To not want to give money, to a charity that has people knocking on my door?

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The person collecting seemed to think I was...

she said "Do you not know anyone who has had cancer?"

complain to the chairty - these sorts of tactics are unacceptable

and i speak as a fundraiser

I would complain about the tactics - I think that is dreadful what she said.

i hate this kind of charity collection, for all she knows you could give to every charity under the sun already, or be in a position where you can just about afford to feed yourself.
yanbu.

Of course you're not. You can't give money to every charity. I reckon it's far better to make an informed choice who you want to support than just give money to everyone who asks.

They sound more than a bit pushy to me. And doorstep collections can often be dodgy:
www.charity-commission.gov.uk/registeredcharities/doorstep.asp

I hate emotional blackmail on my doorstep and for all they know they could be upsetting a recently bereaved person. I always bear in mind that people who try and guilt me into giving to their charity have no idea of my charitable donations and I hold my head up high - I can't support every charity and I choose carefully who I want to support and try and rotate them.

I had one person knock on my door and try to persuade me to give 'just' £40 a month. When I said I thought it was a lot of money they said I could pay annually instead . Still a lot of money... They also told me their charity didn't advertise and so none of the money went on that. I had seen an advert the day before and have seen them since so

YANBU

no yanbu. I had this with the red cross recently.

Woman knocked on my door and said "we're from the red cross... well now I'm not going to patronise you and tell you all about us, I'm sure you know what we do..." and I interjected and said "I'm not going to give you money," to which she responded "Oh I'm not asking for money" to which I replied "I'm not going to fill in a direct debit for you either." She then became quite agressive and said "So you don't care about people dying then!" To which I'm afraid I said "no." And shut the door.

Hate hate hate people knocking on my door, but when they're that agressive it just puts me off their charity entirely.

Nope I'd shut the door - I do shut the door on them.

I think the tactics are disgusting how DARE they use guilt in such a way?

tbh I'd be tempted to speak to the community support police so they don't carry on.

I do feel quite annoyed, I was polite to her, said "sorry I don't want to give to charities that knock on my door, I want make charitable donations, when I choose to...." that is when I got that comment, seemed a bit unnecessary but maybe she is having a bad day... still don't like people coming to my door for money.

I do feel quite annoyed, I was polite to her, said "sorry I don't want to give to charities that knock on my door, I will make charitable donations, when I choose to...." that is when I got that comment, seemed a bit unnecessary, but maybe she is having a bad day... still don't like people coming to my door for money.

YANBU that approach is just not acceptable

at my double post

wannabe that is horrible, I don't see what there is to be gained from the nastiness of that woman, it would put me off giving to them in the future ....

I should complain to the charity? ... I wonder if they get lots of complaints about this?

I don't even let them get a word out. Just say 'Sorry, I don't do this kind of thing at the door' and then close it.

In the northwest now, but used to deal with chuggers daily in London and refuse to be guilt-tripped into anything.

Aefond that is completely unacceptable. I am head of fundraising for a national charity and that type of behaviour is not acceptable. You can make a complaint to the Fundraising Standards Board www.frsb.org.uk if you were unhappy (and I think you definitely should, as otherwise unscrupulous fundraisers are going to carry on like this for a long time and bring all charities into disrepute). Gets me really mad and makes my job a lot harder!

oops, may have gathered from last post I think that is completely unacceptable !

I just tell them no, have a nice day and shut the door.

Chuggers on the street were easier because I have an American accent so I always just say I'm here on vacation or on business for a couple of days.

They always want direct debits, so if they get into that I tell them big sob stories of being working poor and how I have to pay even leccy on a meter because of not having a steady supply of money and blah blah blah and they go away .

They like to target this area because it's not a poor one.

But this isn't our house. We rent from friends.

expat, I used to do the same thing (accent-wise) with chuggers! Then got to the point where I'd been in London too long, became very rude and just said a loud 'NO!' if they came anywhere near me.

YanknCock's response is exactly right - for this, and for any sort of salesperson too.

I don't mind quite so much the ones where they put an envelope through beforehand because then at least you have a chance to think about it rather than feeling railroaded.

I always tell chuggers that when I give to charity I don't expect to give the chugger a percentage cut first.

I never, ever give at the door.
I don't mind somebody shaking a tin at me at a train station or on the street - but I resent people coming to my home/my sanctuary and asking me for money. Personally, I think it should be made illegal.

Oh, I did that, too, Yank, when I was living in Edinburgh. I speak Spanish and French and I am small and dark, so sometimes I'd pretend not to speak English.

I agree with Nancy66, my home is my little sanctuary.

Don't like salespeople coming to the door either. If I want something, I'll research it and find the best deal--not buy something from a stranger at the door.

Had a bizarre one where a guy knocked on the door, and when I opened it said 'Are you the homeowner?'. I said yes. Then he asked 'Do you occasionally like to eat fresh fish?'

That was not the follow-up question I was expecting! But I recovered quickly and said, 'I'm not interested, thanks' and shut the door.

sleepychunky thanks for that link

YANBU. Horrid tactic.

I had the NSPCC knock on my door last year, i was heavily pregnant and very hormonal, told them i already donate and she ended up telling me such a horrible abuse story i burst into tears and ran off upstairs, my DH was furious.