to be a bit annoyed with HV?

[KinderEggKayzr]

HV has just rung me and TBH I am a little annoyed with her.

She rang to ask if we had thought about starting to wean DS2. When I said "no not really given it any thought at all" she was very surprised. So I asked why she was surprised and it is because DS2 was over 10lb at birth so should be weaned early.

DS2 is 17 weeks old this Friday. So IMO he is too young to be weaned. I want to wait until he is at least 6 months.

Also when I said we were considering BLW she said it was a fad and no one really does BLW, they just say they do.

She also asked if I had considered joining Netmums as it would help me with decisions such as realising DS2 needs weaning and that BLW is a fad.

AIBU?

I weaned my DS at 17 weeks, because I felt it was the right decision for him personally, it's different for all babies though. I don't like everything being standardised, it's not acceptable. You wean when you think your child is ready for it.
I would say it's just your HV being pushy, part of the trait of (Some) HVs. Ignore her advice and do what you think is best.

It's no wonder HV's are a dying breed.

Weaning a baby at just turned 4 months is advice my mother was given back in 1979 when I was a baby!! The current advice is exclusive bf till 6 months. What planet/year is your HV on/in??

Sorry. I can't take any of them seriously. My HV's a man and he's as good as useless.

My HV is about as much use as a chocolate teapot and is a total wet wank but, in fairness, she didn't make faces when I told her I'm BLWing and waiting until DS is 6mo.

I told ours (for DS2) not to bother coming back when she was 'concerned about this worrying trend' from three weighings, one of which was at birth. You can't have a trend from two points...

They appear to think all babies should be in the middle of their (incorrect) weight charts... not really getting the whole 'someone has to be at the top and the bottom for their to be a middle'.

Sorry, rant over. Phew.

Thankfully, she took me at my word and hasn't troubled us again.

Wean when it seems right. You'll see the signs!

My HV rang me once.

She spoke to Bloke, and told him she was calling because she needed to weigh little Ff, despite her having been weighed the week before, and my having an appointment to get her weighed the next day.

I rang her back, and was, um, quite emphatic in getting my point across.

She has never bothered me again, and the few times I have taken the baby back to get her weighed, the HV has been conveniently absent, and her assistant has done the weighing.

YANBU, and I would consider making a complaint as she is giving you unsolicited bad advice.

I consider myself lucky as I got great advice from my midwife and breastfeeding councellor MIL (and MN, obviously) but worry about the effect HVs who are clearly quite mad have on first time mums without that level of support.

IME its never unresonable to be annoyed at HVs .