To go on a date with someone who I don't really fancy?

[TheCreamEggOfSeptimusQuench]

Or rather, am I being unfair, I suppose...

He seems very keen. Am I sending out the wrong message by agreeing to go out for a drink with him, or should I chill out and give him a chance?

Thank you

oh go.see what happens.

Yes, a man not afraid of calling you is one to keep hold of, so long as you let him know you're the one in control.

Oh go on...try something different!

Tis true, I'd be moaning more about a man who hadn't called.

[never-bloody-satisfied emoticon]

Go, give it a whirl.

I'd like to say I didn't fancy DH on our first date but tbh I couldn't even remember what he looked like while I was getting ready for it (was a bit tipsy when we met). I had a friend on standby in case he was a numpty.

what is it exactly you are being put off by?

his age , the fact he has called a few times? something else?

i don't think she fancys him lou33

Youth / possible immaturity?

And general intensity.

He has just texted (how are you today?). My gut is not to reply otherwise it will turn into the kind of daft text conversation that lasts all evening. But he is a nice chap. Intelligent. And physically, not unattractive...

a young man who likes keeping in touch doesnt sound like a bad thing to me

unless you arent physically drawn to him of course

you can always cut the texting short by saying you were off to bed or had a friend over or something

Oh go on the one date. Have you actually met him before or is he someone you have made contact with through a dating organisation? I would definitely say meet him if it's the latter as it's quite hard to get/give the right impression when you haven't actually seen or spoken to the person in the flesh. If he is someone you already know socially and you enjoy his company then again one evening won't hurt you (you are under no obligation to have sex with him or even kiss him if you don't want to).

I met him on Saturday, at a club
Not something that I would usually do, but had a brilliant night dancing to a Brazillian funk band and just got chatting and mildly flirting outside (with the grubby smokers )

He was nice, good fun. Yes, I should go on the date, I'm just being a bit daft I think, possibly due to previous heartaches and exasperation with men generally.

Lou, I have just looked at the gorgeous pictures on your profile - no wonder you have young whippersnappers queuing up to take you on dates!

SQ: well let us know how you go on. ANy first date should be approached with an open mind: if you find the person is a bore or a creep or whatever, you've only lost one evening. Good luck.

I didn't fancy dp straight away but at the end of the first date I did. Now we're insatiable He's older but I like older. I wouldn't let age bother you.

he sounds like he is worth a go, from all your posts

6 years is nothing

men have been dating with big age gaps for years, no reason why women cant too imo

Right. I will bite the bullet and go. And will report back

Thanks for all your encouragement.

2 missed calls - I have just texted him saying I'm with a friend (well, I'm chatting to you lot...). Might call him back later.

Blimey he is keen isn't he!! Is he boring on the phone or quite interesting?

I'm quite excited, I always have more hope when it's not a lust fuelled date. Like my mate M says the slow burners are always the best. Mind you he's been single for 10 years bless him think he needs to strike a match at the very least

Oh lou's a babe isn't she

Not boring, but he does talk a lot - and quite intensely.

Intensely in what way? Does he listen too?

Doesn't seem like a great listener.... he talks at length about stuff that interests him, very passionately. But that could be nerves I suppose. Oh well, all will become clear...

Hope it is nerves and he does listen more on date. If not his loss eh?

On our first date DH sat & listened very intently to me chatting away - I have since found out he was just trying really hard not to gawp at my boobs PMSL!

It's like going to a job interview when you know you don;t really want the job - all good practice

Well yeah, definitely: if you have been single for a while it's a good idea to go on dates with people who are not obviously appaling (stinky, bullying, gagging for sex etc) just to get used to dating. After all, one date with someone doesn't commit you to anything more (and if the other person thinks it does, then you know they are a twerp and can run away.)

Hmm, well that's kind of the problem - all this phoning, he's behaving as though he considers me his girlfriend already:
Just received another text saying "call me when you get home" !!! Bossyboots!