Am I being unreasonable to be disgusted that soon to be ex is going to Aus and leaving his DDs

[looneymum]

Hi Guys. Just cannot square this in my head. He left end 07 and we are in the throws of messy court divorce. His partner is from Aus but she has two little boys. She intends to go and he "after much though" has decided to go too! He has made no real provision for us..... any thoughts? xx

Hi CG. Don't know what outcome will be in court. This is 2nd hearing so it is v expensive barrister and lawyer who do their bit rather than me and fuck face being cross examined. That happens at final hearing if it doesn't settle this time. He did indeed leave me.. just after xmas in 2007.. nice guy eh! CSA are doing their best but he is a lying cheating fucker so they will have their work cut out. Also, don't think they have reciprocal Aus arrangement so will be left to the court to enforce child support payments. Sol is gonna find out what he proposes doing to support his kids. He has given poor disclosure and so is making it as hard as possible to make sense of assets. Have to say I feel sick about the whole horrid thing. Wish I had never clapped eyes on the fat, baldy, bad breathed, small dicked fuckwit.... but I suppose I must have seen some good in him once... perhaps I was pissed! x

I called your dd's boys earlier! oops sorry!

No worries CG... it's the OW that has little boys. Mine are two little angels.... apart from when they are scrapping ... rose tinted glasses have set in for sure!

no twice...you have 2 girls! (referring to 'some good in him once')

Its a shame he can be such a small man and not own up to the fact he created the life he lives now, and hes gotta deal with it like a man - not a fuckin animal - shitting everywhere and expecting someone else to clean up after it!

you cant lie anymore in this dam country. theyll soon find him out. I dont see where hes stashing his 'unknown' money if its not going into a bank account?

Id get someone else you know to shop him to the police if there was any chance.

Indeed. Me and girlie chums just chatting about involving the tax man... am sure he is up to no good.. good advice... may give it a shot. Bad news is a criminal record may stop his visa application.... am quite coming around to the idea of him being out of everyone's hair so we can get on with our new lives! Re stashing cash. He has paid it to the other bird... calling it living expenses... jesus she must have some big outgoings the amount he was putting her way.

I hope it all goes well with you.

He sounds like a nasty, horrid little man. My heart is breaking for your dd's , but at least they have a mummy who loves them.

How are they coping with everything?

Has he served his 'time' with his criminal record as such? If so, unlikely they will stop him getting visa.

Wow hes brave giving her his money - if i was her, id run now! Spending spree!

In reality the courts should take into account 'living expenses' are about £95 ish a week for two people. Thats what they give people on JSA, so I dont see how he 'needs' more than that to live.

Hes not married to her - so they cant share 'living expenses' or have mutual savings. The tax man will get either him/her.
(if you help them hehe)

Write an anomynous letter to inland revenue stating that he gets more income, and hes not getting taxed on it. Say where you think he might be getting money from and that hes stashing it away in someone elses bank account...theyll have to investigate.

Hi GothAnne. Thanks for your message. I am not doing too bad now. Am contemplating eating some choc which is good as I haven't really eaten much all day... I may not stop once I start tho! Have had a grim day with tons of tears. It is just hard to know what to do with so much uncertainty. I am just counting down to the court date next Thursday although I am painfully aware that it could go to a final trial and cost an absolute fortune. Still, I must do what is necessary to see that my little lovelies get what they need and that we can keep life in tact to some degree. xxx

Hi CG... he doesn't have crim record at the moment... I just meant that if I shop and he gets into bother then he will have a record.. stopping his exodus to Aus. Any road, I may well pursue your idea of shopping him... he bloody deserves all he gets!

PS Did you notice I managed to post without using the "f" word... sorry all readers that I have offended with horrific language... horrid husband just seems to bring out worst in me!

oh ok haha. Yes do so. A record for fraud is a defo - no Visa! Go for it! You may feel like youve done something dreadful to him for first few days while you wait a reply from whoever, but in the end why shouldnt he pay for all the stress and upset hes caused you, let alone the upset hes gonna cause to his daughters when they realise daddy left them cause he couldnt be bothered anymore! You need to stress to your solicitor that the damage caused is long term not just for the next few weeks. Your the one whos got to 'exlain' to your daughters as they grow older and ask questions. He gets off with it scott free!

Sorry for the rant, hes really pissed me off!!!!!!

Do you know what CG? I am pleased you are ranting cause it just makes me realise more and more that his an absolute wanker! Who would do this to their beautiful daughters apart from a monsterous horror of a tossy fuck face! So, rant away... I'm off for a glass of vino! Cheers!

Sip it slowly now!

My dad did it, hes another monstrous fuck face! Though unfortunately they never left the country!

OK. This is now surreal. He wants to have the laptop that he thinks he bought the kids for christmas so that he can install a webcam!!!!! There is no bloody way he is getting my laptop.... he is a cheeky fucker... can he not bloody well worry about telling the poor children that he is going to Australia and that he wants them to leave their lovely school before worrying about the techical side of how they can speak to him when he has fucked off! I am soooooooooo mad....

And and and!!! He has cancelled having them this weekend as his partner supposedly has mild menengitis (sp)... I think he is paving the way for saying he wont be at court next week.... AAAA GGGG RRRR HHHHH!!! xx

Why not try bargaining with the little toad? Eg, you give me x cash, I give you visa docs, you give me whatever, I don;t shop you for fraud, you behave like an actual human, I won't chop off your tiny nadger and gift wrap for your nasty girlfriend?

Ha ha ha. Thx Jay.. you made me titter. I am trying to not respond to him in any which way. He is so fucking arrogant. If I enter into a discussion he will make me even more cross. I think I will crack open a bottle of beer to calm my nerves. Is that allowed before 6 o'clock? The lovelies are watching telly and eating pizza... he could use the frigging web cam to see what an unfit mother I am!!!!! I am soooooooooooooo cross!!

Ha ha ha. Thx Jay.. you made me titter. I am trying to not respond to him in any which way. He is so fucking arrogant. If I enter into a discussion he will make me even more cross. I think I will crack open a bottle of beer to calm my nerves. Is that allowed before 6 o'clock? The lovelies are watching telly and eating pizza... he could use the frigging web cam to see what an unfit mother I am!!!!! I am soooooooooooooo cross!!

My god...he just doesnt stop does he...

I was speaking to the mum of the family i nay for...she divorved her ex 10yrs ago. He for the past year stopped paying half his maintenance. So she emailed him asking him to pay up and he gives some crap story of how he hasnt got the money to back date it...though hes on £80,000 a year! He owes her £3,500 grand nearly. And hes trying to say that she wont get it becuase he had to pay for his removal van 10 yrs ago!!!!!! When actually she used thier joint money from equity in house to pay for it!