AIBU to show concern or should i just butt out?

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I probably am bu actually.
My sister got pg on a one night stand on purpose, all she has wanted all her life is a baby, well now she has one.
Shes never been the most mentally stable person and is regulary in counciling and on medication. I have put up with her for a long long time, but eventually when she got pg on purpose, then threatened to come to my house and tear me to shreds when i didnt congratulate her, i cut all contact with her.
She had her baby by c section 3 weeks ago. She has no where to live, and is dossing on a mates sofa and has done for years with no intention of moving. I did sent the baby some presents with my dad and i did get a text back. Ive been checking on her face book and shes posting about being drunk the whole time, drinkiing pints, going out and 'being naughty' etc...... walking for miles and not eating. She is breast feeding.
I am concerned about this and spoke to my dad ( who up until a few weeks ago i had no contact with either) He has spoken to her and as usual she has gone off on one, he told her it was me that told him and now shes posting on her facebook that i need to get a life and im a jealous cow and all her friends are agreeing, laughing and telling her they will get her drunk.
Facebook is the spawn of the devil, i already know that, and i know i should just butt out, but im so concerned for that baby.
AIBU to be concerned, and should i just forgett about it totally?
( already thinking the answer is yes)

chequers, i did not say it was a bad thing. But it has not helped her in any way at all. I was saying it so people realised that she did have problems and i wasnt making it up or exaggerating. It also effects the way she thinks and does things. Which does make a difference to how you deal with someone. I myself work in mental health so i do know a little bit about it.

I also said about how she has her help in a different area as it was questioned how she was holding down a job. - so i let you know that her work do not know. Also, plenty of people with serious mental health issues manage to hold down jobs very well. It a lot of cases it is that which keeps them going.

i do not want to be in contact with her ever again. I cannot deal with her anymore, i do not have the energy. I did not want to get involved at all but saw the postings and immediatley felt worried.

TBH, i still dont know what to do, if anything. I have no proof of anything, but having worked in social services i also know that by the time you have proof of something its normally too late. I think she needs support and guidance and i dont know where i can get if from for her and how i can get her to listen.

or maybe i should be like the rest of my family and think that as i doesnt directly affect me i should mind my own business>>>>>>>

her profile is open to viewing, she hasnt made it private. I am not her friend on facebook.

I do find it odd that one the one hand you say you don't want to get involved at all, but on the other you have actively sought to view her facebook page.

You need to decide one way or the other and I can only reiterate what I've already said - if you genuinely believe that this child is in danger then you must report it.

I do think you need to keep whatever bad feeling has gone on between your sister and you out of it though.

yes, honeslty i know how it sounds.
she did get suspended for being arrested though.
i dont think she is an alcoholic, but i dont think she should be drinking that much and bf and being in charge of a baby by herself. ( cant count her friend as a person to look after it)

also, there are a high percentage of people working in mental health, that have mental health issues. I cant remeber that stats at the momment, but i could find out.

"I have no proof of anything"

But you say her facebook page is open to anyone to view - SS may take that as an indication that all is not well.

chequers, i wanted to see how she was doing after the baby was born. I even sent a present for her and the baby.
I wanted her to do doing well, in the end i would have liked to have made up with her, i dont like it being like this.
Ive checked her page since as im increassinly worried about the odd things she is posting.
its too hard to decide. if i do nothing i feel bad for the baby, but also that ive let my sister down and i should be looking out for her.
if i do something i could make it all worse and cause more problems.

yep, anyone can view her page, and all her ramblings and all her pics - including ones of me and my dd which i wish were not on there but she wont take down.
Shes got all her details on there too.
ANd she knows that i have been viewing it, but still has not ajusted the privacy settings.
I will not link to her page though

people post a lot of shit on facebook. I post complete crap quite often to irritate and wind up certain people - they would be outraged thinking it was true, but it isnt and all my close/real friends know that.

in fairness, as you say your sister knows you are viewing her, how do you know shes not posting all kinds of shit on there to provoke a reaction from you or other family members? You said that your dad told her you had seen stuff on there - quite possibly she's pissed off that a) shes getting a bollocking from your dad thanks to you and b) you havent contacted her since baby was born but you have had a go about her to your dad - i appreciate this was out of concern, but she quite possibly sees it as you not bothering about her/not being happy about her having this baby.

Maybe she would really like one of you to visit her, offer support etc but in view of your history feels she cant ask so instead is trying to get a reaction? I can entirely appreciate she has probably been a nightmare in the past, but having a baby does inevitably change you.

I would be very hesitant to report this in haste to SS without any first hand evidence.

I also do feel you sound credibly disapproving of her in general - I'm not quite sure why you feel her becoming pregnant following a one night stand is apparent evidence of her being a bad person (as someone who did that myself)

Well nailing my colours to the mask, I think this is a load of crap, none of it adds up and that's exactly what SS would say, so if you really do have concerns I suggest they come from your parents with hard evidence.