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To be irritated with MIL

32 replies

Bonnycat · 09/04/2009 19:58

When she phones up and puts on a silly childish voice and asks to speak to DD, who is 3?
We get on well but this is starting to grate.She rings most evenings usually managing to time it for when DD is in the bath and think she could speak to me first instead of just asking for DD in a silly voice...

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HotCrossMuff · 09/04/2009 19:59

You could get an answerphone.

Numberfour · 09/04/2009 20:00

that would drive me stark raving mad.

answer phone? change your number? get DH to answer the phone?

southeastastra · 09/04/2009 20:00

haha answer in a silly voice back, i would

tartetatin · 09/04/2009 20:03

Just don't answer. Ring her back after DD has gone to bed and apologise for not getting to the phone..It would drive me bonkers too

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Bonnycat · 09/04/2009 20:07

DH baths our 2 DCs so manages to avoid it.I feel like putting a silly voice on and saying she has moved out to her nana's (my mum's),that would really cheese her off LOL

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MIAeatingeggs · 09/04/2009 20:14

I can understand that it would be irritating to you but at least console yourself that she cares for your DD so much.

MoreLikeMiranda · 09/04/2009 20:51

ditto southeastastra

gonaenodaethat · 09/04/2009 20:53

would hate to be MIL

ChippingIn · 10/04/2009 02:15

'Ringing most evenings' would be enough to annoy me, without the silly voice and not even the courtesy to speak to me first....

tigerdroveoverthebunnies · 10/04/2009 02:43

She loves your DD, what's not to like? So what about the silly voice. Get over it. (Sorry, don't mean to be nasty at all, but really you can get over this, surely). It would be much worse if she didn't ring.

MadamDeathstare · 10/04/2009 02:48

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Fizzylemonade · 10/04/2009 12:32

Could you not help your DD to ring her before she goes for her bath?

That way you have some control over the timing and don't get to listen to the silly voice.

If you wanted you could then always have a conversation with her whilst your DD goes off to have a bath.

BonsoirAnna · 10/04/2009 12:38

Ringing every evening is totally OTT. Can your DH not tell her to ring less often? And at a better time?

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Bonnycat · 10/04/2009 22:15

Its a Minnie Mouse kind of voice,as though she is pretending to be a friend of DD or something.
I think im going to ignore the phone if it rings at that time from now on.
I know she means well and loves the DC dearly but it does get on my nerves.

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FlukeU · 10/04/2009 22:32

Maybe you need to get over it and appreciate
her love of your family and stop being so precious.

JodieO · 10/04/2009 22:44

Every night is too much, I'd stick the answerphone on tbh.

Original poster
Bonnycat · 10/04/2009 22:57

PMSL at being "precious"!
Yes i think the answerphone is a good plan.

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FlukeU · 10/04/2009 23:00

Cap fits...........

JodieO · 10/04/2009 23:03

Except it doesn't lol.

FlukeU · 10/04/2009 23:04

Maybe if you know the time that the phone is going to ring and you could stand beside your child and let him/her answer it to speak to their grandparent that is interested in their life. Maybe they like Granny or Grandad talking to them in that voice, what do you know? Are you taht controlling? As opposed to the many many children that are denied a granny or grandad because of childish adult disputes akin to yours.

Just saying.

yomellamoHelly · 10/04/2009 23:09

Phone gets ignored in our house if it rings during bathtime/special-time/story-time (unless it's dh - caller id).

randomrabbit · 10/04/2009 23:11

FFs I hate all the mil/mother bashing on mn ...one day its gonna be you..just saying like

watsthestory · 10/04/2009 23:14

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JodieO · 10/04/2009 23:17

Or, maybe said grandparent could be a bit more realistic and not expect so speak to their 3 year old grandchild every single day, especially knowing they always call at bathtime. It's give and take from both sides imo and calling every day is a bit much.

theherbgarden · 10/04/2009 23:19

yanbu to be irritated but your mil probably thinks its cute. just ignore phone we do when its not convenient
randomrabbit - you are luck then not to have a mil that did not want your children to be born and treat you like shit from the get go. Yes I may be a mil one day but it doesnt mean that I am going to be a beeatch!

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