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Original poster

eh, ok...not one to criticise usually but..............

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Claire2009 · 09/04/2009 21:30

Friend is 25.
Her sister is 12, and an immature 12.

Anyway, Friends sister went to friends to see her niece & nephew, 16mths & 8wks. Friend went to her Sisters house leaving her Sister at hers for the night, alone with an 8wk old & 16mo....
Friend will be home tomorrow around 11am..

AIBU to think this is so so wrong?

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magentadreamer · 09/04/2009 21:32

I'd be calling social service.

RumourOfAHurricane · 09/04/2009 21:32

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notapparent · 09/04/2009 21:34

You are joking - some people are just bloody stupid. That could go badly wrong and I'm afraid I would be phoning the cops also.

HotCrossGoober · 09/04/2009 21:35

Agree.
Call the police.
Or are you going to wait until something happens?

hotcrossllama · 09/04/2009 21:36

it's wrong, call your friend and tell her she needs to get home

Lilyloo · 09/04/2009 21:36

you are so concerned you are posting on mnet rather than calling someone in authority ???

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Claire2009 · 09/04/2009 21:36

No I'm not joking at all. This is a friend though, if I call the police will friend know its me?

I don't actually know friends address either as she moved recently ..her Mum lives 8-10 miles away so there's a fair distance between them if a problem arises.

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Claire2009 · 09/04/2009 21:37

Lilyloo I'm posting on Mnet cos I am looking for advice, I dont know the first thing about reporting someone!

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Daffodingles2 · 09/04/2009 21:37

Call the friend and tell her to go home immediately or you will be calling SS.

ruddynorah · 09/04/2009 21:38

are you in a position to go round the house then if you won't call the police?

notapparent · 09/04/2009 21:38

FFS - get off your backside and call the police. what's more important - three neglected children or covering your back? God I despair.

hotcrossllama · 09/04/2009 21:38

agree with daffo tell her it's abandonment, god an 8 wk o she's criminally irresponsible

morningpaper · 09/04/2009 21:38

well if you don't know her address then you can't do much

how do you KNOW this, if you don't know where she lives?

Hassled · 09/04/2009 21:38

You need to do something. Call the friend, call the mother - whatever it takes.

hotcrossllama · 09/04/2009 21:39

claire -- it's tough for you but the baby is more important than your friendship

MrsMcCluskey · 09/04/2009 21:39

Just ring your local police station or the out of hours social services.
This is not acceptable.

nowwearefour · 09/04/2009 21:40

surely it matters more that all of the children are safe than your friend found out that you acted out of concern? if you tell the police all you know -eg mobile phone number etc i am sure they will be able to find a way to locate the house. you should definitely be contacting the police. what if tehre is a fire? or a baby wakes up screaming? that is just unbelievable

morningpaper · 09/04/2009 21:40

she doesn't know the address! What can she realistically do?

Original poster
Claire2009 · 09/04/2009 21:40

I KNOW this because the sister is on MSN!

BUT I just got it out of her that the Children's Father is still at home and its just her Sister thats gone out!

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MrsMcCluskey · 09/04/2009 21:41

FFS!

hotcrossllama · 09/04/2009 21:41

op is trying to rectify things
she's not the one abandoning the children

op you know this is bad and you are the only one who can do something about it

notapparent · 09/04/2009 21:42
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Hassled · 09/04/2009 21:42

Yes, given the lack of address the police plan isn't do-able. But presumably Claire has mobile numbers? Can you ring the friend and talk some sense into her?