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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to feel incredibly proud......

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 08:25

.....of myself for having exclusivly breastfed my beautiful daughter for 6 months and 1 week and counting?

We got past the painful cracked nips and the first feed in public (now I'll get em out anywhere!) and I'm just so glad I did it!

My dd is the most beautiful happy healthy wee dote - she hasn't had so much as a sniffle since birth.

I love the bond breastfeeding gives us. Sometimes she breaks off from the boob and looks up at me with this wee milky grin and I just feel this incredible love for her!

Given some of the negativity towards breastfeeding mums I think people like me feel they can't talk about it for fear of sounding smug or victorious over other mums.

Not the case here.To each their own.

I just feel very happy this morning thinking about how it's worked out for us hence the self-indulgent post!!

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dorisbonkers · 15/04/2009 11:56

well done bunny. i'm a week behind you (can you tell i'm feeding now?)

i love feeding my daughter but she's so snacky i do find it hard work sometimes. luckily mr bonkers very proud and supportive. am going to start reintroducing a bottle (she'd take in earlier weeks but then refused) so i can have the odd evening off. i can't express so it will have to be formula.

i know how it feels to be miles away from home. i'm stuck in singapore but we're moving back to london. plan to do finger food weaning at 7 months or just under.

well done. i know how tough it can be, but also how lovely. ditto the milky grin!

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 12:02

Thanks Doris! (and everyone else)

It's lovely to hear so many positive supportive messages!

I too find it hard work. Dd won't take my milk in any other form but straight from the cow! She refuses a bottle and a sippy cup. We're working on that at the minute.

Consequently the longest I've been away from her is 2 hours last weekend when I went to get my hair done!

One thing I love is that now at 6 months she almost helps herself by burrowing under my top! Bless her!

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LaurenIsMoreThanReadyToPop61 · 15/04/2009 12:09

yanbu im very happy for you, saw your pics and your dd is beauuuutiful!!! you should be very proud and should be allowed to shout about it, i'd want to

mamadiva · 15/04/2009 12:16

Well done for managing this far!!!

I never wanted to BF and never got any support to try and persuade me otherwise so I stuck with formula which I was happy with at the time, IMO I think for some reason once a child hits 6M you just want to shout about them because they can do stuff! LOL

So YANBU although I do have to say if it were a FF mum saying it all hell would've broke loose so 'MUMSNET YABU'

But go ahead gloat away nice to know that you are such a caring mum to that gorgeous girl of yours, really comes over in your descriptions of feeding etc that you are just smitten, awww. ;)

chequersmate · 15/04/2009 12:19

Not unreasonable at all to feel proud, well done you

(bad place to put this thread though)

fizzpops · 15/04/2009 12:37

BodyBagEgg - personally when my DD is in school I will restrict my remarks (to other parents at least) to things such as 'She is doing well', 'She really enjoys it' etc - (fingers crossed those things are true). There is a difference between that and grading children, 'DD is top of the class again' etc.

Any parent that needs to be competitive about their childrens' achievements needs to consider what they are teaching them.

But Bunny is not being competitive so it is not the same thing...

Megglevache · 15/04/2009 12:40

well done that is brilliant you should be proud!

dorisbonkers · 15/04/2009 12:52

'Any parent that needs to be competitive about their childrens' achievements needs to consider what they are teaching them.'

So, so true. And hubristic in the extreme.

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 15/04/2009 19:01

doris is it the parents of those children who are hubristic or fizzpops?

sazzerbear · 15/04/2009 19:05

Well done Bunny, you should be v proud. You are right, the laundry is endless!

oldraver · 15/04/2009 19:45

Bunny well done... wait till she's burrowing under your top in Tesco's

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BunnyLebowski · 15/04/2009 20:19

Haha oldraver!! Now there's an image

She's actually feeding as I type this with one hand...and beating my chest repeatedly with her free hand (she prefers to pull my hair but it's tied back).

DP is entertaining 2 mates downstairs and I sneaked upstairs rather than get my boob out in front of them. They're both very shy/afraid of women (and I suspect both virgins) so it might have got them a wee bit flustered!

