To be ashamed of women who proclaim every thread which touches on the darkest aspects of humanity to be 'distasteful'

[mimimilk]

Because I have been and am still struggling to underdtand this phenomena, which to be honest seems to be a mumsnet 'thing'.

I am an educated prefessional person working in a field where we deal with vulnerable, sometimes abused people frequently, when we discuss the darker sides of our 'civilisation' no one gets accused of being 'distasteful' or similar. I find it BIZARRE!

Is there a sub set of MN ers who are so delicate and easily offended in their sensibilities that we dare not mention such things, which like it or not go on each and every day

have I missed the point and MN is only to think about/talk about easy or re-assuring topics. if so apologies!

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I agree. We can post threads about what we like.

Bet you get told a thread about a thread is wrong too!!

chillax

YANBU.

YABU to start a thread to whine about someone else, though.

Ashamed is a strange word to use.

Irritated, perhaps?

Like what???

Told ya!!!!

Ashamed is the wrong word. My grandparents are the type who never read or listen to the news and tbh it made me at first. But, certainly since becoming a mother, there are some things I just don't want to know about. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. ANd with the Frizel thing, I don't find the thread distasteful, but I sure as hell don't see what good speculating about it is going to do. Nothing to do with being 'delicate'. And I second anyfucker - just chillax

onestone, I posted a thread a bit earlier in AIBU, about a question I have been thinking about quite a bit over the last few days. Within a few minutes another (regular)poster had informed me that It was pointless discussing the topic and was 'distasteful' to do so.

I have noticed it an awful lot over the last few months, especially when people are struggling to understand things like abuse and neglect.

Yes these are awful, sickening things but for gods sakes ladies they are going on all around us, and if the seemingly reasonaably intelligent members of a board like MN get censored then what hope is there?

Maybe its just that in my 'real life' i really do see and deal with this type of thing (albeit not anywhere near as extreme as recent news cases- but believe me not pleasant stuff) and so my 'sensibilities' cannot be easily offended.

Maybe if you have had a nice protected life then you do not have the resilience to think about this stuff.Thats all i can think to explain it.

I am an educated prefessional person working in a field where we deal with vulnerable, sometimes abused people frequently

so am I and to be quite honest I come on here for a break from that, and wouldn't even think of clicking on a thread that involved more of the same....

no ASHAMED is what I really do feel, that and ANGRY. No wonder thew world is in such a shit state, with people getting all upset and offended and putting their damn hands over their ears everytime something comes along to take their minds of their shoipping list/school fees/ ski-ing holiday.

It's front page news!! Of course it's worthy of discussion(fritzl story)there is plenty to say and discuss!
Jade goody has also been front page news, there have been 5 or 6 threads going about her..distasteful?

Babbity I respect that sentiment, sometimes i struggle as well but i would not actually shut someone down by telling them their post was pointless and distasteful.

We have an 'in the news' section........ It's in the news fgs!!!!

Seriously, you are ashamed? Sheesh

Yes littlelamb, surely you can see what i am getting at?

Some of the greatest human tradgedies have involved thousands if not millions of poeple making it their business to NOT KNOW. And to not feel any shame.

Yeah... Ashamed that mumsnet posters aren't capable/interested in the world outside their front doors!

yep, I also work in a field where pain, illness, vulnerabilty and abuse is almost run-of-the-mill

I don't try to force people to confront it

I chose this line of work

Sometimes it gets a bit much to bear

But there is no way I would come onto a social-networking site such as MN to bemoan the state of the world. I come on here for light relief, to talk about kids, about silly things, about fashion, about bumsex

YABU to think that these kinds of things should touch normal people going about their normal daily lives, if we all had to deal with them the whole world would grind to a halt

if you have a problem with your work, see Occy Health or get some counselling

Th ones I find distasteful:

• endlessly maudlin meanderings on McCann/Goody etc
• bumsex

anything else is fair game

Perfectly reasonable to make musings on Fritzel

You did post in AIBU though, so obviously some people thought you were

Anyfucker, since when has mumsnet been exclusively to discuss light relief only? there are boards on here where people are talking about things that are really awful difficult subjects, death, illness, miscarriage etc etc, is that all out of order as well?

If people can't deal/won't deal that is a personal opinion and i respect that, but for heavens sakes don't go so far as to openly critiseise or imply someone else is being distasetful in asking the questions, I mean is that how people respond to the difficult questions their children ask, or do they just pretend these things are so far removed they are virtually fiction?

And I have no 'problem' with my work, over above it being bloody hard work, but that doesn't stop me thinking about the bigger picture, does it? just hide the thread if its that traumatic,

Ok then, to give you the perspective of someone who is one of the ones who would rather not know, and hence you are ashamed of me, let me tell you where I am coming from. I can't speak for the objectors on the original thread obviously. From where I am, I have enough things to deal with, that worry me, that make me anxious. Stuff in my real life, that affect me directly. Stuff like, but not exclusive to, PND and anxiety, the constant worry of soon having to go back to work, how I am going to pay the bills, how to fix the bloody light in the hallway, the list goes on. I think you aren't really being fair here. This is a site for parents. That is generally the one thing that people on here all have in common. It is not I place I come to discuss that kind of thing generally. And yes, I could hide the threads. But I didn't comment on that thread. I am commenting on this one, because I think you're not seeing the real picture. Yes, people bury their heads in the sand about a lot of things. We are not talking about a battered neighbour here, or a child you suspect has been abused- there are plenty of threads where posters have stepped up and given brilliant advice an dimplored others not to ignore these things. Things that immediately concern them. So just as I do not need a blow by blow account of Jade's illness, nor do I need to speculate how one woman could be ignorant of her husband's wrongdoings. It has nothing to do with being ignorant. It has everything to do with having enough problems of my own to deal with and not wanting to rubberneck on other people's misery. So there you have it, if that makes you ashamed of me so be it.