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At another woman referring to DS as "hers"?

35 replies

CherryChoc · 07/04/2009 15:49

DS got his first tooth the other day so I updated my facebook status saying this. Okay I know that is a bit PFB, but most of the people on my facebook are family/friends who would be interested.

I got 2 comments, one saying "Did he bite you? Hehe" and another saying "Awwwwwwwwwwwww my little R.. has got a tooth, awwwwwwwwww!!"

Sorry, he's not yours, he's mine! I don't think I'd even mind as much but she's not even related to him, she's a friend and not even a particularly close friend.

AIBU to be a bit miffed that she referred to him as "my little "?

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louii · 07/04/2009 15:51

PFB is indeed the right description.

HecAteTheEasterBunny · 07/04/2009 15:52

Well, it's up to you what you get miffed about, but "my little.." is quite a common turn of phrase. It doesn't mean she thinks she owns him, or gave birth to him or anything.

I think you are probably being a bit sensitive.

stillenacht · 07/04/2009 15:52

yes, get over it!

of course she knows he is not hers - she is just trying to celebrate with you

OrmIrian · 07/04/2009 15:52

You are rather. My CM, my mum, my friends all refer to my children as 'their little mate/friend/chap/name' etc. It doesn't make them any less 'mine'.

sagacious · 07/04/2009 15:53

YABU

Shes commenting on a photo
Shes being nice

Jeez

sagacious · 07/04/2009 15:53

YABU

Shes commenting on a photo
Shes being nice

Jeez

FigmentOfYourImagination · 07/04/2009 15:53

get over it OP

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CherryChoc · 07/04/2009 15:57

OK at least I know I am being oversensitive, I thought I might be.

Think I just have a problem with this girl tbh, probably jealousy, she seems to think my DH wants to jump into bed with her. He wouldn't but he is enjoying the attention

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stillenacht · 07/04/2009 15:58

ah so thats the real reason you are peed off...

Walkingwiththighosaurs · 07/04/2009 15:59

Oh how lovely, the usual replies. You can always rely on Mumsnet to bring you down a peg or two!

You are being a tad over sensitive to your friends reply, but unlike some MNetters I would rather not say "Get over it" to you like many have on here.

traceybath · 07/04/2009 16:00

i was going to say yabu - i mean i'd be amazed anyone was even interested in my baby getting a tooth.

But now it seems there's slightly more to the story . . .

Walkingwiththighosaurs · 07/04/2009 16:02

Perhaps she fantasises about your DH and that your DC is actually hers............I'd avoid her if I were you, she sounds weird. YANBU

mamadiva · 07/04/2009 16:10

YANBU!!! , well depending on how old DS is?

I had a thing with MIL that annoyed the hell out of meuntil he was about 8 months she referred to him as her boy and with hormones and all it was driving me nuts to the stage I was like 'no he's my little boy'.

But he was my PFB so was allowed as are you

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CherryChoc · 07/04/2009 16:15

Lol mamadiva he is 6 months.

I think she is just being nice but feel a bit threatened tbh as me and DH haven't been very active in the bedroom since DS was born. I know he wouldn't do anything with her but I think there is a part of him that finds me boring now I have a baby (even though he is HIS baby)

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Geepers · 07/04/2009 16:18

You are being ridiculous, it's an affectionate term.

However, it's one in a long list of things that MN has taught me never to say. In fact I barely touch, speak to, or refer to anyone's children, anywhere, due to threads I read on here with mothers taking offence to everything.

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 07/04/2009 16:19

Get.A.Grip

Daffodingles2 · 07/04/2009 16:21

it is very pfb Cherry sorry,
but it does sound like you are lacking in confidence atm.
You ok?

SamVimesIsMyHero · 07/04/2009 16:21

Unusually harsh Lulu, still in pain eh?

LuluisgoingtobeanAunty · 07/04/2009 16:24

i apologise .yes, too harsh

bubblagirl · 07/04/2009 16:38

i respond to my little lad or my beautiful girl to friends children as they do to my ds come here my gorgeous boy etc its an act of kindness not trying to take over

quornsilk · 07/04/2009 16:40

Why do you think she's after your dh? Has she made a move on him?

doggiesayswoof · 07/04/2009 16:44

AIBU by stealth...

OP, you have now bared your soul about feeling less than confident after giving birth (I understand that one all right) and despite this you will get another 576 people coming on here, only reading the OP and going "Get over yourself, PFB much" etc etc

Oh dear - hope you are feeling thick skinned today

There is nothing to be upset about wrt the fb friend's comment, but you know that really

nappyzonecannotcycleuphill · 07/04/2009 16:48

can you not delete this person from your facebook ... congratulations on the new tooth by the way Xmas Smile

nappyzonecannotcycleuphill · 07/04/2009 16:48

i ment

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CherryChoc · 07/04/2009 16:58

Thanks daffo - not feeling 100% but I'm not fragile enough to be bothered by responses on here, I knew where I was posting Just wanted to see if it was her bothering me personally or the comment I think.

Thanks nappyzone

quornsilk she did once when she was drunk. But tbh when she is drunk she is all over everyone . It's more subtle than that generally. Text messages etc.

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