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Original poster

to think that it seems if you have a DS first, most often the second is a boy?

69 replies

tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:18

However if you have a girl first it seems far more evenly spread that the second is either a boy or girl?!!!

Just an observation but it does seem that way!

OP posts:
blametheparents · 05/04/2009 21:41

Basically it is saying that , pretty much, it is a 50/50 chance which sex you will have regardless of what gender child/children you already have.

Haribosmummy · 05/04/2009 21:42

I have a DS and am expecting a DD.

I don't much care what the evidence says - I'd have been happier with a boy or a girl.. (Not a Bot, though guadelupe )

Original poster
tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:42

..........so I have got it all wrong then!!!!!!!!!!!

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Haribosmummy · 05/04/2009 21:43

HAPPY with EITHER a boy or girl.

Not HAPPIER

DUHHHH!!!!

piximon · 05/04/2009 21:43

YABU
I had a boy, then a girl, then a girl, then a boy, (twins) then another boy.

I'm my mum's second child and have an older brother.

My MIL had boy, girl, girl, boy.

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:48

DH is VERY VERY keen for a girl next......to the point I'm dreading trying for number 2 in case he is upset. I would love another boy or a girl but DH is really quite desperate - what to do??

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Wallace · 05/04/2009 21:50

ds then a dd

thisisyesterday · 05/04/2009 21:50

lol, tell him you'll try your best but it's HIS sperm that dictates the sex so he'll just have to make sure he only makes girl ones

neenztwinz · 05/04/2009 21:52

He'll get over it

flightattendant19 · 05/04/2009 22:00

Thinking about this, everyone I know currently has got two boys or two girls...if they have two kids, that is.

How weird is that? Some are pg with third dc though so will have to see what that brings up.

fulltimeworkingmum · 05/04/2009 22:07

It's this simple:

All your eggs are X chromosome laden
Your husband/partner's sperm are either X OR Y chromosome laden. If an X sperm gets there first it's a little princess and if a Y sperm gets there first - Hello Boys!
It's the luck of the draw and which of his little swimmers reaches the goal first -END OF.

tobytortoise · 05/04/2009 22:23

Hate it when people say they are 'so lucky' to have 'one of each'..............am I UNlucky with my two beautiful boys????

sayithowitis · 05/04/2009 23:04

Here here Toby. I am so blessed with my two wonderful sons. But then maybe I am just grateful to have children at all after several miscarriages.

jellybeans · 05/04/2009 23:06

I had g,g,g,b,b,g,b.

jellybeans · 05/04/2009 23:09

ps I too had several m/c and was grateful for any live baby. I think anyone with living children is very lucky! I actually think it is nice to have 2 the same sex so they can play with each other.

duchesse · 06/04/2009 08:31

I think Toby, that the comments you get probably come from the 1950s-1970s idealised pigeon pair family that many people carry around in their heads subconsciously. When we had our daughter (after our son), many people assumed we would stop, because, well, we'll replicated ourselves, so why carry on?

duchesse · 06/04/2009 08:33

flight- that's odd, because I know lots of people with just two girls, but hardly anybody with just two boys.

In our village, we have two single sex families with four children each (one all boys, one all girls).

bellavitalikesthesimnellife · 06/04/2009 08:39

boy then boy for me

BalloonSlayer · 06/04/2009 08:40

I read once that if the woman has her orgasm first the inside of the uterus is more favourable for male sperm.

(In the past, when boys were preferred over girls the resulting son was was seen as the man's "reward" for thinking of his wife's pleasure before his own.)

SomeMightSay · 06/04/2009 08:49

Boy then boy here

Cadmum · 06/04/2009 08:56

DS, DD, (DS late miscarriage) DS2 (DS twins late miscarriage) DD2 here so quite a mix..

I have friends with 3 and 4 DSs followed by a DD each so it might have seemed impossible for them to conceive girls if they had given up earlier.

I think that for most couples the odds are 50/50 with each pregnancy.

cikecaka · 06/04/2009 09:00

DS 1st then DD1, DD2, DD3 Xmas Grin

georgimama · 06/04/2009 09:02

I know that there is research to say that if you have 2 children of the same gender (doesn't matter boys or girls) if you have a third child you have something like 80% chance of having a third child of that gender. Some couples seem to "breed" boys or girls.

In my family my nan had 2 sons then 3 daughters, my mum had 2 boys then a daughter, but her sister and brother both had boy then girl.

I don't think there is any evidence of correlation in first two children.

midnightexpress · 06/04/2009 09:21

Thinking through my friends with 2 or more children I can think of:

BB (me)
BB
BG
BG
BG
BG
BG
GB
GB
GGG
BBG
GBG
BGBG
BBB

which doesn't seem to prove anything much, except that BG seems to be the most common combination.

Oblomov · 06/04/2009 10:14

Posters who say it is 50/50, well that does make sense, doesn't it.
BUT, does that mean that all these methods, such as shettles, is that all a load of tosh then ?