To be annoyed at being banned from mil's work for breastfeeding there?

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I have been visiting my Mother in law at her work (real estate agent) for 2 years now and just walk out the back to the office and have a cup of tea or she looks after my dd while i get groceries etc. None of the staff (5 women 1 man) get paid to be there, only if they sell a house they get commision.
I had my ds 11 weeks ago and brought him in to see her. She offered me a cuppa and told me to feed him, (i breastfeed) which i did.

A week or so later she told me the man complained to the boss and she told my MIL that i wasnt to be allowd past the front desk! (They are all really nice to me there and even gave presents when ds was born) I didnt think anyone minded and am kinda miffed that breasfeeding has offended someone! I wasnt leaping around the office with my boobs out, i was just sitting in the corner being discreet....

Im back! (im in nz so im awake when most of you are asleep and vice versa) My 2 year old Dd just sits in the office in the corner on the floor playing with toys, or my mil takes her to Mc Donalds which is right next door. Usually there are at max 3 people including my mil there, and a new boss who is very unfair (doesnt let them check their emails at work but she does it) and they all just work part time, it is a very relaxed atmpsphere.
I presumed my mil had permission from the new boss, and even asked her (before the bfeeding inncident) if it was ok with every one if i came to see her there. I only left my dd with her twice and and never my 10 week old baby.

If they had a problem tho id rather them just say, not blame it on offensive breastfeeding

P.S i am not a troll. What ever that is!?

You all seem to think i would barge on in on a daily basis and drop my kids off for extended periods while i breeze around the shops!!!

This is not how it is! Maybe you should all get your facts right before you point the finger..

Mil would ALWAYS offer to have her, as my local supermarket only has room in a trolley for one child and my ds has only once not SCREAMED the house down while doing groceries, he just hates it, so its quite a stressful thing for me to do. My dd tries to "help" by putting everthing in to the trolley... not fun. My mils office is 3 shops down from the super market and i just would go straight there and back. I would usually go at around 12 anyway so she and the others would be on lunch break.

Last time she invited me over, they were all crowded round the mans computer (including the boss) hooting with laughter about some video on u tube, while scoffing biscuits and drinking coffee! My toddler was actually the quiet unobtrusive one sitting on the floor playing with toys and reading books.

As for them not getting paid, i mean not by the hour like a normal office job. If that was the case i wouldnt even come in.

Yes i have had a job, im a hairdresser, getting paid by the hour. Even then my colleuges would bring their babies in when they popped in for a visit and a coffee...

I do live in a small town, maybe its more relaxed in nz, i dunno

No Ocado in NZ then, clearly.

Thankfully children aren't allowed in my workplace. The pretext reason is insurance apparently. This is why work is my haven.

Well op, if you aren't a troll then you are just all about you.

Expecting a firm of estate agents to accomodate your shopping trips, and your other thread complaining that your sil didn't tell you she was pg till 12 weeks and you have to tell us 'I got pregnant first time with both babies and am 12 years younger than her'

What on earth did we need to know that for?

Are the schools not back in nz?

I told you i got preg 1st go with both and am younger cos i thort that might have something to do with why she didnt tell me..? And as i said, i never was angry at her for not telling me, i just was puzzled as to why she wouldnt... Im just not the secretive type of person and just told everyone equally and at about 7 weeks with both.

Im not all about me, read my other thread about my husband and you will know that.

As for a firm of estate agents to accomodate my shopping trips, i was invited, i never just turned up to drop my dd off! And even asked my mil if it really was ok to visit etc. I only ever did it like twice, and other times we would go out for lunch. Anyway, as i said in my original thread, i dont have a problem with not being allowed back, just annoyed that they would say it was breastfeeding, as if its wrong and disgraceful to breastfeed!!

Oh and school is still on holiday at the mo in nz... what has that got do do with it??

Well, if you were invited in the past, you have been "uninvited" now and that's entirely appropriate and within their rights. While I certainly defend anyone's right to breastfeed whenever and wherever their baby needs feeding, you have no "right" to be there in the first place and therefore can't complain if someone doesn't want you there to breastfeed or otherwise. (In a different situtation, I would however fully support a colleauge whose baby was brought in several times a day to BF, or needed time to express.)

Your MIL is putting her colleagues and boss in an awkward position. If your colleagues position I would also be unhappy and have requested that you shouldn't come into the office. I think the firm (colleagues and boss) have been reasonable about this and you and you MIL have unreasonable expectations. They were probably fine the first couple of times but have now had enough and are laying down the rules.

As they are on commission, it's not all about waiting for phone to ring - they also have follow ups to do, research etc, and if a customer comes in, they need to be able to focus and present a totally professional image. Even more so in the current climate when there is so little work around.

yea fair enough. I can see their side of it too, other peoples toddlers arnt fun. Just was annoyed that it was the bfeeding, but not annoyed if theyr getting sick of kids in ofice (my dhs brother and wife have 2 kids too and visit her there too)