think that this guy was most likely a Brit and not from another cultur...well, as far as I could tell)

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namebacon · 30/04/2009 17:54

YANBU - he is clearly a pervert.

jeminthecity · 30/04/2009 17:56

And how did you respond?

CrushWithEyeliner · 30/04/2009 17:57

I was going to ask if he came from another cultural background.

I really would move on tbh....as I am sure you have

frogwatcher · 30/04/2009 17:58

Was it a lot of change - I hate it when people give me loads of coins into my hand and they fall out!!! Could he have had that happen and this is his way of avoiding it (or have i misunderstood completely).

Legacy · 30/04/2009 17:58

Did he have to hand the change over a counter with lots of things on it? If so, he may just be making sure you didn't drop it into e.g. the snacks, cakes etc.

Personally I hate it when people do that thing where they give your chnage back with any notes on the bottom, and all the loose change on top - especially if you're already holding the coffee with the otehr hand - it's just guaranteed to make you drop it!

screamingabdab · 30/04/2009 18:00

It is unusual.

Were there a lot of coins? - maybe he has had the experience of lots of change falling all over the place

My first thought, however, is that he fancies you

screamingabdab · 30/04/2009 18:01

X posts with everyone !

Legacy I hate that too !

ShrinkingViolet · 30/04/2009 18:04

I once had head office tell me I should stroke the cutomers palm while giving chnage as it made them feel more welcome . Perhaps it was some sort of weirdy training like that?

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 30/04/2009 18:05

hmm...it was a £5 note and a couple of £-coins...so, maybe he was just trying to make sure I didn't drop it, although, had both hands free as coffee standing on the counter...hmm...maybe just precaution...

as to how I reacted....I quickly closed my hand around teh money and put it into my wallet and walked off, and pretended not to notice...
obviously not made a fuss and accused him of being a perv or some such thing ....

It was just so dileberate, I suppose...just struck me as weird at the time...
he was (erm, is) very handsome (if a bit young )....so, it wasn't that I felt repulsed or anything...

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 30/04/2009 18:06

rofl shrinking...that sounds like a very wrong kind a thing to do...and I would say, especially man might find themselfs being either accused of sexual harressment (or such thing) or they end up with weirdy stalkers....

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 30/04/2009 18:08

just wondering aswell...as I had my first placement in Handtherapy, and just finished that, which obviously involved lots of touching of hand and massaging and stuff...maybe that made me more aware of my own hands....

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Overmydeadbody · 30/04/2009 18:08

I think you're overthinking things a bit!

Maybe he's just a tad clumsy and needs to do that to make sure he doesn't drop the change.

TheProfiteroleThief · 30/04/2009 18:10

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 30/04/2009 18:11

is that the freemasons handshake, or something ....

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screamingabdab · 30/04/2009 20:42

FairLady No, the freemasons keep their index finger extended along your wrist when they shake hands. DH told me - he gets it quite a lot at work (he's a solicitor). He said they also give him a "look", and he has to try hard not to laugh when it happens.

He fancied you, deffo (and you liked it a bit, I reckon)

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 30/04/2009 20:56

rofl...well....fancied me...now that is funny

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screamingabdab · 30/04/2009 20:59

Why not, are you not a MILF ?

Baisey · 01/05/2009 10:42

I must admit it kinda sounds like he was flirting, you say he's good looking, he's probably a right ladies man lol, wouldnt suprise me if next time you see him he winks at you or something similar!
I wouldnt worry to much unless he goes over the top and starts groping you or something.

potatofactory · 01/05/2009 12:08

'are you not a milf'?? Like tone of bafflement here!

jumpingbeans · 01/05/2009 12:17

shrinking, dh wants to know where you work

kidowner · 01/05/2009 12:26

Did you notice he had a hard on when cupping your hand?

The only way to check is to instigate another encounter, so next time keep your eyes firmly on his crotch and if you see movement, snatch your hand away.

If you don't see any protuberance then lift your eyes smiling and say, 'just checking' Of course you were just checking to see if his pocket was filled with change.

VinegarTitsTheSwine · 01/05/2009 12:30

Maybe he has pig flu and was just passing it on....

Go wash your hands

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FairLadyOfMuslinCloth · 01/05/2009 14:23

lololol...you lot are nutters...

as for me being a milf...not something I describe myself as, no.......

hmm...might avoid the crotch looking....could be ratehr embaressing

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TrillianAstra · 01/05/2009 14:30

Fancied you. Yep. Totally.

daisybaby · 01/05/2009 14:45

Screamingabdab - is that really what the Freemasons do? If so, I am going to do it all the time now