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Original poster

For cutting a close friend out of my life because they are just bordering sick...

53 replies

mamadiva · 06/04/2009 12:29

This is'nt even so much of an AIBU as a rant TBH but still.

Basically one of my best friend's who I have noticed is getting more and more twisted with regards to emails and things I have asked him to stop he said okay but I got an Email earlier saying 'Watch this video soo funny' and thn he had wrote it's nothing sinister promise .

So I asked what it was he said it's just a fairground video so I thought okay assuming it was something he filmed as was ata fairground at the weekend.

Clicked on lin and it WAS not something I wanted to see yes it was a fairground but not funny at all incredibly nasty actually, so I phoned him and asked WTF he was sending me that kind of shit for and he says what it's funny?

Basically I told him to go take a good f**k to himself and if that's the kind of crap he finds funny then don't bother talking to me again.

Anyway rant a bit over but would you say IABU for cutting him out totally and not talking again? Am I over readting? Ach such a PITA.

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SerendipitousHarlot · 06/04/2009 12:32

How do you mean nasty?

GypsyMoth · 06/04/2009 12:34

What was it?

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mamadiva · 06/04/2009 12:39

Apparently it was on the news a while ago about a Serbian boy on the ferris wheel not nice, I was bloody shocked by it, I was waiting for something funny to happen me being naive and all assuming that a video called 'Ferris wheel mishap very funny' would not bloody disturb me

Basically a 6YO boy broke into a theme park, turned on the ferris wheel was excited moved seats and then fell out the side but the video footage seemed to be taken by a bunch of men/tennagers who stood and laughed and made jokes while this poor little boy was screaming for help dangling 100 feet from one of the cars when it got to the top he was screaming 'mama mama' and then he fell and landed on a fence at the bottom.

All the people filming were pissin themselves and shouting in Serbian and I can only assume were making jokes about it all.

Sorry for being graphic but this has really got to me.

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honie · 06/04/2009 12:41

Depends on what it was he sent really. I can't stand the ones when you get made jump at the end, I remember getting loads with the girl from the Ring and deciding not to open email attachments anymore!!

If you've made it clear you dont want to see certain things, and he tricks you into watching them then I would have a serious chat with him, before cutting him out.

GypsyMoth · 06/04/2009 12:43

Is your friend a parent?

StealthPolarBear · 06/04/2009 12:43

That sounds horrible. Did he survive?
No, not funny in the slightest, and not appropriate to be sent round as a chain joke email at all!

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mamadiva · 06/04/2009 12:47

God am in bits after writing that again, have text him and told him to come round later it needs to bloody stop.

I have a dark sense of humour but not when it involves children in that kind of situation and he should know it.

I'm going to tell him I don't care what he watches and laughs at home but when it comes to sending it to me I do care.

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AMumInScotland · 06/04/2009 12:48

Yuck! In what way is that meant to be "funny" and "not sinister" ?

I'd contact him and say that you find it offensive that he thinks you'd be amused by a child suffering. Give him the choice - he can either continue to be counted as your friend, in which case he does not do anything like this again. Or he can f**k off.

honie · 06/04/2009 12:50

x posts.

That is totally unreasonable. I would have something serious to say to him, and I have to say you are nbu to not want to share time with someone who thinks thats aceptable to forward to you.

I don't think he is 'bordering' on sick.

LastOrders · 06/04/2009 12:53

I'd wish him all the best with his life followed by a swift F**k Right Off.

rolandbrowning · 06/04/2009 12:53

YANBU, This sort of thing makes me despair of human nature.

BitOfFunnyBunny · 06/04/2009 12:54

I wouldn't invite him to come round though, you've told him now, surely you can just back off?

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 06/04/2009 12:57

I wouldn't dump an otherwise good mate for having a sicker sense of humour than me (you would have to go a loooooong way to find someone with a sicker sense of humour than me for a start) however what I don't like the sound of with this bloke is that you have asked him not to send you 'sick' humour and yet he not only keeps doing it but tells you it's not sick at all. That's unpleasant, bullying behaviour. People are entitled to have different senses of humour or no sense of humour at all without being harassed about it.

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mamadiva · 06/04/2009 12:58

Stealth I googled the story on news to see if it was real and sadly it was He died that day and they translated some of the stuff being said by the boy and those filming apparently police are looking for those who filmed it.

Tiffany He's not a parent and he is only 19 but still surely human instinct tells you that's not funny and certainly not to send it to a parent even if you think it is somehow appropriate.

Have told him we really do need to talk because this is just one more thing added onto jokes, other vids and things which I have asked him repeeatedly to stop telling me. Got a text back asking why I think it's okay for us to have hour loing discussions about crappy stuff like this if it's on the news but when it's in video form I don't want to know.

because there is a difference in having an inteligent convo about something like this and actually taking the piss!!!

I just want to smack his jaw right now honestly.

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rolandbrowning · 06/04/2009 13:00

There's a difference between having a sick sense of humour and laughing as a child suffers, crying for his mum, then falls. I think that is really really weird. Or am I just a bit naive and really lots of people would find that funny?

LastOrders · 06/04/2009 13:01

The people who laugh at his sort of sick shit on the internet are the sort ot think theres nothing wrong in child porn imo.

Its wrong wrong wrong.

Some poor child died and he thinks its so hilarious hes sharing it wit his friends.

I'm getting wound up now so will back away

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mamadiva · 06/04/2009 13:02

Solid I don't care that he has a sick sense of humour, I know I do and I find the weirdest stuff funny but this I fail to see the funny side.

It is more the fact that he has not listened to me when I said no to this kind of crap. I am not interested in footage of children dying, if that means I have a crap sense of humour then so be it.

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minesacheeseandpicklesandwich · 06/04/2009 13:09

He needs to grow up and quickly, before someone does something sick to him in the name of humour.

edam · 06/04/2009 13:11

OMG that is horrible. How can anyone think footage of a terrified child dying in an accident is amusing? Good grief.

KayHarker · 06/04/2009 13:25

Bordering sick? Flarping heck, that's beyond sick. How twisted do you have to be to find a child dying funny?

solidgoldshaggingbunnies · 06/04/2009 13:26

Mamadiva: that's what I said - the problem is that he is not respecting your viewpoint at all.

FanjOeuForTheMammaries · 06/04/2009 13:44

I actually find it upsetting to even hear about that so I think to see it could be quite traumatising, if he won't respect you don't want to see it then I agree you should consider not speaking to him.

MitchyInge · 06/04/2009 13:45

Nobody needs friends like that

Simplysally · 06/04/2009 13:49

I would find it hard to talk to someone like that again.

That poor child .

Rosa · 06/04/2009 13:49

Well I have certainly got the wrong idea of what friends are- Anybody making fun out of somebody elses tragic misfortune for me is sick.