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to think its bizarre that the Tesco delivery man asked to use my loo??

162 replies

kitty78 · 13/04/2009 22:48

I could hardly say no could I, but it still doesn't quite sit right - could he not have just waited for christ's sake??

OP posts:
IneedAbetterNickname · 14/04/2009 10:34

Divvy, I don't have a link I'm afraid,my Dad told me that they are allowed, he is a delivery driver. I think his boss told him that it's the law

expatinscotland · 14/04/2009 10:36

YABU.

I'd have said no.

I've been here for years but I can't get my head round that. In the US, people use that as an MO to case your place for burglary or to gain entry to rape or rob people.

StripeyKnickersSpottySocks · 14/04/2009 10:40

I would rather a Tesco driver use my loo where he can wash his hands afterwards ratehr than have a piss at the side of the road and then carry on handling peoples' shopping?

Is it just delivery drivers some people aren't keen on allowing them to use the loo. What if it was a health visitor/midwife?

expatinscotland · 14/04/2009 10:42

I've never had a HV or midwife ask except to wash their hands.

I can never read one of these threads without remembering FioFio's comment, 'then they can go and shit somewhere else.'

ruty · 14/04/2009 10:43

but expat the man is in your house anyway, he is delivering your shopping.

expatinscotland · 14/04/2009 10:45

I thought he just came to the door, ruty. I've never used shopping delivery in my life and it doesn't sound like anything I'd want to use (just as well, it's not available out here, all we've got just now is a small Co-op).

ruty · 14/04/2009 10:47

well the one i've used brings it into the kitchen. But it could just as well be a plumber/decorator/etc - I do feel a bit uncomfortable if I'm on my own with the children but whether they go to the loo or not is not the issue for me...

mollyroger · 14/04/2009 10:56

Tesco online now stress that drivers will bring shopping into your kitchen for you!
I was abit shocked as I felt I then had to tidy up a bit before they delivered

lou222 · 14/04/2009 11:22

hate strangers using my loo as they have to trail through 2 floors to get there
reasons i hate it are....

my house might be untidy and i'm embarrassed

they might nick something - people do you know!

they won't take their shoes off and i hate that

i live on my own so they could decide to murder me aswell!

but i would let them use it even though i'd feel very uncomfortable and would prefer to say no.

choccynutter · 14/04/2009 23:20

actully think it would unnerve me you hear all sorts of storys don't u he could of been anyone who happened to work for tescos i would have apologized and said no ...enless my dp was in or maybe a friend with me .

Clary · 15/04/2009 00:03

What do you all think he is going to do? (apart from a wee).

Or am I just very stupid and trusting?

valleysprincess · 15/04/2009 00:16

Personally I wouldn't have let him in. He probably masterbated onto your bath mat while he was in there.

Clary · 15/04/2009 00:19

Really tho?

really???

stickybun · 15/04/2009 00:21

I would always let a workperson/delivery bod use my loo, ditto builders etc. even if I didn't like the look of them. It is well known (imho) that they are over-represented in the colon-cancer rates because of 'hanging-on' day after day. Also because after I had dd I was recovering from bad 3rd degree tear and remember shops who would/wouldn't let me use their loo. The alternative was pooey-pants - so I would never say no unless I thought they might mug me!

