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to want to ditch facebook completely?????

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mosschops30 · 09/04/2009 15:16

Ive been obsessed with it for about a year, but seem to have come to some sort of revelation that its just an ego stroking pain in the arse for collecting people, showing off.
Im thinking of sending all my 'real friends' a msg and then just deleting my profile.

Has anyone left and regretted it?? (unlikely?)

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busybeingmum · 09/04/2009 17:52

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Simplysally · 09/04/2009 18:17

I deleted myself from FR ages ok.

busybeingmum · 09/04/2009 18:23

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TwoToTango · 09/04/2009 18:47

If you delete yourself from FR will it then remove you from anyone else's homepage then?

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 09/04/2009 18:50

Oh I like Facebook, not only have I got back in touch with loads of old friends but was able to see daily updates on my friend's progress towards birth without nagging her (she had a lovely DS yesterday afternoon, photos up on FB already).

Simplysally · 09/04/2009 18:53

I did that myself and cleared it all out before I did the deed.

SalBySea · 09/04/2009 18:55

I love facebook but only add "real friends" in the first place

If someone I know sends me a friend request but then never uses it to chat to me I delete them after a few months

Its absolutely great when your friends and family are spread all over the country and the world. It really helps to keep in touch when you can see their latest pics and pics of thier kids etc

I think that it depends really on how you use it. Everyone on mine is a real life friend who I am actually interested in so my news feeds are actually of interest to me

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Eve4Walle · 09/04/2009 19:30

I'm thinking of leaving Facebook because I don't agree with their policy on not removing offensive groups and posts within those groups.

Lately there have been some terrible posts under a group about Ian Huntley, and Facebook just don't give a toss what is being said. It's scandalous, and it's for that reason alone I have become disenchanted with Facebook.

MANATEEequineOHARA · 09/04/2009 19:40

I have also just become a bit about fb. I do need to keep it as a way of rounding up my friends and subjects that I am using for my research! BUT, it is generally doing my head it!

sazchocs · 09/04/2009 19:40

I deleted everything off mine and then got rid of it about 6 months ago. Never missed it for a day although methinks thats partly cos I spend some of the time I used to do that on MN instead.
Note to self to get out more

HotCrossMuff · 09/04/2009 19:44

I ditched facebook about a year ago for all the reasons mentioned. Its like competitive friendshiping.

My real friends I'll email and speak to when I/they wish, why do I need to inform them on FB about my every move and why do I need to know theirs?

Load of cack.

Jennifershesaid · 09/04/2009 20:13

This thread's got me thinking - some of my FB friends never bother to chat to me personally - so what is the point. BTW can someone please tell me, if I remove someone from my friends list do they get an email to tell them or can you slip away quietly?

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 09/04/2009 20:47

I must admit I would like to know that, Jennifer. I binned one 'friend' for endless posting of political links that didn't interest me, because she was someone I only very vaguely knew anyway, and now have another one who keeps posting some political stuff that I am not wild about (I don't entirely agree with her but think she is entitled to her opinion - would just rather not have so much of it all over my FB page). But I don't want to make a big deal of it.

BecauseImWoeufit · 09/04/2009 20:49

No you don't get any notification. If you want to drop someone you can do it safely!

Joe1977 · 09/04/2009 20:53

I left FB at the beginning of the year, am now using the time I wasted on FB on MN instead!

Meglet · 09/04/2009 20:54

people don't get notified if you delete them from your friends. They might suss it out if they look on their friend list and you aren't there anymore. If you block them then they vanish from fb and you vanish from their fb, you won't even be searchable and vice versa.

SalBySea · 09/04/2009 20:59

solidgoldshaggingbunnies you can chose what kinda things you like to see on your news feed.

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 09/04/2009 21:01

I will go and have a fiddle - if I can get rid of all her farking polemical links I don't mind keeping her as a friend but I am really sick of all the rubbish.

Jennifershesaid · 09/04/2009 21:53

Can someone tell me how to edit the news feed thing? that might be preferable to removing someone completely!

cupcakesinthesnow · 09/04/2009 22:03

I really like Facebook but I have only ever used it as a way of keeping in contact with real and good friends.

I have never added or agreed to add people who were not friends who I know or used to know and wanted to renew friendsship with again. I have lived in a number of different countries as have many friends so it really has been brilliant for catching up with friends now we have children of our own. I am suspicious of people who have a huge amount of 'friends' as it seems they add anyone and everyone they have ever heard of - and that is where the rot sets in.

SugarBird · 09/04/2009 22:28

I use it to catch up with friends I rarely see and I play scrabble every day with an old friend in Australia who I otherwise wouldn't be in touch with very much.

My teenagers think I'm a bit sad as I don't have many fb friends but they'd probably think I was sad whatever I did so I'm not too bothered

Bellebelle · 09/04/2009 22:46

I have found it useful for getting in touch with a few people I had lost touch with but try to avoid looking at it too much and I rarely put anything on it. I did go through a period of getting real 'life envy' at an old school friend's constant updates which made it very apparent that her and her husband are minted and that she goes on lots of exotic holidays, has huge house, drinks lots of champagne etc... I then twigged that if she was spending so much time on FB putting all these fabulous updates on that her life couldn't be that fantastic! I can now imagine that everytime she does anything she is thinking about what a great FB update it will make!

Fine used in moderation but I don't get the putting your whole life on FB thing or collecting hundreds of 'friends'.

Ditch it if it's bothering you.

Jennifershesaid · 09/04/2009 22:59

Bellebelle - how true!! And nobody ever puts '...is cleaning the toilet' or '...is living off toast until payday' for their updates. I might start that though. Funny it was my sister who was desperate for me to join FB and went on at me for ages - now i've joined I'm on it all the time and she never is. Guess the novelty will wear off

Altagloria · 09/04/2009 23:29

FB is v dangerous if you want to keep your private life private!

Even if you delete your own page you have no control over what others put on theirs. I had a miscarriage last month, ending my first pregnancy. We told my MIL, she told her DD (my SIL), who had known I was pg so that was fine. However, she is addicted to FB and had a message of support with accompanying explanation on her FB page within the hour.

So my mc was announced to all and sundry on Facebook! We had only told close family I was pg in the first place. I'm still raging about it actually