to SECRETLY want a boy?

[bratnav]

I know I know, not good to have a preference

Our 20 week scan is today and DH and I have decided to find out what flavour we are having.

Is it really wrong of me to want a boy? I have 2 DDs (6 and 5) and DSD (5) and my sister had a boy last year, so it just seems like a boy would be the nicest thing. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that I would have problems loving another girl or anything, but I just yearn for a boy

I have told NO-ONE, not even DH about this, I feel really embarassed about it.

i had so many 'comiserations' when i discovered i was having a third ds!!!

sweetkitty, a woman at a shop checkout once looked at ds3 and said @Oh you tried for a girl but you were disappointed!" I was so that she would say such a thing in front of the boys!

Slightly odd reaction from DSis when I told her though, 'Oh DH must be pleased, men always want a boy really don't they'

Yaaaaaaaaay! So pleased you have your DS

Ignore your sis - she's just jealous! People always make those daft comments, we had them too (we have a DD & a DS) everyone kept saying how thrilled DH must have been, as if he had been dissapointed DD had been a girl

I think that is strange. Plenty of mums want boys too!

Loads of people said to me how happy my FIL must be as it was the first boy born to one of his sons to carry on the name (er..hello, didn't realise we were in the middle ages).

I think I was so caught up in my own feelings it honestly didn't occur to me

people are strange bratnav i wouldn't worry! my dp really wanted a girl, but now im so glad ds3 is a boy obviously as him and ds2 are only 18m apart they play so easily together and share clothes

Bratnav -

C O N G R A T U L A T I O N S !!!!

I think many Mums to be have a preference (for a variety of reasons) and I don't see any reason why they should feel the need to keep it a secret. They are just stating a preference.... if it's not the one they get, it doesn't mean the baby will be any less loved and adored, just sometimes slightly less practical and sometimes a slight disapointment not to have all one sex/one of each sex.... it's life.

Congrats that's great. I never really had a preference as struggled with m/cs etc but lots of my friends did and most went on to have the desired sex! I make a point of saying 'how nice' or nice comments to mums of all girls or all boys. I think it is also nice to have same sex sibs to play together etc as it is also nice to experience one of each. My friend had 2 DSs first and got so many 'are you dissapointed'? comments rather than congrats!!! I had 2DD first and didn't get so much but my DH probably did.