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AIBU?

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Are all year 2 girls 2 faced and attention seeking or just DD's school?

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karise · 07/04/2009 15:15

Observed DD playing with her friends yesterday & in the park last week. Friends were kicking or pushing to get attention from mum and generally trying to get each other into trouble with 'Mum, x just pushed me!!!' etc.
Is this normal year 2 behaviour? I never remember them being like this a year ago & I know at least 2 other mums who have told their DD's to play with the boys because the girls are too catty and I am really beginning to think I should do the same! AIBU?

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QOD · 07/04/2009 15:17

nope, they get worse in y3, peak in yr 4 then start to improve in yr 5.
downward and onward you go!

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karise · 07/04/2009 15:19

I am getting really cross because DD just doesn't seem to 'get it'! She gets very upset with them all & doesn't see the point in this type of behaviour

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Mumcentreplus · 07/04/2009 15:20

Yep they are evil little wretches

mylifemykids · 07/04/2009 15:21

Well if, as you say, your DD isn't like it then no not ALL year 2 girls are 2 faced!

I've got all this to look forward to

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karise · 07/04/2009 15:23

It seems to be more normal than not at DD's school though unfortunately! How many in your DC's class then?

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mylifemykids · 07/04/2009 15:26

Was that question to me? My DD isn't at school yet...she's only 2 - hence the fact I've got it all to look forward to.

Although, DS is at nursery and I have noticed some cattiness already with regards to the girls!!

Walkingwiththighosaurs · 07/04/2009 15:33

Yep, you just don't seem to get this bitchiness with boys. All the problems in my DS class with friendships and bullying and bitching has been all down to the girls. My DS was quite proud of the fact that none of the boys were involved.

wannaBe · 07/04/2009 15:37

I think that most girls are like this. And tbh I think it only gets worse as they turn into adults.

sykes · 07/04/2009 15:42

I don't think they are at all. I've two girls - one year 2 and one in year 4. There have been VERY occasional unpleasant spats but generally most of the girls who my dds are friends with are sweet, kind children and they all get on. I've got four here now and haven't heard any moaning, just lots of hysterical giggling. Probably about my dress sense ....

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karise · 07/04/2009 15:56

Where's your school? Can DD come

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sykes · 07/04/2009 16:02

Well, it's our second school and, honestly, the first was just as nice. A couple of girls who could/can be unpleasant but generally they were/are all really sweet and kind. I don't get this how little girls become foul bitchy things. Maybe it's yet to come ...

Mumcentreplus · 07/04/2009 16:15

My DD is just like yours karise..she gets so confused and upset

Daffodingles2 · 07/04/2009 16:18

tbh I've seen this at 2 schools we've been at.
Usually starts yr3, peaks yr 4, starts to calm down in yr 5 ime.
I also think it's worse at small schools.

ramonaquimby · 07/04/2009 16:20

wannabe -no most girls aren't like that at all. I have a daughter in year 2 and NONE of the girls that we have back to play and have gotten to know over the past 3 years are like that. I think some girls are are but certainly not most.

I've heard friends whose children attend other schools talk about this but honestly haven't seen it with dd and her peers. thank god

sykes · 07/04/2009 16:22

I can't believe I'm the only one posting who hasn't seen this. My girls are at a small school and should, I presume, be in the prime years for this (2 and 4). If it does happen at school it's stamped on. My elder dd is very sensitive, younger one less so, but they both really do have nice friends who are the norm not the unusual in their classes.

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karise · 07/04/2009 16:38

Our year 2's seem to have split into 3 groups!
Boys that chase girls,
Girls that scream that they are being chased & do everything they can to get the boys into trouble, and
a few in the middle (including DD) who don't know what to do with themselves!
It's almost as if some mums actually encourage the cattiness

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QOD · 07/04/2009 16:41

I have totally seen this daffod - as a group my dd's class can be hateful
We have an adhd/hyper/allergic girl who accidentally bullies (I REALLY don't think she means to - it's like she can't stop picking)
We have 2 bullies, an "I'm MUCH more grown up than the rest of you", a drama queen and a queen of agression
However, mostly they are nice, occasionally I could slap most

MayorNazeNotWithChoccyEggs · 07/04/2009 16:42

no. it is all of them. i am so glad its the holidays as then they can all cool off. clearly they have all had far too much of each others company this term and i am a bit sick of "she did this, she did that" every day after school.

and breeeeeaaaaaaathe

Daffodingles2 · 07/04/2009 17:08

I agree QOD.
My boys play football so I seem to spend a lot of time hanging around football pitches with other mums and daughters.
It's constant... she said this, she won't let me do that, she's not my friend anymore, I know they are probably bored (me too ) but the yr 4's are a nightmare for this!
Really, they are lovely girls individually, together....

Daffodingles2 · 07/04/2009 17:10

I forgot the worst bit
you know when they stand in a little huddle and cast meaningful looks over their shoulders?
God,
that intimidates me and I'm 37!

QOD · 07/04/2009 17:48

Yup, just picked dd up from a party only the drama queen was missing, all the other kids mentioned above were there!!!! With only 2 and my dd who don't seem to have mean streak
I know we are all blind to our kids to an extent, but to be honest, most of their mums know and comment on their own daughters meanness.
However, they had a brilliant time, no one fell out and no mean bits at all - even had 2 younger siblings at the end and everyone was nice to them too
Mind you, they are in yr 5 so as I said, they are coming out of it a bit

madwomanintheattic · 07/04/2009 18:08

yr 2 and 3 were fine. yr 4 is a little less bunnies and kittens and a tad more witchy.

dd1 got quite seriously told off at school two weeks ago friday because one of her classmates told the teacher that two of them had called her fat. sigh.

dd1 spent (apparently) all afternoon crying at school as she was so mortified, cried at the childminders, cried when dh picked her up, and cried again when i tore a strip off her at home. i told her whether she did it or not everyone obviously thought she had, so she needed to apologise. she saw the girl at a party on the sunday and when she got home i asked her if she had spoken to her. she said she had gone over and apologised and the girl said 'oh, that's okay, it wasn't you anyway.'

good. great. fab. still have no idea whether it was entirely necessary for her to cause dd1 so much distress and get her into trouble with both the teacher and me lol, but hey ho.

dd1 stood for school council on an inclusion ticket lol. she's so nice it sets my teeth on edge. a valuable life lesson in picking the right friends, i suspect.

generally i think they probably all go through a less than lovely stage, but for some it isn't a full time job, just mood swings

Hulababy · 07/04/2009 18:35

DD is in y2 and her cass of girls are, on the whole, lovely, polite, kind, considerate and friendly with one another. A couple have their moments but still nothing too bad.

They are certainly no worse than DD's friends who are boys.

screamingabdab · 07/04/2009 18:42

I am finding this thread very interesting

I have 2 DSs (5 and 8) and i get to hear about all this type of behaviour. It intrigues me, because I just don't remember it happening when I was a child.

Makes me feel quite glad to have boys at times, their social difficulties are generally much more straightforward (so- and so hit me/called me a poohead). I have never heard either of them complain that someone "doesn't want to be their friend anymore", or comment on their clothes/hair or intellect.

I am much more scared by teenaged girls than I am teenage boys, too, and I'm a woman!

Before I get flamed, I know some girls are never like this, and some boys are nasty little oiks, but the form it takes is so different, it intrigues me

screamingabdab · 07/04/2009 18:44

karise In my DSs school, it's the girls who chase the boys (another turnaround fro when i was a kid)

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