to be a bit annoyed with HV?

[KinderEggKayzr]

HV has just rung me and TBH I am a little annoyed with her.

She rang to ask if we had thought about starting to wean DS2. When I said "no not really given it any thought at all" she was very surprised. So I asked why she was surprised and it is because DS2 was over 10lb at birth so should be weaned early.

DS2 is 17 weeks old this Friday. So IMO he is too young to be weaned. I want to wait until he is at least 6 months.

Also when I said we were considering BLW she said it was a fad and no one really does BLW, they just say they do.

She also asked if I had considered joining Netmums as it would help me with decisions such as realising DS2 needs weaning and that BLW is a fad.

AIBU?

YANBU

silly woman

a bit annoyed ????

This has just pressed 2 big Mumsnet buttons so no, you are not being unreasonable

Love the netmums suggestion

If this was going to be a troll post it's pretty good

Sorry but certainly not a troll.

Both HVs are always pushing Netmums. Whenever I see either of them they ask if I have joined yet, despite telling them I use MN. The NM web address is in DS2's red book twice.

Evil old witch. HV, not you. I hate HVs. Little training, loads of perceived power. God they love it. Actually, did have one I loved, but she actuall bothered to keep up to date with current research.

YANBU.

I'm actually not surprised, I read a netmums book, how to be a happy mother, it seemed to involve outsourcing the child as fast as possible.

That's appalling!

The rest of it is just silly, but pressuring you to join Netmums? That's nasty stuff.

lol Kay

Next time you see the HV, kayzr, you should tell her you're weaning DS2 on Easter eggs

Join netmums and complain about your interfering HV's on there... Then when you next see one of your HV's, ask if they saw your thread, and write a link to it in a special red book for them. Then follow it up by saying you're leaving netmums to come back on MN because of the despicable lack of the word 'fanjo' on NM.

Ahh I need to brush up on my acronym knowledge... Im completely lost lol

YANBU, her information is completely out of date - I would ask her what she thinks of current world health organisation guidelines on weaning and why they don't apply to your dc!!!

God, they're stoopid, and more seriously are` contravening official guidelines.

And has she nothing better to do than ring you? Speaks volumes about her work sand priorities.

Haven't been on netmums - do they really not use the word 'fanjo'? I bet they don't talk about glory holes or let their DCs drink fruitshoots either...

I don't know, only went on NM once a loooong time ago but they seemed very straight types, definitely not the type to talk fanjo and fruit shoots with abandon.

Kayz is no troll!

You know what my HV told me about Netmums. I told her about Mumsnet, she said she would take a look.

BTW your HV is a bloody idiot and YANBU, I keep getting letters asking me to book a place on one of their 'weaning talks'.

Can't believe your HV would suggest you start weaning, especially as you hadn't asked her if you should! I agree with greenbeanie and think you should come straight out with it and ask her why you should ignore the WHO guidelines and see how she manages to justify her advice.

Maybe the HV was trying to help. That was more help than I ever got from mine!

What's the point of trying to help when it's not helpful?
It's rather like me trying to help someone with a bad back which is pointless as I'm not a physio.

YANBU

also you should write to the surgery or the manager type person of the HV, telling them that their staff need training as they are CLEARLY not even remotely up to date with current world and national guidelines are you are seriously concerned about the information they may be giving to vunerable netmums members.

oops, should say AND you are seriously concerned

HV endorsing website makes me want to run in opposite direction and I've nothing against NM! ( but prefer mn better laughs!)
Think I have never met a sensible HV in whole time I've been in contact with them

Report her tomorrow - this is totally outdated advice as she should well know. I'm a HV too and all I could think when I read her "advice" to you was "what a stupid cow".

You need to address your complaint to the community matron - direct any complaint to the local PCT headquarters - I guarantee it'll get into the right hands.

HVs have a great deal of training and most of the newer ones will have a degree in public health - but all HVs will certainly have enough training to know that keeping up to date about something as fundamental as weaning is vital.
Report this - it's a good thing you know the facts - imagine her advice being taken as gospel by some young and inexperienced Mum who thinks she is doing the right thing in listening to the HV. She needs reporting.

I have often wondered if they are paid by NM to recruit new members. Alot of my friends take HV's word as gospel and most of them use NM.

I think I might have a word with the GP surgery as I know that had it been DS1 I probably would have started weaning as I pretty much did all they said with him.

YANBU. Your HV is a loon.

at suggesting you pop over to Netmums for terrible advice.

Netmums did have a bit of a publicity run a year or more ago and there are still flyers in the AN clinics/baby clinics etc. I don't give them out personally but have seen them around.

However, the NM comments are nothing compared with your HV's breathtaking ignorance with regard to weaning..... and she has utterly no excuse for being so out of date. Even the DOH leaflets say 6 months (and then muddy the waters by saying 4-6 months in other leaflets ).

If your HV was doing her job properly she would know the current guidelines but it sounds as though keeping up to date is not her thing.