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Original poster

is this old fashioned? for DH to Carve the Joint

47 replies

SlartyBartFast · 19/04/2009 21:39

i always ask him, though he generlaly makes a pigs ear and was annoying me today, wiping the floor with the cloth ffs!!

so i did it,
but is this a silly oldfashioned habit or a common occurence in households, or both?

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Jackstini · 19/04/2009 21:41

I always carve - dh is rubbish at it and is happy for me to do. (To be fair he is prob better than me at everything else domesticated!)
My uncle always makes a big performance out of it though and loves doing it

pinkmagic1 · 19/04/2009 21:42

My Dad always carves the roast in his house, as my grandfather did, but I do it in our house. My DH wouldn't have a clue!

Vaguely · 19/04/2009 21:42

seems odd to keep asking someone to do something you care about the outcome of if you know they'll do a shite job. even odder if you do it out of oldfashioned 'tradition' or something.

poopscoop · 19/04/2009 21:42

My DH always carves. My father always carves. Just they way we were brought up and we continued on that way.

nametaken · 19/04/2009 21:43

Oh God it'a a caveman type I hunted for the gazelle so I'll dish it out type of thing.

Anyone can carve a joint providing the knife is nice and sharp.

RumourOfAHurricane · 19/04/2009 21:45

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DanJARMouse · 19/04/2009 21:45

My DH and my Dad are both the carvers.... but then they are both proffessionally trained chefs!

Medee · 19/04/2009 21:46

Quite early in our relationship I invited my husband to carve - he was (1) reluctant and (2) not very good at it, so I have done it ever since.

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SlartyBartFast · 19/04/2009 21:46

well he does mash the spuds, cos he is good at it.
plus i do everything else so it is some sort of involvement, although he makes a mean gravy too!

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scienceteacher · 19/04/2009 21:46

I hack, DH carves.

It's his contribution to the roast dinner.

ComeOVeneer · 19/04/2009 21:48

My dad always did (and still does). I always do it because dh is pants at it and makes a right mess, and as everyone knows I can't abide mess!

Hulababy · 19/04/2009 21:49

I sometimes get DH to carve (although neither of us are that great at it) simpy as it means he can get that done whilst I m concentrating on other last minute bits of the dinner.

hatwoman · 19/04/2009 21:50

we always argue about carving - not who does it but where and when. imo joints should be carved at the table. diners get given a plate of meat and start helping themselves to veg etc. but dh insists that the meat be carved away from the table while gravy is being made.

in fact he feels so strongly about this that having peered over my shoulder a minute ago he is now ranting away about how ridiculous carving at the table is and what a pain in the neck it is and how everyone should just get a complete plate of food dumped in front of them....in fact I think I've touched a nerve...despite being right I'm never going to win this argument

BigBellasBeerBelly · 19/04/2009 21:51

My dad always carves as well!

Funny isn't it.

Thinking about it, I always ask DH to carve, although that's because I'm busy doing the gravy or veg or something.

He isn't very good at it and I think he worries he's not doing it properly...

Original poster
SlartyBartFast · 19/04/2009 21:52

i like the way you do it hatwoman

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ComeOVeneer · 19/04/2009 21:58

Shudder, no too messy to do it at the table. I do it in the kitchen, place meat on a warmed serving platter and the whole meal is put on the table for everyone to help themselves.

thirtypence · 19/04/2009 22:02

My MIL always asks a man to carve. The man then faffs about finding a knife until all the veggies are cold, and then by the time FIL has said grace everything is cold.

When they eat here I cut the chicken into 10 chunks and put into a warmed dish. Everyone gets warm everything and no thin dry slices.

BigBellasBeerBelly · 19/04/2009 22:02

CoV admit it you have a hostess trolley

serin · 19/04/2009 22:06

LOL, DH is a lifelong vegetarian, he would probably be sick if I asked him to chop up the roast. I so want an electric carving knife, but then I do get PMT

Remotew · 19/04/2009 22:06

If I had one I would want him to carve the joint, my dad always did. Bit like the BBQ somehow the fellas mostly do the cooking. Old fashioned but perhaps it's the caveman instinct.

ComeOVeneer · 19/04/2009 22:07

No hostess trolley, but I do have 5 of these

BigBellasBeerBelly · 19/04/2009 22:11

Aha CoV. A kind of indian restaurant heating platter come serving dish combo! I want to come for dinner at yours!

serin electric carving knives always make me think of the rocky horror show

2rebecca · 19/04/2009 22:13

My dad always did it and my first husband did it, but my second husband's mum did it and he is rubbish, too much of a perfectionist so the meat is cold by the time he's finished, same with crispy duck. I've now taken over, but do feel it's a job a "real man" should be taught to do by their dads.

ComeOVeneer · 19/04/2009 22:16

You fill the bottom layer with boiling water then put the dish with the food ontop. It is heated by special gel burners underneath to keep the water (and therfore the dish/food warm). I only use them when hosting (not just for the 4 of us, although I do have an electric plate warmer that I use every weekend for the roast!). They are great for doing a curry night.

BigBellasBeerBelly · 19/04/2009 22:20

CoV you learn something every day.

You're a super duper snazzy cake lady aren't you? I think I've seen your cake threads in the past - you are very clever.