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to think its bizarre that the Tesco delivery man asked to use my loo??

162 replies

kitty78 · 13/04/2009 22:48

I could hardly say no could I, but it still doesn't quite sit right - could he not have just waited for christ's sake??

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Cailleachna · 14/04/2009 08:56

I'd never refuse use of the bathroom to someone who'd come to my house for a genuine purpose (delivery, repairs etc). I'm a bit more wary with random persons off the street because working for the police makes you awfully cynical about that sort of thing. The only time I was ever a bit off about it was when some workmen were doing something to the foundations of our building, and had been given the keys for all the flats. One of them just assumed we'd all be out, came upstairs and started unlocking the door - without knocking or ringing the bell or anything! And I was on maternity leave and breastfeeding in the living room at the time! So I was understandably a bit narked with him and gave him a bit of a lecture about knocking next time - but I did let him use the loo anyway.

Baisey · 14/04/2009 09:01

I live in a flat (yes we only have one bathroom) When I used to have ASDA deliver, the driver refused to carry shopping up the 3 flights of stairs, said it was against health and safety, even though I was pregnant at the time. He then had the bloody damn cheek to ask to use my toilet... You can imagine my response.
I have let workmen use the toilet though, would rather they piss in toilet bowl than have any little accidents whilst fitting carpet/kitchen etc.

FairyMum · 14/04/2009 09:03

I would probably say no to a Tesco delivery-person using my loo, but yes to a Waitrose-man

Squirdle · 14/04/2009 09:10

Why is it embarrassing to ask to use to loo? We all wee don't we? We all do number 2's!!

I suppose there are occasions when you may feel uncomfortable about allowing someone into your home...if they look dodgy...but as your delivery slot will be recorded, the chances of the Tesco delivery man doing something untoward is going to be slim...unless he has stolen the van and was still kind enough to bring your shopping round!

Maybe us mums of boys are less bothered about someone using our loo...oops sorry lavatory!

FAQ, I have the same problem ...it's when the new loo roll ends up in the toilet that I really get quite upset....it happens often I am afraid.

tessofthedurbervilles · 14/04/2009 09:13

How bloody uncharitable of you....the man just needed to go...I wouldn't have minded in the slightest.

SoupDragon · 14/04/2009 09:15
Hmm
Divvy · 14/04/2009 09:26

IneedAbetterNickname Do you any links for lorry drivers being allowed to wee on the wheels?

Divvy · 14/04/2009 09:28

Thing is, also these Tesco drivers around our way are all really old, and feel bad most of the time watching them with my shopping

They may also mostly have prostate problems, do to there age!

georgimama · 14/04/2009 09:31

Are the posters who would allow the Waitrose/Ocado delivery drivers to use their loos but not Tesco drivers actually serious? Do Twatrose have a better class of delivery driver then?

I bet you yearn for the days when the RAC patrol men wore epualets and saluted after they had fixed your car.

I have only had internet shopping twice, having started in the last fortnight (am slow at embracing technology, me) and both drivers were delightful. The first one noticed it was my first delivery and gave a long speil about how it all works, he noticed the picker had forgotten to attach my computers for schools vouchers so gave me a book and told me to take as many as I liked. The second was equally charming (but, shock horror - foreign and I actually let him in my house ), made a fuss of my little boy and stroked the dogs. It never occurred to me that either might be sex pests or serial killers. What an odd view of other people some posters have.

FAQinglovely · 14/04/2009 09:34

DIVVY - can I pop down and borrow that spade now??

KimiAteTooManyEasterEggs · 14/04/2009 09:35

What is the waitrose drivers were black are they still allowed in? Or Muslims they might be sticking anthrax down your loo!!

This is such a stupid thread, if someone providing a service at my home needs the toilet they are more then welcome to use it.

It is just poor manners to be so uptight about it.

Divvy · 14/04/2009 09:36

FAQ yes

Divvy · 14/04/2009 09:39

I really need the link, as just told dh he allowed to!

Mistymoo · 14/04/2009 09:40

I've heard that there is a law saying that if someone asks to use your toilet or ask for a drink of water then you are obliged to do it. Don't know how true it is.

I would let someone use my toilet.

ruty · 14/04/2009 09:43

It is briliant, a line as good as any Alan Bennett play 'i'd let an Ocado delivery man use my toilet but not a Tesco one hey're oafs.
Actually sounds like a line from Abigail's Party.

ruty · 14/04/2009 09:44

sorry writing one handed.

chocolateismyonlyweakness · 14/04/2009 09:54

I can remember someone I used to know getting really fed up with people knocking her door and asking to use the loo - she lived very close to a regular car boot sale where there were no toilet facilities. I can understand that....

at an occasional request from a delivery person to use the loo. Not a big deal, but it's never happened to me, I am sure they mostly schedule in loo breaks.

Not very nice to think of someone bursting and having an accident because of lack of generosity over something so piddling!

ShowOfHands · 14/04/2009 09:54

I'm inordinately worried about my postman's kidneys now after reading this thread. We live in a rural area, he drives a long way to get here, no public conveniences. Shall I march him to the toilet when he gets here? Insist? Is this wise? What do we know of the calibre of Royal Mail employees? Will he wipe his knob on my shower curtain?

brettgirl2 · 14/04/2009 09:55

He might be worried about your intentions show!

ABetaDad · 14/04/2009 09:58

My BIL drives an 18 wheel articulated truck and he has a small portbable loo bottle he uses as he cannot access many service areas and at night in dark and frankly dangerous lorry parks and docksides he says it is safer to stay locked in your cab. I have seen them advertised in Sunday magazines.

Lots of HGV drivers do this he says. Makes sense as holding on to urine for long periods is bad for general health as I said earlier.

ilovemydogandMrObama · 14/04/2009 10:03

We've had a lot of building work done recently, hence a lot of builders!

Only thing that would wind me up is when they wouldn't flush, um, you know....

Another builder would take a newspaper into the loo and spend ages in there....

Kewcumber · 14/04/2009 10:04

When you gotta go, you gotta go!

What is in your toilet that requires screening before use?

My Tesco delivery men are generally pretty young eastern Europeans, wouldn't say no to them

ruty · 14/04/2009 10:15

[decides to order Tesco delivery immediately.]

fraggletits · 14/04/2009 10:27

PMSL at this hilarious thread!

My Tesco delivery man asked to use my toilet last week just after DD had done a big stinky poo.

I would never say no, but felt really at the thought of him in my bathroom holding his nose boaking

ArcticLemming · 14/04/2009 10:33

I regularly allow delivery men and anyone doing work around the house to use our facilities and have never had to enlist the services of Kim and Aggie afterwards