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to feel incredibly proud......

49 replies

BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 08:25

.....of myself for having exclusivly breastfed my beautiful daughter for 6 months and 1 week and counting?

We got past the painful cracked nips and the first feed in public (now I'll get em out anywhere!) and I'm just so glad I did it!

My dd is the most beautiful happy healthy wee dote - she hasn't had so much as a sniffle since birth.

I love the bond breastfeeding gives us. Sometimes she breaks off from the boob and looks up at me with this wee milky grin and I just feel this incredible love for her!

Given some of the negativity towards breastfeeding mums I think people like me feel they can't talk about it for fear of sounding smug or victorious over other mums.

Not the case here.To each their own.

I just feel very happy this morning thinking about how it's worked out for us hence the self-indulgent post!!

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nickschick · 15/04/2009 08:26

How lovely,well done you.

gingernutlover · 15/04/2009 08:28

well done you, i never managed it and still feel sad, I think you have a massive achievement and should feel very proud of yourself

so totally nbu

christywhisty · 15/04/2009 08:30

why, you fed your baby why do you need congratulating. I breast fed one child (with all the sore nipples., didn't the other, so I am not anti breastfeeding but just never get all the self congratulating that goes on.
Do you really think you don't get the same bonding with a bottle fed baby. In 10 years time you will realise what a tiny part of breastfeeding really is, get over yourself

QuantitativeMeasure · 15/04/2009 08:30

well done.

I never made it past 8 hours, I thought my nipple would come off in DS1's mouth!!

Lizzylou · 15/04/2009 08:33

Awww, lovely.
I loved breastfeeding, and managed 6mths each time with my DS's, I do wish sometimes I'd carried on a wee bit longer.
Whenever I see someone BF, I feel very nostalgic and a bit sad that I won't be doing it again.
Enjoy, you sound truly smitten with your DD

troutpout · 15/04/2009 08:35

No yanbu
Well done to all mums doing well with their babies

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 08:41

Exactly troutpout - I'm supportive of all mums who do their best by their babies.

Christy - that's exactly the attitude I was talking about. I do not need to get over myself. I don't think I deserve a medal or that I'm better than other mums.

I'm a young first time mum living hundreds of miles away from family so have no support other than my DP.

To have decided to try and do what I believe is best by my baby and to stick with it IS something to be proud of.

Thank you everyone else.

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mumof2andabit · 15/04/2009 08:41

yanbu it is a huge achievment and you are right to feel proud

yama · 15/04/2009 08:47

YANBU - a lovely post. And what a beautiful family you are.

fizzpops · 15/04/2009 08:49

I can see where you are coming from Bunny but there is also a lot of negativity aimed at ff mothers too and posts like these tend to antagonise.

You have enjoyed bf your baby and you have bonded with her - I got both these things from ff even if it wasn't my original plan and fwiw she didn't have so much as a sniffle in her first 6 months either - sometimes it is just the luck of the draw.

Congratulations on enjoying being a mummy whatever paths you choose or are forced to take!

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 08:58

fizzpops - I appreciate everything you've said.

My original post was in NO WAY meant to antagonise anyone. In fact I think it's a damn shame that posting such a positive story would elicit any negativity or bitterness.

By my own admission I was being self-indulgent but I was just feeling happy and proud this morning.

I think maybe subconciously I may have been craving a wee bit of support and praise. Like I said DP and I live miles away from any family and although I know he's 100% behind me sometimes I feel isolated and in need of a wee boost.

It's a bit sad that mumsnet is my only chance for this!

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 08:59

Oh and yama - thank you

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fizzpops · 15/04/2009 09:10

Bunny - I didn't take it amiss and I'm sorry your family is not nearby to give you more support and encouragement. My reply was purely because I saw that you were genuinely feeling a warm glow but that I could see how it might be perceived by others and wanted to let you know that might be a reason for negativity not to diminish your achievements. I think it is a shame too that people can't be genuinely happy for someone else's achievements, bf just happens to be one of those contentious issues.

Hope you go on to feel proud of many more milestones with your DD

artifarti · 15/04/2009 09:20

Well done Bunny! This mothering lark ain't always easy and sometimes we're all entitled to pat ourselves on the back - for whatever reason. Sometimes I look at DS and wonder that I managed to get him to nearly 8 months full-stop - in my first few weeks I was permanently terrified I'd do something terribly wrong! Have a nice day basking in your warm glow.

Kayzr · 15/04/2009 09:24

WELL DONE!!!!

I didn't manage to BF and it certainly doesn't antagonise me!!! Good on you!!!!

HappyChildminderBerkshire · 15/04/2009 09:49

Yay! And it only gets better as they get older!

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 15/04/2009 09:55

I agree with fizzpops...

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 10:16

Thanks everyone.....I'm over my wee self-congratulatory moment now .

Back to the reality of ironing, laundry and changing shitty nappies!

Kayzr - your boys are just gorgeous!

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BradfordMum · 15/04/2009 10:23

Congratulate yourself every day for being a wonderful caring mummy.
Well done!

Sally x x

BodyBagEgg · 15/04/2009 11:19

i think it a shame that your not allowed to say how good you feel about it in rl.

its one of the benefits of bf imo.

give you a greAt sense of achievement and an i can do anything feeling

VERY WELL DONE INDEED

BodyBagEgg · 15/04/2009 11:24

cw and fizz, do you also feel if children do well at school, that shoudn't really be talked about for fear of upsetting others?

IneedAbetterNickname · 15/04/2009 11:33

WELL DONE!

spinspinsugar · 15/04/2009 11:36

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Kayzr · 15/04/2009 11:38

Thanks Bunny, your DD is gorgeous too!!

juuule · 15/04/2009 11:39

Well Done, Bunny.

It is an amazing feeling.
Your baby is 6m old and thriving purely from the sustenance that she has gained over the last 15m solely from you
Enjoy that feeling.