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AIBU?

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To think P over-reacted??

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LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:03

My P announced two days ago that he is going camping this weekend. Fair enough don't mind at all, he's been before (albeit I never have nights away from P or DCs).

He asked me last night if I wouldn't mind getting his stuff together. Also OK, I don't mind, usually get his stuff ready.

This morning, on his way out of the door for work he asked me to get him a new sleeping bag and, if "cheap enough", a new tent.

We are skint and really don't have the money to buy expensive camping equipment at the moment.

So I went to a local large supermarket and bought him a camping set which contains, a tent, a sleeping bag, an inflatable pillow and a roll out sleeping mat, all for £19.99.

Bargain I thought, he doesn't go camping often (once a year maybe but this year is going to Glastonbury too). It would be anything amazing but for a few nights would do fine.

I told him about it over the phone, he didn't sound impressed.

Anyway, I've been helping my parents move house all day and rushed home after picking DCs up from school to get all his stuff ready, bought him loads of food to take too. Everything was ironed, folded, ready to go.

So P gets home, sees the camping set and examines it thoroughly, making some huffing noises whilst doing so.

Said "I wanted a sleeping bag with a hood", "the sleeping mat is going to be like cardboard", "it's lowest of the low grade equipment", "it's bargain basement stuff".

Really keeping on, so we had a bit of a row. He said "f*ck this" in front of DD who copied exactly what he said.

AIBU to feel I am taken for granted slightly??

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MrsJamin · 24/04/2009 19:04

YANBU, it sounds like you're not appreciated by him

LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:04

Sorry 6th line should say "it wouldn't be anything amazing"

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TheProfiteroleThief · 24/04/2009 19:05

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TheArmadillo · 24/04/2009 19:05

YANBU.

WHy are you getting all his stuff ready?

Take the equipment adn go on his camping break. He can stay at home with the kids

coolma · 24/04/2009 19:06

I would be so steaming angry I would have either taken it straight back or chucked it at him. How dare he.

No you are not being U. Seething for you here...

LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:06

Thank you Mrs Jamin, I really don't feel like I am TBH

I really try my best. Got him all his favourite crisps, chocolate, biscuits, even remembered ketchup for his sausages and burgers.....

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boredwithmyoldname · 24/04/2009 19:07

honestly MEN

yanbu

LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:08

Thanks all, he kinda makes me feel like it's my fault really.....

Anyway he's gone now and taken the set, stating "it will have to do"..........

I did say I would take it back, he just smirked at me??

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traceybath · 24/04/2009 19:08

You are so not unreasonable.

Are you his personal shopper/slave.

A little gratitude wouldn't have killed him and if he was that bothered he should have bought it himself.

boredwithmyoldname · 24/04/2009 19:09

i hope it rains heavily for him

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EightiesChick · 24/04/2009 19:09

He said "if cheap enough"! And from what you've said he didn't mention wanting a hood etc so how were you to know? YANBU. And I wouldn't pack or get anything for him going to Glastonbury or whatever the next time is either. In fact, isn't it time you booked a weekend away for yourself (then ask him to get you some new sandals for it, and then complain because they're not Jimmy Choos)?

LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:09

Yes hope it rains too now !!

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LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:12

No, I will not be buying him anything again, although after 11 years of doing so, it'll probably take some getting used to !!!!

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MuffinBaker · 24/04/2009 19:12

You so run around after him too much.

Make that the last time he treats you like a skivy.

laza222 · 24/04/2009 19:13

YANBU!!! Tell him to get his own stuff next time! If he has very specific requirements then he shouldn't ask someone to do his shopping for him.

LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:13

So looking forward to this weekend on my own !!!!

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Juxal · 24/04/2009 19:14

What a tosser. Hope he comes home with a really good present for you, and if he doesn't - ask for one!

LumpyChump · 24/04/2009 19:14

Thanks all, glad I was justifiably angry with him !!

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whoisasking · 24/04/2009 19:15

Rain? I had stinking snow in April one year in the New Forest.

Snow would be brilliant

YANBU, and he is being an utter ARSE.

mamas12 · 24/04/2009 19:16

No I think a new tack of always buying the WRONG stuff is on the cards here. I mean he could have been on his trip snuggled into a lovely Barbie sleeping bag and tent now couldn't he.

mankymummy · 24/04/2009 19:23

imagine if that was your child that had acted that way...

i think a few words would come to mind...

ungrateful
rude
manner-less

please for gods sake next time let him do his own bloody shopping and dont pack for the ungrateful git.

mamas... love the barbie thing.

or.. maybe next time collect some red ants and place them carefully in the bottom of the sleeping bag before rolling up...