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AIBU?

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Original poster

To feel depressed at someone yapping on her phone while on a ride in Legoland with her daughter?

96 replies

whistlejacket · 03/04/2009 19:47

After shelling out on a treat for the kids, you'd think she'd be keen to spend some quality time with them. I couldn't hear what she was talking about. Maybe it was "Let's discuss the Q1 sales figures, you'll have to excuse the background noise I'm on the Dino Safari."

OP posts:
traceybath · 03/04/2009 19:49

It may have been an emergency? Can't say it would bother me to be honest but then i wouldn't particularly want to go to legoland either.

DumbledoresGirl · 03/04/2009 19:50

Well I think it would be nice to see parents spending quality time with their children, but who knows? Maybe someone rang her on the brink of despair and she was only responding to the call. Don't get depressed over such a trivial thing.

FAQinglovely · 03/04/2009 19:50

"I must remember never to use my phone while out on a day trip with my DS's for fear of making someone depressed"

MrsMcCluskey · 03/04/2009 19:51

I wouldnt feel depressed about it.
Maybe it was an important call
Unfortunately I spent DS's swimming lesson srting out an emergency at work instead of atching him
I aassume she wasnt on the phone all day long

SobranieCocktail · 03/04/2009 19:52

Maybe they have an annual pass and they go there all the time.

qumps · 03/04/2009 19:53

I agree with the op. There was a woman at gymborie this morning on the phone for about 10 mins while her son was playing. I know there might have been a very good reason but it still made me sad.

ninah · 03/04/2009 19:53

quality time? legoland?

MillyR · 03/04/2009 19:55

She's a child not a Greek god; it really doesn't matter if you don't speak to your children every moment that they're in you're presence.

YABU

Podrick · 03/04/2009 19:56

YABU and judgemental

Disenchantegg3 · 03/04/2009 19:56

My aunt took her DS on holdiday over night last week, she was supposed to go for a whole week with her dad, but he passed away the week before.

So she took her DS for one night because he was so looking forward to it.

I assume she spent alot of her time on the phone to my mum making funeral arrangements whilst trying to have a fun time with her son.

So yes, YABU unless you heard EVERY word of her conversation and not one was essntial to that moment.

MillyR · 03/04/2009 19:56

Your, even.

BalloonSlayer · 03/04/2009 19:56

We saw a bloke at legoland, on the merry-go-round yapping away on his mobile, about work, for the entire ride, totally ignoring the child.

We thought it was sad too.

ninja · 03/04/2009 19:58

I do this as I work flexably which allows me to do school runs etc, but means that I may have to answer enquiries at other times.

I'd rhatehr this than regular hours

MrsMcCluskey · 03/04/2009 19:59

MAybe... if these 'neglectful' parents weren't working over the phone, then they wouldnt be able to afford to take their kids to Legoland.

FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 03/04/2009 20:01

Have you been on the rides there? Soooo boring. Maybe she's spent all day talking and playing, maybe it was daddy phoning to see if the child was having fun?

Lets stop the judgfest now. It's hard raising a child without all of the harsh looks/words etc from other parents. We all screw up, no ones perfect. Lets give each other some support. Please.

herbietea · 03/04/2009 20:05

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BalloonSlayer · 03/04/2009 20:11

Of course not herbietea.

That's not what the OP means at all.

It's seeing an utter lack of interest, the parent totally absorbed in his or her conversation, no eye contact with the child, no sharing of what to the child is a fun experience and a treat.

The queues are long enough, and the rides short enough, surely a phone call could wait for three minutes so that the child and parent can experience the ride together?

TheFallenMadonna · 03/04/2009 20:12

Ah, I suspect people thik that about me when I'm in the coffee shop with my dc and I make a beeline for the papers...

flubdub · 03/04/2009 20:13

Ok, so lets set some ground rules?
Am I allowed to use my mobile on holiday for three weeks?
While painting with my dd?
While at a childs birthday party?
While dd is in bed? Because she may wake up y'know?

Im confused

brimfull · 03/04/2009 20:15

Pmsl at milli 'She's a child not a Greek god; it really doesn't matter if you don't speak to your children every moment that they're in you're presence.'

so true!!

FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 03/04/2009 20:15

You have a child flub. You are not allowed a life, you are not allowed to be bored or use a phone. You exist only to entertain them, feed them, clean them and tend to their every need. Did they not give you this page of the manual?

brimfull · 03/04/2009 20:15

a child not a greek god -lololol

so true!!!

flubdub · 03/04/2009 20:16

BalloonSlayer - the OP didnt mentio "no eye contact" and being "totally absorbed".

brimfull · 03/04/2009 20:16

oops thought my first post didn't work

weird