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AIBU?

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To still be quite fat although had baby 4 months ago?

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Leedsmum2b · 26/04/2009 19:01

Have nowhere to hide now that summer is coming and I can't pretend all the weight is the baby any more

Am a long way off my pre-pregnancy weight, which was quite hefty in the first place.

So please either tell me that I'm allowed at least a year, or give me a kick up the backside to get me started!

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Jacksmama · 27/04/2009 16:19

Yes you can. But only until your baby has a baby of his own. But then you'll be a grandmum and they're supposed to be round and comfortable.

Flibbertyjibbet · 27/04/2009 16:33

I bf both my sons for 6 months and found that both times the weight only came off when I stopped feeding. As if my body was keeping fat stores to make milk. I've heard this of a few other women too.

A good friend of mine had a baby same time as me, she hardly had any bump, hardly put any weight on. We were at a surestart playgroup thingy when the babies were a couple of weeks old, she announced that she was back in her normal jeans 2 weeks post partum and that bfing had done it.
She was taken to one side by the sure start community midwife and told that her snapping back into shape after 2 weeks was NOT normal and best not to tell the other mums about it in her 'so why haven't you lost weight you lard arses' type voice.

In my very early days of internetting I found an american mum forum that asked how long after baby were you still wearing maternity jeans... for me it was 6 months. One woman on that forum said THREE YEARS!!!!

ingles2 · 27/04/2009 16:40

nevermind 9 months on, 9 months off....
in my case it was 9 weeks on (stuffed myself) 9 years off!
Don't worry leeds mum, you can take at least a year. I found having another baby quickly gives you even longer....

Baisey · 27/04/2009 17:29

Gah, 3 days after giving birth I was back in my size 8 skinny jeans, unfortunately during maternity leave I developed an obsessive liking to chocolate digestives.
I eventually gave my skinny jeans to my 13 year old niece...

peppapighastakenovermylife · 27/04/2009 17:44

Im a bit back to front...I lost weight during pregnancy...after giving birth I was a stone lighter than when I started and in jeans I hadnt been able to fit in before I got pregnant (I had hyperemesis and then was just sick until I gave birth).

So I was smug for, oh, 3 days maybe. Then I ate and ate and ate and am now 2 stone heavier than when I gave birth - DD is 7 months lol.

Incidentally I did the same with DS and swore I would never do it again

Oops!

bohemianbint · 27/04/2009 20:17

My DS is 8m and I've only just got my BMI back to within a healthy level. It never got back down here in between children though. Found it quite hard to lose it after DS1, but have been a bit more single minded this time. Can be done, if you want to!

canttouchthis · 27/04/2009 20:29

took me one year to get back to pre-pg size. why is everyone in such a hurry?? let it happen naturally, you took 9 months get have a baby, it takes at least the same to get back to normal weight you were before.

YABU. Just enjoy your baby.

naturalblonde · 27/04/2009 20:35

It took me a year to lose the weight after having DD1, I bfed for 9 months, then it fell off naturally after that, don't know how heavy I was though, I just measured it by which jeans fit.

JamieJay · 27/04/2009 20:42

9 months on - 9 months off. So you've got at least another 5 months before you even need to think about it

Dysgu · 27/04/2009 20:46

Can I still claim the 9 months off even though DD2 arrived at 35 weeks?

DD1 arrived at 32 weeks and I seemed to lose the extra tummy okay after her. This time I feel huge - bought a size 14 swimming suit that, when i got it home and tried it on, was a struggle to get on! GAH!

Poppity · 27/04/2009 20:52

I was the same as other posters with breastfeeding. I lost very little until I stopped when each was 2.
The whole 'all your weight comes off if you bf' doesn't work for everyone!

hester · 27/04/2009 20:59

Yep, 9 months on 9 months off. Only with me it was 9 months on 24 months off. I couldn't lose the weight until I stopped breastfeeding (which I did up to 22 months).

4 months is NOTHING!

Asana · 27/04/2009 21:02

Flibbertyjibbet, I'm afraid that I think the community midwife was out of order telling your friend it was NOT normal, thereby implying that your friend was not normal

Unfortunately, regardless of how she said it, I'm guessing that the insecurities (real or implied/percieved) of the other women present would have chosen to interpret it as a jibe whether or not it was intended as such. IMO, that is hardly your friend's fault, nor should it be made her concern.

Flibbertyjibbet · 27/04/2009 21:08

Er, not having any baby weight to lose and being back in your pre-pregnancy jeans two weeks after having a baby isn't really normal though is it?

Of course the midwife wasn't making my friend feel like SHE wasn't normal!

And this was relayed to me by my friend who took it in good humour - no need to be so uppity on her behalf she is very capable of doing her own uppityness if its needed!

Asana · 27/04/2009 21:36

Your post did read "... best not to tell the other mums about it in her 'so why haven't you lost weight you lard arses' type voice ...". From this, I presumed that the MW believed that your friend was being malicious in some way. If you had also mentioned that she took it in good humour, I probably would think the same but would have qualified my comment with a "Good on her!" comment or similar.

Your friend losing her baby weight so quickly may definitely be unusual - however, to say it isn't "really normal" [by that very phrase] implies that it is abnormal, a term/implication I find to be generally unacceptable when referring to another person (irrespective of whether the person it is directed at believes it to be so or not).

There was also no need to refer to me as "uppity", another word/term I find to be rather offensive

Anyway, all this is besides the point. To the OP, hope I haven't hijacked your thread too much

FrankMustard · 27/04/2009 21:43

I've had 4 and it took me 2 yrs after my first dc to feel like my body was anything like "normal" again. With all of them it took a while to shift the weight and I certainly hung onto extra weight between no's 1-3 but then after ds4 it came off more easily for some reason. Don't sweat it, just do sensible things like eating healthily and exercise and it'll come off of its own accord in time. Too early to be getting hung up about it and for anyone to judge that you should be back to pre-pregnancy state IMO.

LeonieSoSleepy · 27/04/2009 22:18

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Leedsmum2b · 28/04/2009 13:10

Splendid, thanks everyone, feeling much better!

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4andnotout · 28/04/2009 13:16

I came home in my normal jeans after having dd4 but as im a fat arse size 20 anyway it was nothing impressive!
I was a size 8 when i fell pg with dd1 and finished up a 20 and have stayed around the same size 7 years and 3 more babies later.

kidowner · 28/04/2009 13:25

Have some choc or cheese everyday with a glass of wine or Baileys, ditch the wheat and potatoes.
Have fruit, veg,rice, fish and some nice roasts dinners and traditional English breakfasts to look forward to.

Use a creche possibly at a leisure centre to enable you to go swimming or take your baby too and go for regular walks with a friend and your buggies.

You will feel fit and healthy and the weight will fall off easily if you follow the advice.

Please try!

kidowner · 28/04/2009 13:30

P.s I was a healthy size 8/10 before, 5 babies and breast feeding for England later I'm still a healthy size 8/10 (5'4') and feel energetic but you must keep the iron levels up at all costs!

KingRolo · 28/04/2009 13:40

kidowner - I'm not sure it's a good idea to cut carbs out if you are bfing.

kidowner · 28/04/2009 17:12

Did not cut out carb, just most junk contains potato or wheat so if you just limit those the rest follows naturally.

I don't know about you, but wheat makes my tummy bloat and I hate that, and it doesn't make me feel good to have a big tum when there's no baby in there!

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