Speaking as a proffesional Nanny and Mummy, with over 20 years experience...
I would like to stress that, that does not qualify me to make any judgements on either party but please may I may a make a few general observations.
I imagine you are are a reasonable employer and devoted mummy.
I am guessing, the young lady concerned, decided that registering with a Child Care Agency was not only a legitimate but fairly easy route to access the UK, travel and improve her English.
I am sorry it did not work for you. It CAN work but we have to remind ourselves that although most girls and guys who travel to the UK under this umbrella ARE intelligent individuals with, generally, a fantastic command of the English language. They are not your Vocational Nanny/Mary Poppins (like myself, smile!) Many are tapping into The UK child care market for a brief period in their lives. They are our tomorrows Accountants, Lawyers and Linguists. AND thats OK.
I would like to think the lady you employed from the Ukraine did care but I imagine, from her perspective, she was not only having to adapt to our culture and communicate soley in English but she probably discovered, quite early on, that being soley responsible for a little person for such a long day and every day is a mammoth task, even for a newly qualified Nursery Nurse who has the most beautiful nurturing heart!
We all know that being a parent can be enormously challenging but so incredibly rewarding!
This lady, maybe, would be more suited to an Au Pair position. As a Nanny I have worked alongside the most fabulous au pairs and I have also, sadly, met some High Society Nannies who I would not consider employing in a million years!
You may benefit from discussing and clarifying with your husband whether this is the most favourable child care route or whether you would be more comfortable extending your little ones day at Nursery.
Maybe you might like to consider interviewing a broad spectrum of Nannies, qualified, experienced with or without their own child, live in and out. This will give you an excellent guage of what the market has to offer. I hope you are pleasantly surprised!The girl/guy for you may appear in any of these guises!
There is no right or wrong. You just need to feel comfortable with your decision.
I DO hope this helps!
PS I have oodles of experience and I am passionate about what I do but because I have always struggled with dyslexia I have had great difficulty gaining paper qualifications. I am presently wading through a Pre School Diploma as I find it very tedious transferring the knowledge and experience I do have, to paper. You may find that telephone references and a sample day where you are working alongside a potential candidate give you a truer picture of what that person is all about, rather than making your decision on qualifications alone.
Wishing you the every best in your search!
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