KittyBigglesworth · 15/04/2009 00:38

LOL, I swear there is a difference in behaviour between Tesco delivery people and those of Ocado! I wish there wasn't and I can see how how it might appear in print. However in my experience, there honestly is one. Through the years of having food deliveries from both companies, the Ocado guys have a better attitude by far. Hardly any wonder when Ocado place a greater emphasis upon customer service and it clearly pervades the mindset of their company. Who can blame customers for wanting good service? Even more so during a credit crunch. I'm the most congenial customer. In fact, I'm usually in such a rush, I like them to get the bags out of the crates, place them on the floor, I thank them sincerely and that's it! We shift them to kitchen ourselves. I like the fact that the delivery people from Ocado are faster, more polite and are friendlier. In my experience! It could be that Ocado recruit those that inherently have those characteristics or it could be that they're trained better or are just happier in their jobs. Jesus, shoot me for having a preference! I like them positive and with the ability to form a sentence! Statistically I've found the Ocado guys to have more charm, ergo I'll have a greater propensity to let them use the lavatory! To say that I'm racist just because I happen to personally prefer one company over another is laughable and bizarre to say the least! That poster knows nothing of my race, background nor those of my husband and friends. I've experienced more than one of the Tesco people to be white, middle-aged men who winge and moan about the traffic and are generally miserable gits despite my friendliness and only asking them to move the bags about an inch. One of them stank of cigarette smoke and another smelt like he hadn't washed in months - no joke.
As a customer, I can select another company and another service that I prefer, that happened to be Ocado. The difference between the two, for me at least, is noticeable. Heck, I wish Tesco were the store with the better quality food and delivery because my wallet would be all the fatter. Usually, the people Ocado send are East European and black guys, great! They're also usually young and fit and don't move at a sloth-like pace and have never been less than cheerful.
What's not to like? For all the above reasons I'd be more inclined to let them use the bog over a whinging Tesco one. Look it's only my experience, others may have had a completely different one. OP, where are you? Have you been dreaming about hairy arse cracks, mammoth gleaming turds and indelible skid marks yet?

Cazzaben · 15/04/2009 00:48

Well I used to be a bin lady (refuse collector) and I asked someone to use thier loo once and was told no!!! I find this very ureasonable. I know people have an idea in their head as to what a bin man looks like but I was a very clean bin lady and was very polite to her... but that was just pure nastiness... Where was I supposed to wee???

In the end I had to do it in a bush behind a bin. It was horrible...

steviesgirl · 15/04/2009 03:13

How horrible for you Cazzaben . I'm a great believer in treating others how you yourself would want to be treated.

Unfortuneatly there are a lot of people in this world who think they are a little bit special and above others, and therefore think even their bog is too good for someone "lesser" than them to use. You just have to feel sorry for them for being so pathetic and shallow in their selfish little lives.

nooka · 15/04/2009 03:29

Ocado delivery people are much nicer than any of the others, but then that's not too surprising as you pay a premium, and part of that premium goes on service. John Lewis delivery people are also very nice, and the chain in general does tend to treat it's staff well (several of my ILs have worked for Waitrose). So I hope that the Ocado men are paid a little more or worked a little less hard.

Amanda1977 · 15/04/2009 09:03

I would have let him as he might have been feeling unwell and had a dodgy tummy or IBS or Chrohn's Disease etc. The poor guy would have been mortified if he'd had an accident!

gingernutlover · 15/04/2009 09:12

aaah think i would have let him, but asked him to take his shoes off.

My dh is a carpenter on a building frim and always finds it ridiculous that some customers would arther have a portaloo in their front garden than let the dirty builders use their loo

so yes i think you are being a bit unreasonable

chequersmate · 15/04/2009 09:13

I had a furniture delivery once and the guy asked to use the loo.

He broke the flush and just dashed off without mentioning it.

expatinscotland · 15/04/2009 09:15

Oh, lots of things, Clary.

Case your place out for stuff to come back later and burgal.

Case your place your place out - is she living alone, man not there in the day, etc. to come back to rape you or get at your kids.

All kinds of things.

I don't let random people in my house. I just don't.

If they take on a job like that they need to find out where all the public loos are en route.

My husband works as a mini-bus driver and he stops to use public loos.

If his employer found out he was asking to use private loos he'd probably be sacked.

Simplysally · 15/04/2009 09:29

I'd let them use my loo but I'd be more worried about them spotting yesterday's knickers on the floor if I'd not blitzed the flat that day and had been in a rush that morning. Equally likely to be mine or dd's leftoffs .

I don't keep my toothbrush in that loo (I do have an en-suite for myself) and there isn't a shower curtain for them to do nasties in. I suppose they could wank into my laundry bin but really, why would a delivery man risk losing his job doing stupid stuff like that? .

Simplysally · 15/04/2009 09:33

I do live in a non-ground floor flat in a secure block though.

cocolepew · 15/04/2009 09:52

My DH is a courier, he's out of the yard at 7.30am and back at 4.30pm, what's he suppossed to do? Tie a knot in it? He tries to go when he's at a workplace, but it's not always possible.