to expect my best friend's DH to treat her better...?

[howtotellmum]

They went out for the day- crowded pub- both decided not to order food, but she would have some crisps and asked him to go to bar and buy them. He refused saying the queue etc was too long.

This is yet another incident in a long, long marriage on the brink of divorce all the time. They live in different countries, due to work, and every time he is home they say they will try again to make things better. then something happens - such as this.

Was he out of order?

sorry, am not having a go, am totally baffled by the thread

by the incident discussed, and what you want people to say about it !

was he out of order based on the OP? no, IMO , he was not

but cannot possibly comment on whether he is sadistic or whether they should be together based on whether he should have queued for the crisps or not

again, you know them better, what do you think?

It's a packet of crisps! Stupid.

Give an example of actual 'sadism' on his part and maybe people will see what you mean.

But "he doesn't love me cos he thought I should get my own crisps" is silly. Really really silly.

I can understand though that his attitude to standing in a queue for his wife to buy crisps is kind of indicative if the relationship as a whole.
Perhaps he is generally arsey and self centered and doesn't do things for his wife. Yes the crisps are a little thing and by themselves don't mean a thing BUT perhaps it is a microcosm of his attitude iyswim?

Howtotellmum...is it really you?

Did your dh not ask "how high" when you yelled "jump!"?

Connie, it crossed my mind that she could be the 'friend' too.