To be ashamed of women who proclaim every thread which touches on the darkest aspects of humanity to be 'distasteful'

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Because I have been and am still struggling to underdtand this phenomena, which to be honest seems to be a mumsnet 'thing'.

I am an educated prefessional person working in a field where we deal with vulnerable, sometimes abused people frequently, when we discuss the darker sides of our 'civilisation' no one gets accused of being 'distasteful' or similar. I find it BIZARRE!

Is there a sub set of MN ers who are so delicate and easily offended in their sensibilities that we dare not mention such things, which like it or not go on each and every day

have I missed the point and MN is only to think about/talk about easy or re-assuring topics. if so apologies!

I agree with Reality, I hate it when people tell other people what they should be posting on.

Still not sure about 'ashamed' though.

hehe, Reality, I was first to mention bumsex on a friday night

"Is there a sub set of MN ers who are so delicate and easily offended in their sensibilities that we dare not mention such things, which like it or not go on each and every day"

no there is no such Subset of MN.

There is however, a subset who feel precious so they self servingly post .

I mean, wtf? You don't like a thread so that instead of letting it die by not bumping it, you whine away.

surely the thing to do is to hide it. not announce that you will hide it and then surreptitiously keep tabs on it to see who will also jump on board to agree with you?

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Littlelamb
I too have problems in my own life, have suffered with depression, been bereaved, dealt with abuse close to home, the list could go on! But still it doesn't make me think or feel that it is wrong or distasteful for others to want to discuss these issues.

That is what i struggle with.

People actually having no opinion of their own (or one that they will share- even if its contrary to my own) but Do feel somehow disgusted or indignant enough that they will tell another poster that its actually distasteful even to ask the quations.

it just makes me despair.

I do dislike online rubbernecking - people wallowing in the horrific details of things like the Fritzl case...it's like misery porn or voyeurism.

We all have the compulsion to do it, but it really can be distateful, because its giving in to some pretty base instincts.

didn't read original thread, but it's all debate isn't it? even if someone does say 'this is tasteless' then you can always argue public interest or somesuch.

But charitygirl, I cannot see how to ask a question 'How can this happen', be rubbernecking.

I have deliberately avoided putting any details, in so far as i understand them anyway, ito my original thread, deliberately to avoid picking over the truly awful misery and horror, but surely it should be ok to ask a question?

oh i think that's ok. It's only when people start linking to/chewing over the details that I get a bit and wonder exactly what people get out of that.

I was being dense and not realising you were referring to a specific thread. If people did have a go at you it may be because threads that start with simple questions often turn into misery porn.