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To still be quite fat although had baby 4 months ago?

48 replies

Leedsmum2b · 26/04/2009 19:01

Have nowhere to hide now that summer is coming and I can't pretend all the weight is the baby any more

Am a long way off my pre-pregnancy weight, which was quite hefty in the first place.

So please either tell me that I'm allowed at least a year, or give me a kick up the backside to get me started!

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MitchyInge · 26/04/2009 19:02

well my youngest is 10 next month and I weigh 2 stone more than I did at full term with her so what is THAT about?

Tourniquet · 26/04/2009 19:02

Are you happy with your current size? if so, stay that way. Do something to change yourself in and when you're ready!You don't have to pretend its the baby, we are what we are, if people don't like it, tough!

BoffinMum · 26/04/2009 19:03

You can hide behind me if you like. I have gone huge. I think we can safely allow ourselves as long to get the weight off as it took to put it on, i.e. 9.5 months.

llareggub · 26/04/2009 19:04

Haven't you heard the old "9 months on, 9 months off?"

Relax. Get out there, walk a lot with the buggy and you'll feel a lot better about things whatever your size.

Disenchanted3 · 26/04/2009 19:04

me too,

DD 4 months old am 13 stone

want to be 11, well 10.5.

spicemonster · 26/04/2009 19:04

10 months to put it on, 10 months to take it off IMO. Now warmer weather is starting and your DC is still small, you can do walking, walking, walking and that's fun too!

Gentle · 26/04/2009 19:05

I think it's 9 months up and 9 months down. Are you breastfeeding? If so, you might find (as I did) that it falls off between 4 and 6 months as your baby gets closer to weaning.

expatinscotland · 26/04/2009 19:07

I'm 6 months postpartum with no. 3, a DS, and still carrying an extra stone and a half.

I've quit worrying about it and focusing on eating well and exercising daily.

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Leedsmum2b · 26/04/2009 19:08

Ah, thank you all. I'm quite happy myself - I never had that much figure to lose in the first place - and my childbearing hips did me proud during, er, childbearing. However the rest of my NCT group have instantly snapped back to skinny jeans etc and I'm wondering if I'm letting the side down.

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brettgirl2 · 26/04/2009 19:12

4 months is nothing.

My DD is 10 days and I am a stone and a half more than pre-pg.

I think it will take me a year to lose the weight - I don't do diets, I find they just make me hungry and obsessed with chocolate and cakes. Allow your body to re-adjust in its own time I think.

Bellebelle · 26/04/2009 19:16

4 months is nothing, you should just be focusing on your baby. You may find it starts to come off once your baby is more active and you don't get the chance to sit down, definitely give yourself at least the 10 mths and if you're happy with yourself don't worry about it.

MuffinBaker · 26/04/2009 19:17

You are standing up for the side!!

My baby is nearly 4 and I am still heavier than I was.

nickytwotimes · 26/04/2009 19:17

I agree that 4 mths is nothing.

I found that when ds was about 8 ir 9 mths I lost most of the baby weight. I was out and about walking him on the buggy all the time and didn't diet or even try to lose weight. It was nice to wear my old clothes again, but other than that, I really wasn't bothered.

You are allowed at least a year in my book, Leeds! Bet you notice things changeing around the 9mths maark though.

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Leedsmum2b · 26/04/2009 19:19

Yes, am bf - also doing quite a lot of walking, but think that mainly offsets the creme egg habit

I like the sound of the weight falling off between 4 and 6 months - will just have to sort out diet I guess, rather than using bf as excuse for astronomical calorie intake.

(btw, is it just me, or would you buy a food product with the brand name 'Calorie'? It sounds deliciously crunchy and chocolatey to me. Perhaps am obsessing about food a bit too much these days)

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MrsMattie · 26/04/2009 19:20

I feel the same as you@Leedsmum. I have lost 2 stone since birth, in fairness, but it dropped off me fairly easily, really. Now I have that stubborn bit left, plus pregnancy belly (seeing doc next week to find out if I have that annoying separayion of abdominal muscles thingy).

I didn't lose a lb until my first child was 6 months, then lost a little bit between 6 -12 mths, then after that it started to come off more quickly (with a bit of healthy eating and exercise). I live in hope!

deaconblue · 26/04/2009 19:49

perfectly reasonable. I suggest being a bit fat for at least 9 months and then spending 3 months working hard to shift it so that by the time baby is 1 you are back to how you used to be (ish). that's what I've done and it was bloody lovely eating like a trougher for 9 months!!!

FrannyandZooey · 26/04/2009 19:54

LOL at the possibility of it being "unreasonable" to be fat

qwertpoiuy · 26/04/2009 19:59

I've had 3 children, and each time it has taken me 14-16 months to get back to my original weight. I don't diet, though I do walking and the odd bit of running.
The longer it takes you to lose the weight, the more likely tou are to retain the weight loss.

I think you should just relax about the whole thig, Penneys and Matalan do nice big size clothes at a cheap price which make you look fabulous, and you will be so happy to ditch them once you reach your original weight - which you will undoubtedly do once you start running after your dc!

goodnightmoon · 26/04/2009 20:15

the adage is true for me, as i have happily dipped below pre-pregnancy weight 9 months on.

it has taken quite a lot of jogging though, and some serious cutbacks on cakes and muffins.

Jacksmama · 26/04/2009 20:30

You're being completely unreasonable, you lazy so-and-so. You're supposed to drop the baby weight within two day of giving birth. Two further days on, when your milk comes in, you're supposed to burn the excess you were carrying before you got pregnant. Within six weeks, you're expected to have washboard abs (even if, or perhaps especially if, you've never had them before). Your boobs are supposed to sit higher on your chest throughout breastfeeding than they have been since kindergarten, as is your backside. And all this, while keeping the house looking perfect, as well as yourself and your other DCs.
What is so bloody difficult about that?????? Thousands of women do it without any difficulty whatsoever.

Too bad none of them are real.

Or if they are, they've been air-brushed.

Original poster
Leedsmum2b · 27/04/2009 09:46

Thanks for all the fab replies. In particular Jacksmama - that's what I need - an airbrush!

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Tommy · 27/04/2009 09:50

it took you 9 monhts to put on the weight so I reckon that a minumum of 9 months to lose it is perfectly reasonable.

I was complaining to a friends that, 2 years on, I hadn't lost all my baby weight. She pointed out that neither had she and her youngest was having his 18th birthday soon

Try not to worry about it and enjoy your lovely baby

purpleduck · 27/04/2009 09:55

In a few years you will look back and think "OMG, my baby was ONLY 4 months old and I was giving myself a hard time....?"

You are doing fine. People who snap back into their skinny jeans are very lucky, but that is not what is "expected" (by who!!?) or what you "should" be doing.

Enjoy your baby

Jacksmama · 27/04/2009 15:46
Stayingsunnygirl · 27/04/2009 15:56

My youngest will be 12 this week. Can I still use the baby weight excuse?