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To be nervous about leaving DS

27 replies

Aeschylus · 23/03/2009 21:12

Hi,

I am a SAHD, my DS is 1, I have been (much to my dead DW teliing me to stop) very protective, and to this point he is only out of my sight for 2 hours a week when I go to badminton, but he goes to bed 30 mins after I leave, DW has him then.

Tomorrow I have a hospital appointment and I have had to ask my Mum to look after him, I will be gone for about 3 hours, I am dreading it, my mum is exited and is more than capable, it is all me, I feel like crying (in a macho way) I feel so stupid and expect to get told off by you lovely ladies.

I have so many butterflies in my stomach, I can not take him with me due to the nature of the appointment.

Help me please.

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Original poster
Aeschylus · 23/03/2009 21:13

I mean my Dear DW, OMG not dead

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dragonbutter · 23/03/2009 21:13

fucking hell.
right, i'll re read it.

LadyPinkofPinkerton · 23/03/2009 21:15

Bless you having a PFB moment. He will be fine!

dragonbutter · 23/03/2009 21:16

ok, so you're dead wife isn't telling you off. that's a good start

stop it!
it's 3 hours.

i think maybe you should try to get a break more often.

FWIW, i was the same with DS1 but think it was damaging to me in the longer term. You have to find 'you' and have time alone.

psychomum5 · 23/03/2009 21:17

aww...tis lovely to see this from a dad. IME most times dads are the ones telling us mums to get a grip ((not telling you to get a grip BTW)).

he will be fine, your mum will love it, and yoiu will feel liberated.

unless it is an appointment about manly bits, in which case you might feel too tender to feel liberated.......

dilemma456 · 23/03/2009 21:19

Message withdrawn

dragonbutter · 23/03/2009 21:20

pmsl @ dilemma.

screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 21:21

Get a grip

He will be fine. You will feel weird, then strangely free, then you may decide to stop off for a quick coffee on the way back, then you will be so pleased to see him again, then he may or may not ignore you on your return........

francagoestohollywood · 23/03/2009 21:22

Aeschylus, stop being so tragic !

Seriously, you are going to be fine and ds is going to be fine. He'll have a lovely time with his grandmother, good grandmothers are soooooooooo important in the children's life, ime.

dizzydixies · 23/03/2009 21:24

ah bless

what everyone else said and glad your wife risen from the dead

SoupDragon · 23/03/2009 21:25
screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 21:25

I the hospital appointment to remove the butterflies?

screamingabdab · 23/03/2009 21:26

Sorry, IS the hospital appointment to remove the butterflies?

123andaway · 23/03/2009 21:26

I exactly the same with PFB DS1 when he was little. Now 10 years (and 2 more kids) down the line I can't get away quick enough, and will leave them with anyone who offers (and several that don't)!!

He will be fine, and will have a fantastic time with grandma.

dragonbutter · 23/03/2009 21:27

still pmsl

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 23/03/2009 21:27

Crikey I thought you were receiving childcare instructions from a dead woman then - which would have been touching but also scary.

He will be fine. Hope the appointment goes ok.

Original poster
Aeschylus · 23/03/2009 21:28

I think MN needs to add a edit function.

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dizzydixies · 23/03/2009 21:29

thay have a preview one

psychomum5 · 23/03/2009 21:30

you realise that you are never gonna get sense from us now don;t you, after that tragic faux pas in the OP.

Original poster
Aeschylus · 23/03/2009 21:32

Lol yep, that was probably the worst typo ever, what was I thinking...

see that is how worked up about it I am, make stupid typos..

could it of been that I could hear MIL on phone

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dizzydixies · 23/03/2009 21:33

quote of the week anyone?!

Shoshe · 23/03/2009 21:37

Does your Dear Wife know you have said she is dead

piscesmoon · 23/03/2009 21:44

I am glad you are not a widower! He will be fine, it will be lovely for Grandma to have him to herself.

theDreadPiratePerArdua · 23/03/2009 21:49

Separation anxiety is perfectly normal, but more usual in the child than the parent.

This is your first step on the road back to days filled with grown-up stuff. Give it a few weeks and you'll even be able to finish a sentence in conversation (this one takes a while to get used to). Enjoy the time off, and plan some more granny time for DS in the future .

tribpot · 23/03/2009 21:49

If he's 1, just take him to the hospital appointment. D(dead)H and I only stopped taking ds when he was much older than this, because stuff like seeing daddy have blood taken distressed him.

Equally dealing with a baby in hospital isn't exactly a barrel o' laughs but I fail to see why I should be the only patient/carer in the country made to feel like shit about it! Come and join my party.