To be nervous about leaving DS

[Aeschylus]

Hi,

I am a SAHD, my DS is 1, I have been (much to my dead DW teliing me to stop) very protective, and to this point he is only out of my sight for 2 hours a week when I go to badminton, but he goes to bed 30 mins after I leave, DW has him then.

Tomorrow I have a hospital appointment and I have had to ask my Mum to look after him, I will be gone for about 3 hours, I am dreading it, my mum is exited and is more than capable, it is all me, I feel like crying (in a macho way) I feel so stupid and expect to get told off by you lovely ladies.

I have so many butterflies in my stomach, I can not take him with me due to the nature of the appointment.

Help me please.

I can't see why you would want to take him to an appointment if you have a babysitter built in-much better for DC and his Grandma to get to know each other-it doesn't looks as if they get much opportunity.

You need to get out more! I was the same with DS as hb not that interested in ds/ childcare til he turned two and became more interesting. DS pretty much didn't leave my sight for first year but i don't think it does the parent much good, just keeps reinforcing over-protectionism.

I almost died when i heard that on one of hb and ds first trips out alone together (to the park on his 2nd b'day) hb didn't hold ds hand going down the 10 big steps outside and he fell top to bottom, could've broken his neck but walked away. Took me days to get over it! Every time i hear the car start and ds is with my hb i panic in case he gets run over. You don't want to get like that & the longer you stay sole carer the harder it is.

So though i don't want to scare you, its not just that you have to be able to leave them with someone else, you have to be ready for first accidents in other peoples care too. I still dread their first swimming trip alone together though!