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AIBU?

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to think a lot of people really expect far too much from Mothers Day?

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SerendipitousHarlot · 22/03/2009 12:09

Really. All the griping about what you did or didn't 'get'. Can't you just be happy with a cup of tea in bed and the love of your children?

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smudgethepuppydog · 22/03/2009 12:13

I think you'll find quite a few people have already posted similar threads.

ThePregnantHedgeWitch · 22/03/2009 12:19

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Stayingsunnygirl · 22/03/2009 12:30

Well I was made very happy by the love my children showed me. I was grateful for the gifts that they bought me - bless him, ds3 had gone for a credit-crunch option and raided the garden for daffodils!

nickschick · 22/03/2009 12:32

Im v happy with the stuff i got- my lovely dc have paid and chosen for it all themselves this year (a first) what im not happy with is dh being a twat.

JodieO · 22/03/2009 12:36

I haven't even seen my children yet today, they are at their Father's and I'm picking them up early at about 2pm. My parents are coming over for a roast dinner after that which I'll be cooking. I'll be grateful and happy just to see my three children.

gscrym · 22/03/2009 12:40

DS raided the daffodil patch at the end of the sreet and made me a card at beavers. We went for a nice breakfast and will watch a film later.

My family have never done the buying gifts part of mothers day. My parents don't agree with it. Once me and Brother were past making things at school, that was it finished.

I would have liked tea and toast in bed today. When I asked DH about it he said 'why, you're not my mother'. He's getting a kick in the knackers for fathers day.

HeinzSight · 22/03/2009 12:45

gscrym, my DH says EXACTLY the same thing to me!

Today my boys gave me hand made cards, I had breakfast in bed, shared it with DD, then my boys (12 and 9) are attempting to make dinner - M&S throw in the oven job

It does make me cringe all the adverts on tv, I saw one yesterday saying why not buy your Mum a Nintendo DS with braintraining WTF!

TreeTrunkThighs · 22/03/2009 12:47

gscrym - I could have written your last bit!

DD1 chose a card when I was with her in the shop (I closed my eyes) and made a bookmark at school - very nice.

DD2 did nothing as, and I quote DH, "she is just a baby". I had hoped that he might have helped her do something but not to be. The flowers and chocs in the utility room are for his mum, and rightly so.

A kick in the knackers on fathers' day it is

nickschick · 22/03/2009 12:49

Can whoever kicks hardest please come and kick my h too?

gscrym · 22/03/2009 12:53

I'll start taking bookings. I used to do kick boxing and taekwando. I'll also wait till they're sleeping and drop an axe kick square on their jewels when they least expect it.

Buda · 22/03/2009 12:59

Well as my expectations amounted to hoping for a cuppa in bed and even that didn't materialise I was a bit annoyed!

I even have a thread in AIBU about it! (Won't link but if you are really interested it is the one about the DH being able to hold down a job!)

Takver · 22/03/2009 13:31

I would be a bit baffled if DH brought me tea in bed (why should he - I'm not his mother) and alarmed if DD did (she's not allowed to use the gas on her own nor to climb the ladder to our bedroom especially holding a hot cup of tea).
TBH I'm a bit about MD in general, seems to me like an excuse for card makers to get us to cough up a bit of extra cash at a quiet time of year.

bronze · 22/03/2009 13:34

You know what soon after I posted my grump on another thread I realised my problem wasnt what I did or in my case didnt get for mothers day. It was in fact seeing what other people got/had done for them that made me jealous. so I decided to just not read about them instead. I've actually started to feel happier since then. the suns shining after all.

I wish Istill went to a nice church though. I did love the tradition of them giving flowers to all the women. I think it was closer to the origins of mothes day or something.

And I miss my mum

Belgianchocolates · 22/03/2009 13:37

My dh says the same thing about him not being my mum.
Thing is, I grew up with whole family spoiling mum on mother's day. That included my father, because he had to help us make the breakfast in bed or help us come up with good ideas for spoiling mum!
I do this with my dcs when it's father's day, so why not the other way around.
Though I did get lovely cards from my dcs today.

bronze · 22/03/2009 13:44

Just want to add my mums still with us just a long way away. It must be horrible for those who no longer have their mums

fin54 · 22/03/2009 14:16

I?m just grateful I am a mum, I wish I had my mum here to spoil her on mother?s day but I don?t, also my husband is at work today and both my son and daughter are abroad , one with work in Florida and the other on holiday in Thailand. But I don?t? care as long as I know they are both healthy and enjoying life. Oh and I did get a lovely present left for me from my daughter, tickets to see dancing on ice for me and her and my granddaughter.

