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to be a bit peed off with this comment

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2009 20:08

Was waiting in the waiting room for DH who was seeing the doctor and chatting to someone we know. Anyway Ds2 (19 months) came up to me and said 'boo-boo' (his word for breastfeed) and tried to lift my top. I said 'No not at the moment DS2, daddy will be out soon' And this 'friend' turned round and said to DS2 'Oh no, you don't want that, you don't have that anymore' I turned round and said 'errr yes he does, thank you'

Dh said that if he had heard her say that, he would have said something to her, but I was made to feel 'strange' for BF still.....

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RumourOfAHurricane · 29/04/2009 20:14

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travellingwilbury · 29/04/2009 20:16

I stopped bf at 6 months and still got comments ( I did have huuuuge babies though)

Some people are v weird and think it is their business .

ignore ignore ignore

ilovemydogandMrObama · 29/04/2009 20:18

YANBU - thought though the comment was going to be from a doctor! DS (14 months) was in hospital recently and got a ton of these comments -- that b/fing past a year wasn't beneficial, already did the hard bit. All from the medical people!

But lovely your DH supports you like that

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HeinzSight · 29/04/2009 20:19

YANBU, it's the saying it to your DS I find particularly ing

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2009 20:19

its the way she directed to DS2, and didn't say to me 'are you still BF?' that got me, as I am used to that question

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JackBauerkillspigs · 29/04/2009 20:19

YANBU, she is.

My 19 month old still BF's so I know where you are coming from, I have started being very careful who I mention/do it in front of which then makes me cross with myself.

corriefan · 29/04/2009 20:20

My daughter loved breast-feeding and I had a friend who once said "Oh love, you're not still doing that" to me and had always done dramatic shudders and looked away when I'd breastfed. She bottle fed both hers from birth and I never commented on it whatsoever. when she said this I had a go at her. I'd had enough. She had no idea what it was like to breastfeed.
There are always going to be people who have issues about breast-feeding and annoyingly think they can express them openly. As long as you and your LO are happy sod everyone else.

travellingwilbury · 29/04/2009 20:20

Maybe just maybe she had trouble persuading her dc to stop and this was her stock answer to an older baby asking

This is my namby pamby being nice to strangers answer .

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2009 20:22

she has a 6 month old who is bottlefed, I don't mind how anyone chooses to feed their baby, i wouldn't comment on her bottlefeeding.. It was only because her Ds was having a bottle that Ds2 wanted milk lol

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DesperateHousewifeToo · 29/04/2009 20:28

But she didn't know that you still bf. So perhaps she was trying to be supportive.

Gillyan · 29/04/2009 20:32

YANBU

Twims · 29/04/2009 20:33

So your 19 month old still breast feeds on demand?

DunderMifflin · 29/04/2009 20:37

I'm with CrazyDi (and I'm an unrepentant bottle feeder! ) - people (generally women...) always comment about this sort of thing. Ignore away!

The other day a complete stranger said my DS (7mnths) was 'doing really well... apart from the dummy'.

I gave her a face and she looked a bit sheepish - judgey mc judge!!

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2009 20:38

he normally only feeds in the morning and in the evening now, he doesn't normally feed during the day

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sleeplessinstretford · 29/04/2009 20:39

steps away from this thread and offers well battle worn armour...

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2009 20:44

not sure if you knwo my history but Ds2 was born prematurely, and had sereve failure to thrive, I had to fight to keep BF as many professionals told me to stop feeding, remember he was prem. so Breastmilk was the best thing for him. I was tubefeeding him for 5 months, as well as breastfeeding. It was 6 months before I managed to fully BF.
Ds2 didn't get teeth until 4 months ago so teeth wasn't an issue, and he had learnt not to bite me. It is a comfort thing with Ds2 I believe

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PortBlacksandResident · 29/04/2009 20:46

A walking, talking child who has the abiltiy to not only ask for 'booboo' but to lift up your top too........i think maybe a less educated person might think the child was being too presumptuous and i don't personally think she was having a go at you or your choices.

compo · 29/04/2009 20:46

well the WHO guidelines are to breastfeed until 2 years old so maybe it's a health thing shine

PortBlacksandResident · 29/04/2009 20:47

And nor am i btw - just trying to see it through someone else's eyes......and to try and make you feel better.

BigBellasBeerBelly · 29/04/2009 20:48

My mum started with the "ooh you're a big girl you don't want that" before DD was even 1!!!

YANBU it was terrible to speak to your DS like that.

Your friend needs to think before engaging her mouth, and learn when to keep her opinions to herself

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SparklyGothKat · 29/04/2009 20:50

maybe she didn't realise how it sounded, she knew I 'was' BF as she came round when Ds2 was smaller.

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