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FatFree · 15/04/2009 20:55

Well done you , i only managed 4 weeks with my first but had a supportive midwife who didnt tell me that i was the worst mother in the world and would burn in hell if i switched to a bottle

I managed over a year with the next 2 but something that has always bugged me about BF is that its drummed into your head that it protects your baby from germs and such. My first dodges germs even in an enclosed room full of snifflers but if someone sneezes in Dorset (i'm in London), the other 2 who i BF start reaching for tissues!!

ButIForgetMyself · 15/04/2009 22:26

This is a lovely post. Some people don't find breastfeeding easy (me), and there's so much conflicting advice out there.

I think it's really good encouragement for someone like me, who has struggled at times with the BFing. I had loads of problems at the beginning - midwives told me I was doing it all wrong, DD wasn't pooing enough and I was told I wasn't feeding her enough and had to take her to hospital, I had bleeding nipples - I nearly gave up. I told myself "just make it to two weeks", "just make it to three weeks" and so on and here I am 14 weeks later, and now optimistic that we too can carry on to 6 months and beyond!

Well done.

IcantbelieveImForty · 15/04/2009 22:32

have read the first negative post, I decided not to read any more.

I want to say though BLOODY WELL DONE

I breastfeed both my DD's (very easily) for a long time & I think, if I don't do anything else, at least I did this for them. For their health & for their DC's health.

Stuff the FF feeders & anyone who has anything negative to say, give yourself the pat on the back & have one on me too.

BTW You've also done yourself a favour or 2 healthwise.

Ineedmorechocolatenow · 16/04/2009 07:28

'Stuff the FF feeders' - now that's a lovely comment to make . Give yourself a pat on the back 'IcantbelieveImForty* - you've just pissed off upset a lot of ff feeders who have actually been very supportive on this thread.

If you'd been bothered to read the thread properly you would have seen that there are lots of ff feeders on here, congratulating the OP.

It's posters like you who stir these things up and make what could be an interesting and informative discussion turn into all out war.

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BunnyLebowski · 16/04/2009 08:42

Icantbelieveimforty - thanks for the support, it's nice to hear from some like-minded people

However "Stuff the FF feeders" isn't exactly the sentiment of my original post.

I believe it's every mothers right to choose how they feed their babies. Whilst I will always believe that breast is best I won't sit in judgement over mums who can't or choose not to bf for valid reasons.

I would be lying, however, if I said I didn't judge certain mothers who don't even consider breastfeeding or who think it's "weird" or "wrong".

For example a girl I worked with who was pregnant at the same time as me who came out with the following when we were talking about breastfeeding...

"Ew I don't think my DP would be too keen on that - these ~(pointing at boobs) are his! And breastfeeding is kind of gross"

It makes me sad that we live in a country where young girls grow up to see their breasts and their bodies in general as solely for male enjoyment and not for feeding their babies.

We are designed to be mothers ffs NOT Playboy fecking Bunnies.

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Megglevache · 16/04/2009 09:05

IcantbelieveImforty, I had to FF both of mine so that would be stuff me aswell then. Nice.

Kayzr · 16/04/2009 10:12

Me too. My boys are FF and I am very happy for Bunny.

IcantbelieveImForty · 16/04/2009 18:47

oops

caught up with this & meant to say stuff negative comments from FF - ie christywhisty.

Haven't the other comments cos I was in a huff with the negativity at the first negative post I read.

Apologies for offence caused

sazzerbear · 16/04/2009 19:38

BF is a very emotive subject, whether you have been able to or not. Bunny was not gloating, merely sharing her joy with others and should not be judged!

BodyBagEgg · 16/04/2009 23:13

ebf is quite unusual too.
alot of people that do bf stick in the odd bit of formula here and there.

Litchick · 16/04/2009 23:28

Well done.
I wish it were me.
I had twins ( bad planning there ) and though I tried it got very exhausting, and then one went into hospital blah blah boring blah.
Anyhow - they are both now riddled with allergies so good on you.

RumourOfAHurricane · 17/04/2009 10:33

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