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Would this have embarrassed you or am I being daft?

59 replies

KnifeNFork · 02/04/2009 21:29

Sitting in a 'fish n chip' resteraunt type place with relatively new "boyfriend" for want of a better word. Not a posh place, not a scabby place, just "Nice" iyswim?

So waitress comes across and asks if I'd like gravy, curry etc with my fish and chips. I asked if the curry had sultanas in, she said yes. I said "oh, I won't have any then, thank you".

Well, bloke gasped and started shouting quite loudly "IS THAT TRUE??? YOU DON'T LIKE SULTANAS??? NEITHER DO I!!! ISN'T THAT STRANGE!! DO YOU REALLY NOT LIKE THEM??? ISN'T IT WIERD HOW WE BOTH LIKE SO MUCH OF THE SAME STUFF??" waitress just raised an eyebrow. I sank into my chair and mumbled something about gravy.

I was so embarrassed. Point is, only reason we 'like so much of the same stuff' anyway is because he copies everything I say!

But besides that, was I being ridiculous to feel embarrassed by his excitement at me not liking sultanas??

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Shitemum · 02/04/2009 21:31

sorry but he sounds a bit of a twat

mummy2isla · 02/04/2009 21:33

YANBU.. He sounds a bit desperate!

iwontbite · 02/04/2009 21:33

no, it wouldn't have embarassed me (it's the kind of thing I do too lol)

sounds like you aren't that into him though, so maybe that's why??

Wigglesworth · 02/04/2009 21:33

YANBU, is he all there? Is he a "new" soon to be ex-boyfriend?

apostrophe · 02/04/2009 21:33

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Disenchanted3 · 02/04/2009 21:35

i agree with iwontbite

if you liked him you would prob find it cute,

KnifeNFork · 02/04/2009 21:37

I did like him but I am going off him more and more everytime I see him. Last night we were talking about sky TV over msn and he said he got his dish installed for free in a dodgy deal. I admitted that mine was installed in a dodgy deal too by the man who came from sky (long story) anyway he started going "yay, good on you, well done KnifeNFork...." etc!! I was like "yeah ok, calm down"

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Mumcentreplus · 02/04/2009 21:38

ok..my official opinion is... he is nuts..

iwontbite · 02/04/2009 21:39

maybe he is just a bit nervous? I know I get a bit stupid when I am nervous lol and end up just going on and on about the most ridiculous crap.

but anyway, what I am like is irrelevant isn't it? hehe.
if you aren't hitting it off then end it

Mumcentreplus · 02/04/2009 21:39

or at least irritating in the extreme

MrsMattie · 02/04/2009 21:40

lol! He sounds keen

Mumcentreplus · 02/04/2009 21:41

but then he could be just nervous.....tis your beauty..makes him crazy!..lol

mummy2isla · 02/04/2009 21:41

Yeah I reckon if you liked him you'd think it was sweet how much he wanted to find things in common ... or you'd be trying to find things in common yourself!

No point staying if he's annoying ..

mummy2isla · 02/04/2009 21:42

... cos trust me if he's annoying now he'd be OUTRAGEOUSLY annoying after 5 years of marriage !!!

diedandgonetodevon · 02/04/2009 21:46

You're only embarrassed as you are obviously not that keen on him. Time to move on methinks

KnifeNFork · 02/04/2009 21:48

He just seems to make a huge deal out of everything. Like he couldn't finish his lunch. Instead of just leaving it, he made a point of explaining to the waitress that it was lovely but 'for some reason' his stomach wasn't allowing him to finish it off blah blah, she just smiled sweetly and took the plates. Bet she was thinking "I honestly couldn't give a shit, mate".

Another thing is that we're supposed to be going away for the day over the easter hols. He keeps nagging and nagging and nagging me about it.

him "What day shall we go?
me "dunno, whatever"
him "well, I can check the weather upto 4 days in advance ... "
me "yeah, ok"
him "we could make it either wednesday ... or tuesday if its easier? or perhaps Thursday? Actually, I could do Friday or Monday too ... "
me "its weeks away! we'll sort it nearer the time"
him "ok, shall I get the travel sick tablets?"
me "I'll get them"
him "you sure? I could get them? In fact, I think I better get them as I'm going to tesco tomorow, do you think I should get them?"
me "ARGH SHUT UP! I DON'T CARE! JEEZ LOUISE PAPPA CHEESE, IF IT WAS UPTO ME I'D ARRANGE THE DATE THE DAY BEFORE AND STOP OFF AT TESCO ON THE BLOODY WAY!! ITS NOT A HUGE FECKING ADVENTURE!!!!!!!!!"

ok I didn't say the last bit, but I wanted to.

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iwontbite · 02/04/2009 21:51

ok the last one you are def being unreasonable! he's only trying to arrange a day out. of course he's going to ask questions about it.

Leni75 · 02/04/2009 21:52

you should have....

Leni75 · 02/04/2009 21:53

just to see his face, mind....

KnifeNFork · 02/04/2009 21:54

But what is there to arrange? we know where we're going, how long it takes to get there etc, why does it have to be such a big deal? I hate being nagged

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mummy2isla · 02/04/2009 21:56

it's because he's being too nice!! Men who are too nice are really offputting!!

mummy2isla · 02/04/2009 21:56

it's because he's being too nice!! Men who are too nice are really offputting!!

BlueBumedFly · 02/04/2009 21:57

I just Love Jeez Louise Papa Cheese - pml!!

iwontbite · 02/04/2009 21:57

he just wants to pick the best day because he likes you and wants you to have a great time.
he keeps nagging because you won't give him a straight answer!

Alibabaandthe40bunnies · 02/04/2009 21:58

Ah bless him - it sounds like he's really keen.

This is the kind of thing that you would love and think was fantastic if you were really into him, but is desperately annoying and embarrassing if you aren't.

YANBU about the restaurant thing, but in terms of the day out then you definitely are. He's excited and wants you to be too, and the more you seem not bothered 'dunno, whatever' the more he's going to push to try and get you excited.

Put the poor bloke out of his misery and tell him you aren't interested.