if I send my sister directions to the wrong venue?

[bohemianbint]

Getting married in a couple of weeks. Sister didn't bother to return RSVP slip (replied by text just after the date), recently asked if we were looking forward to our "little party...wedding...thingy" and has just blown off my hen night for her fiance's (who she has known 8 months) auntie's 50th.

She then asked how long it would get to "Newsham Hall." This sort of sounds similar to where we're having it, but is actually about 2 hours away, here.

Would it be terrible obnoxious of me to provide directions to Newsham Hall, as requested? I did provide all the info with the invite but as it seems she just can't be arsed with any of it I'm tempted...

Tempting, but no....
Be the bigger person.
She sounds a bit competive/jealous.

Go for it . She asked, you answered. How were you to know she didn't have some other reason to go to Newsham Hall?

I don't know how bothered you are by the utter uselessness of your sister but I have laughed my tits off at your post

id be tempted just to say to her to look online for directions, then it wont be your fault if she does it for wrong place!!

LOL I too would be soooo tempted! Not sure that you really should though!

Laurie, I am beyond bothered, but it has also cheered me up to see that there actually is a funny side to all of this.

LOL

Especially as Newsham Hall looks a pretty god forsaken place in that piccy .

DO it!!! evil

Do it. Go on.

Do what jennybensmummy suggested. It's only a little bit evil...
Have a lovely wedding day!

Are you getting married in Leeds by any chance?

Made me laugh reading about your sister, that so easily could have been me ten years ago ( the sister I mean). Tempting to give her directions to the remote looking place but TBH you can't really can you!
But I would ask her honestly and straightforwardly whether she wants to come to the wedding... might pull her up a bit, I know it would have me.

Just reply ..Newsham Hall ? have a look on Google. Then you cant be seen as giving her the wrong info

Would just say all the infor was with invite....but please do google if you're not sure!

I'm not sure I ever RSVP'd officially to my sisters wedding as I was a bridesmaid and DS was page boy and we were in regular contact with her so she knew we were coming!

I would never have dared call it a "little party...wedding...thingy" though!! It's a wedding and a very important event for the bride and groom as it should be for thier families!!

And I had the venue programmed into the SatNav, triple checked with the invite, months in advance!!

And I would never have ditched her hen night - if I'd been invited, Maid of honour messed up and she ended up just having a drink with her mates - even with a 4 month old baby!

She's being very thoughtless IMO. Maybe you need to remind her how important this day is to you - when you send her the directions to Newsham Hall

See, the thing is, she knows full well it's only 40 mins away, so if I tell her it'll take about 2 hours she'll realise am having her on. But will call attention to the fact that she's so crap she can't even be arsed to remember the name of the venue, let alone anything else. (A trick she seems to have learnt off my SM.)

I do wonder if she has kids and grows up in a few years she'll realise what a selfish bag she's been. (She came to see me 12 hours after I gave birth, had TENS machine on due to shocking afterpains and she starting complaining to me that she woke up with backache, then started whining because she wanted my parents to leave and take her to the shop. ) Then again, she might be pathologically selfish, we'll see...

branflake - no, in Cheshire. Maybe it's more than 117 miles?

I know how you feel. For my wedding, I ensured that invites were sent out at least 10 weeks before the wedding, said invites including a map to the church and the hall where I had the reception. I also booked two coaches on the day for those who didn't want to drive into/around Central London between the church and reception and made this clear on our wedding website AND sent out the same info with the invites.

I actually had some inconsiderate bints calling me up the night before AND the day of the wedding, asking where the ceremony was/how to get to the reception venue from the church/how they weren't sure they'd be able to drive etc. I was livid!! One of my supposedly close friends turned up at Westminster Abbey, despite her spending a day with me the week before the wedding when we actually passed Westminster Cathedral in a taxi which I pointed out to her.

I think I would be extremely tempted to give your sister the wrong details. However, I would just text her back and ask her to look at her invite and use Google maps if still unsure. That way, you aren't going out of your way to encourage her rubbish behaviour but you can still claim the higher ground.

Asana - wow, what's wrong with people, can't they be crap!

We sent out beautiful hand made invitations with loads of info about the venue, taxi numbers, local hotels, and a pretty RSVP slip with an SAE. Couldn't have made it much easier. Hardly any of my family were bothered to return the actual slip. It's not the biggest deal, just indicative, I think.

BOHEMIA....For my wedding none of my DH's family RSVP'd, my Mum became quite strssed as she was doing the catering. My Gran casually mentioned it to my SIL (who lived next door to her) that no-one had replied even though it requested replies on the invite

My SIL fetched the invite and insisted to Gran it didnt ask foe a reply. My GRAN had to explain RSVP even then her reply was "well they should knoe we're coming, coz we are fam-ly".

MIL was even offended we sent her an invite. We tried to explain the invite was actually from my parents and thats how its done. Plus we thought she would like the invite as as a keepsake

Sarah - sorry, x-posted with you and only just seen your post. I thought it was a bit crap that she is blowing me off for some random person (who let's face it, she probably hasn't even met yet), although to be fair, my thing is a bit last minute. Even so though, I'd make the effort for her. Or, I would have done, not sure I'd break my neck after all this.

I know for a fact too, that if I don't go on her hen do (she's getting married in Feb) I'll have my SM on the phone giving me some massive guilt trip about it. I can't wait to move far, far away.

MmeDS love the theme idea - do I dare...?

my sister and SiL were both complete cows, in similar ways to the one you have described, and more besides, when I got married.

With hindsight I wish I had done something to prevent/ hinder their being there. they didn't ruin my day but they left a nasty taste in the mouth that I have to this day!!

and yes, naturally, when my sister got engaged it was "STOP THE WORLD!! I'm going to be a BRIDE!!!"