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To go on a date with someone who I don't really fancy?

78 replies

TheCreamEggOfSeptimusQuench · 06/04/2009 16:31

Or rather, am I being unfair, I suppose...

He seems very keen. Am I sending out the wrong message by agreeing to go out for a drink with him, or should I chill out and give him a chance?

Thank you

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MuffinBaker · 06/04/2009 21:26

I didn't fancy my hubby at first.

Met saturday

snogged wed

fancied him then and do more each day, dammit.

fizzpops · 07/04/2009 08:43

daisydora - that is exactly the same as me! Had a vague idea of what he looked like, only recognised him because he was with his friend who I knew.

Which reminds me - his friend came with us on the first three of our dates . Just at the pub watching football not sitting with us and joining in the conversation, that must be some indicator of how much I was prepared to put up with for a nice guy.

Having said that if you don't fancy him and his behaviour is putting you off seems like a bit of a hopeless case. Phoning is a lovely trait but stalkers are not usually considered good DH material so there are limits to its attractiveness.... (not saying he is a stalker btw).

Curiousmama · 07/04/2009 10:51

So is it tonight you go on the date?
Maybe he's just really keen? I know it can be annoying. It's usually guys saying women are ringing them all the time not the other way round.
fizzpops I had a stalker and he was very keen from the word go. Took a restraining order to get rid of him

TheCreamEggOfSeptimusQuench · 07/04/2009 19:40

Yes it is tonight.

I've had a really, really, busy, stressy day at work, I don't feel very well and I don't want to go. But too late now, I'm meeting him in 20 minutes.

Bollocks.

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lou33 · 07/04/2009 21:34

we demand a report afterwards you know

minesacheeseandpicklesandwich · 07/04/2009 21:41

Assuming that if you're not home yet, it must be going ok...?

ChippingIn · 07/04/2009 23:42

Cream Egg - don't keep us in suspenders... well, not unless you are in yours

LadyOfScoffleTheEasterEggs · 08/04/2009 00:20

...........................?

warthog · 08/04/2009 11:21

oh come on!

quornsilk · 08/04/2009 11:24

I think Septimus is so absorbed with her young play thing that she has forgotten us.

BitOfFunnyBunny · 08/04/2009 11:26

Oooh, I hope this is a good sign!

lou33 · 08/04/2009 13:53

no news?

cheltenhamgal · 08/04/2009 14:34

lol I have just read this and was eagerly anticipating the outcome.............. I didn't fancy my bf on our first date but the more we chatted over the following week the more he grew on me lol we have now been together nearly a year

TheCreamEggOfSeptimusQuench · 08/04/2009 14:52

Hello.

Well. He arrived, and I was pleasantly suprised by the fact that he is actually rather hotter than I remembered

And it really wasn't too bad at all. He was very sweet and sympathetic about my crap day, did more listening than I anticipated, and was quite funny. He does get a bit carried away - laughing at his own jokes etc, and he seems to have a few tales about his & his mates exploits that made him seem quite immature - but all in all, I had quite a nice time.

So nice, in fact, that we ended up putting away rather a lot of wine , and against my better judgement, he ended up coming back here for a cup of tea. He said that his last train was due to leave at midnight, so all well and good. But then he tried the oldest trick in the book of pretending to fall asleep on my sofa! Well, I woke him up, and he asked whether he could "just stay here on the sofa; it's so late.." etc etc . So I had to be quite assertive in telling him that there was absolutely no way on earth I was letting him sleep here!

Cue him getting quite narky and stalking off into the night with a face like a slapped arse. He must have felt a bit humiliated I guess, but he only had himself to blame.

So my instinct about him being a bit young and immature was correct.

But he's a nice chap really, and as i say, quite a hottie. So now I don't know whether to see him again or not!

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compo · 08/04/2009 14:54

lol what a date
I guess ou can't blame him for trying it on
maybe go to the cinema or for lunch next time so he definitely gets a train home

minesacheeseandpicklesandwich · 08/04/2009 15:14

Oh god, the old 'I'm so sleepy' routine. I used to try that when I was in my teens!!!

Still, if the rest of the night went ok, can you just blame his trying it on and the subbsequent rant on the booze?

What will you say if he tries calling again? Do you think he will apologise? Do you think he will call at all?

minesacheeseandpicklesandwich · 08/04/2009 15:15

subsequent

TheCreamEggOfSeptimusQuench · 08/04/2009 15:19

Have just received a text!

"I'm sorry about going all weird last night. Hope your day's going OK. Enjoyed seeing you. I was really knackered and wasn't on top form. Ring me if you want to: it would put my mind at rest ('cos I feel like a bit of a fool).

Aww, bless..

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minesacheeseandpicklesandwich · 08/04/2009 15:26

Aww Bless, indeed. There's one forlorn fool. I'll bet he's sorry, he now thinks he's completely buggered it up with you.

Still, any man who brave enough to get back in touch so soon, and after such an embarrassing incident, is actually quite mature.

Second chance, maybe?

iSOLOvechocolate · 08/04/2009 15:35

He apologised!!! that is a maturity in my book.

lou33 · 08/04/2009 15:37

i wouldnt write him off just yet

the last dte i had, was searching in my car for a lighter, and i was too, and for some reason he thought it may be in my bra, and almost made a lunge for me (i was leaning forward so the shirt revealed some of it)

he sent a text afterwards to say he was mortified at his bebhaviour lol

lou33 · 08/04/2009 15:38

sorry about typos, i am a bit poorly and feeble

iSOLOvechocolate · 08/04/2009 15:44

Did you see him again lou33?

lou33 · 08/04/2009 16:12

well it was only sunday and i am not well today, but i would see him again (though not made any firm dates)

TheCreamEggOfSeptimusQuench · 08/04/2009 16:24

He thought the lighter might just happen to be in your bra? ROFL. I suppose you've got to admire his originality

Hope you feel better soon lou

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