FAQinglovely · 22/03/2009 14:26

"Can't you just be happy with a cup of tea in bed"

Lets not forget that not all of us even get that due to having no children old enough to make the tea, or anyone to supervise them doing it........

FAQinglovely · 22/03/2009 14:27

and when you wake up to find pooey pants hidden down the back of the toilet, a seriously blocked toilet and a living room that looks like it hasn't been tided for MONTHS - it doesn't exactly set you in a great mood for the day

Heifer · 22/03/2009 15:09

I agree with the bit about some women wanting it to be the same for them as it was for their mums with pampering and helping etc, but for my mum it probably was the 1 day of the year that she did get help with the children or around the house....

My dad didn't help raise us, my mum did it all by herself. Dad went to work. So Mothers Day for her was a real treat. Someone else made her breakfast, got up with the childrenm or cooked dinner. It sure didn't happen any other time of the year (as far as I can remember)...

But my life isn't like that - DH helps raise DD, cooks dinner sometimes, shares lie ins etc, so it just does't seem necessary to have this Special Day..

Which is just as well I guess as I am on my own with DD all day today whilst DH is coaching at a tournament (he left at 7.30am due back around 6.00).. I got a card off DD (made at school) and a box of chocs from her (via DH of course as she is only 5).

elvislives · 22/03/2009 15:26

"a cup of tea in bed and the love of my children" would have been wonderful. Didn't even get that. DS1 came in from work at about 1pm and hasn't even said hello to me yet (straight into his room). DS3 got up late and went straight out with his mates.

Did manage to guilt DD1 into a phone call after whining on FB tho

nicsnigsnags · 22/03/2009 15:36

I also agree that its can be hard as everyone asks what did you get for mothers day, in my case the nursery have sent me a card that ds 3.5 has made which is lovely unfortunately my dh got me nothing on behalf of our son, not even a card even though I told him a month ago this day was coming, as I do with all types of things like this.

feeling very sorry for myself as I'm 34 weeks pg too and only got out of hospital last week after being in for 9 days with bad pain(gallstone).

I think I'm more upset at the lack of effort not the cost/size of a present and the fact it doesn't matter what type of day comes up he never bothers or else its at the last minute

he has gone out somewhere in a huff but at least I've spent some nice time with ds as still having a lot of pain and sometimes can't do much with him

sorry about the moan, thats me said my piece!

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 22/03/2009 15:38

I got home-made cards off my DD's. They told me they loved me and gave me a hug. That was it. Oh, and I don't 'expect' anything - that's terrible!

I wanted nothing else, it was a lovely surprise. Why would chocolates/flowers/any other crap make me feel any better than cards made by my girls and a cuddle? They made me feel special with that! Surely that's what Mother's day is about - appreciation? How does spending money on industrially produced tat/ten-a-penny cards show that?

My poor DH gets berated if he fails to send a card to his mother, who can't be arsed to visit us, shows zero interest in her grand-children and only rings him up to boast about another expensive holiday she's been on.

sayithowitis · 22/03/2009 22:40

Well, this year is the first one where both DS s are in a position to choose and give a gift that they have chosen and paid for from their earnings. I don't care that it's 'ten a penny' or 'tat', it meant the whole world that my teenage sons actually remembered and went to Tesco's or wherever themselves, without nagging from DH, to buy me cards, flowers and choccies.

janeite · 22/03/2009 22:46

Agree with the OP. I 'got' two handmade cards and two kisses from two long legged girls who normally don't 'do' cuddles anymore. That's enough for me!

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SerendipitousHarlot · 22/03/2009 22:52

I'm even more annoyed now I've read some of the other threads! Honest to god, I would NEVER expect anything. Maybe good behaviour!

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