To be upset that i feel as though i have to buy my friends

[MsSpentEaster]

I have been a single parent not for 7 months and have recently got a car and am trying to get out more and see old friends.

The trouble is i feel as though i have to literaly bribe them to come over, i have had this my whole life and whilst when i had a job i was able to do it, as a single mum i can no longer afford it, so remain pretty much friend free. I know it's not great having to buy my friends but at least that way i have some.

I always try to be nice to people so it's not that i am a bitch, i just don't think i am a very likeable person.

I have moved from area to area all my life so don't have any lifelong friends like most of the people in my area do.

I'm a single mum too and it is hard. I have two best old mates whose babies are the same age as mine but they have supportive partners and therefore i feel a bit jealous and that has put a slight wedge between us. We still have a laugh though. Mabe people assume that you can't go out. Mabe hire a babysitter?

MSE just read through this thread and can sort of identify with you. I have some lovely friends but am a lot older than you (41 soon eeek ) but have been treated like you in the past. I've had to prune my friends and kept some, found new too. I made a lot of good friends at Church as I'm a Spiritualist. Not that I'm advocating religion if that isn't for you? But finding a common interest is such a good way of meeting like minds.
Recently I realised that my sister isn't who I thought she was. We've been 'close' for years, been through a lot together but it dawned on me it's always me who visits her, rings her ect... So I've stopped. It does hurt but I just think if they think that much of you then they'll miss you and make an effort. I doubt she will though.

By the way I didn't realise Netmums have local sites so have just joined, thanks to the mums who posted it on here
I may not meet up with people but it's nice to read about local news.

Good luck with your counselling and pruning MSM

I have had a nice weekend, i (as usual) spent it at my parents house.

I went to see the couple who i met recently and it was nice, i am hoping they can become good friends of mine, but whilst i was there i also went to pick some items up that i had left at my 'friends' house (wont say what because it would make this thread too recognisable if someone was to read) that are quite expensive and she had 'borrowed' them over a year ago, but suprise suprise she couldn't find them, i do want to leave this friend behind so i am quite annoyed.

I also found out from the couple i met recently, who have known this 'friend' for quite a while, that she had stripped off in front of him when his GF and her own BF were in the next room. It doesn't suprise me, which is another reason i am going to drop this friendship, she was always flirting with my XP and friends don't do that!

I have been trying these new ADs for 2 days now, and they have just knocked me out each night, didn't even remember getting into bed

I am on FB, i will put my new name on the list of MN names

Hi MSE glad you had a nice weekend
I've had this before where so called friends 'lose' things, more likely sell them I think? I've lost count of the amount of dvds I've lost. I've learnt from it and luckily my established friends aren't this way.

I just came of ADs recently but found when I first went on them they could wipe me out. It's worth it though as you know.

I'm on FB too email me at goldenbrownandi at hotmail.com if you want my RL name and to add me to yours